UPDATE ON YOUR IKIGAI!

Why are you here?

Here as in on Planet Earth in physical form in the particular life that is yours. I mean, it may be "hard out here for a pimp," as the song lyric mockingly touts...
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...but it's really hard down here for a soul. Pain and suffering, illness and disease, war, poverty, greed, Donald Trump...
                                      

So, why do we do it? What makes it all worthwhile?

In the American remake of the movie "City Of Angels," Nicolas Cage's character, an angel, asks Dennis Franz' character, an angel who incarnated as a human being, why he did it, didn't he miss being able to hear the sunrise over the ocean the way he could in angelic form? Franz says "Yes, I do miss it sometimes, but... I can do this!" as he strips off his clothes and runs naked into the ocean.

So, it's time for a check-in, an update on your "Ikigai,"the Japanese concept meaning “a reason for being,” or as they think of it on Okinawa, “a reason to get up in the morning.” What does it for you? Love, Eros and Sex? Fine food? Music? Painting? Cooking? Playing tennis? Building a house? Watching the final episode of "Mad Men?" (I'm really glad I was here for that!)

Whatever it is that gets you up in the morning, folks, appreciate it. Remind yourself to indulge whatever your greatest pleasures and preferences are. It's why you're here... and there's nowhere else like here!




Below are two previous posts that ran under the heading on FPL:

"MORE ON: 'BEANS, NAPS, BOOZE, SEX and IKIGAI - ARE YOU IN THE BLUE ZONE? (OH, AND PASS THE BACON!)"

Okay, here's the headline: Susannah Mushatt Jones, World's Oldest Person, Eats Bacon Every Day!

Susannah Mushatt Jones turned 116 over the summer and is the oldest person in the world.

So what's her secret? It just might be plenty of bacon. Jones has bacon, eggs and grits for breakfast every morning.

Along with a daily dose of bacon, Jones spends plenty of time snoozing. Her niece, Lois Judge, told The Huffington Post in June that she sleeps about 10 hours a night and also takes regular naps.

And what about Ikigai? "I surround myself with love and positive energy. That’s the key to long life and happiness."

Jones, who was born in Alabama on July 6, 1899, is one of only two known living people who were alive in the 19th century.



[NOTE: Jones is not alone among centenarians in her love for bacon. Pearl Cantrell, who died in 2013 at the age of 105, enjoyed bacon so much that Oscar Meyer sent one of its Wienermobiles to her home to deliver some. Cantrell: "I love bacon. I eat it everyday."]




Here's the earlier post on longevity and Ikigai -

Saw a very interesting interview the other night on Bill Maher with author, Dan Buettner, who wrote the bestseller, “The Blue Zones.” What are the Blue Zones? They are 5 places in the world – from Okinawa, Japan to Loma Linda, California – where people regularly live to 100 years old. (The other 3 Blue Zones are Sardinia in Italy, Ikaria in Greece, and Nicoya in Costa Rica)

Buettner found that: "Blue Zone centenarians have somehow managed to avoid the chronic diseases – heart disease, cancer, stroke and diabetes – that kill the majority of people in industrialized countries around the world, and especially, in the United States.” 

Buettner sought to discover what the people in these 5 places had in common.

You ready? Here it is – every population group had beans as a regular part of their diet, took daily naps, had 2 or 3 drinks of alcohol per day, walked a lot (but no gym) and had sex at least twice a week!

Beans, naps, booze and sex!

Oh, and one more thing, perhaps the most important – they all had “ikigai,” along with some kind of spiritual practice. What is ikigai? It is a Japanese concept meaning “a reason for being,” or as they think of it on Okinawa, “a reason to get up in the morning.”

"Everyone," according to the Japanese, "has an ikigai. Finding it requires a deep and often lengthy search of self."

In a TED Talk, Dan Buettner referenced ikigai as one of the reasons people in the area had such long lives. This ties in with the entire concept of Full Permission Living, of course, and with many posts on FPL, including the recent quote from Lee Carroll channeling "Kryon," that asks the question: "What did you come here for?"

So, folks, find your ikigai. You have one. You do. And the great secret to finding it through your dedicated self-work is this: as much as possible, do what you feel passionate about doing in every moment.

And don't forget the bourbon and beans!

HOLLYWOOD BIDS FAREWELL TO 3D!

One more day 'till the debacle known as The Academy Awards. Yes! The Oscars! In many ways this year, Hollywood, and the ubiquitous "Academy," are apparently giving the Lifetime Achievement Award to... Hollywood and the ubiquitous Academy! It is like a final tribute to its century-long reign in 3D (as in 3rd Dimensional consciousness) film entertainment. And like everything during this time of consciousness raising, 3D must give way to 5D.

So, how is this honorarium and departure manifesting? Well, in 3 ways, basically - by the depictions in the nominated films themselves, by the #OscarsSoWhite mortification and boycott movement, and by the #HollywoodSoOldWhiteMen movement that's about to get underway.

Starting with the movies...

"The Big Short," "Spotlight," "Room," "Bridge of Spies," "Brooklyn," and "The Revenant" all harken back to recent or not so recent moments in time when the primary themes of 3D life were greed and corruption, sexual abuse and denial, paranoia and xenophobia, prejudice and nativism, survival and revenge.

Ah, you gotta love dualistic, linear, time-limited consciousness!

Then, there's Mad Max and The Martian, set in a future created by the most popular 3D themes of all: fear, fear and more fear! Fear of abandonment, of course, fear of technology, and fear of the ever present imaginings of a dystopian, nuclear war torn, water-deprived doom in the not-too-distant future.

What anticipatory, optimistic fun, eh?! Well, actually, it was for a while, in its way, and I sort of enjoyed most of the films above, but with a sense of relief to be moving on from those old story lines.

Onto #OscarsSoWhite... so much has already been said and written about this embarrassment that all I can add is... Really?!

                                 

That's it? That's all you've got, Academy members?!

Oh well, now, the movement I'm most excited about - the #HollywoodSoOldWhiteMen farewell!

These days, most people in the movie business under 65 years of age are pretty clear that the "Studio System" and the so-called "Golden Age of Hollywood" are defunct, certainly dying if not quite dead.

Old or aging white male moguls, titans and tyrants, who ruled with an iron fist for so long, keeping women, racial minorities, gays, and ironically, people their own age, locked out of positions of power or out of the choicest roles in films, are being challenged by younger, diverse, enlightened minds and rapid advances in technology and social media.

And just as traditional studio filmmaking gave way (somewhat) to independent filmmaking, and Network television gave way to Cable, which is giving way to Netflix, Hulu and AmazonPrime, all of which will give way to home grown, grassroots production companies and collectives very soon, the oligarchy that has been Hollywood is heading for its final moments on stage next Sunday.

More prescient that he may have known, Billy Joel's apocalyptic song from 1976 was our clarion call to "Say good-bye to Hollywood!"






See ya!

Flash! Hot off the press - "Hollywood still 'straight, white, boys’ club', finds major diversity survey!"








WOW! THIS IS A LOVE OF COFFEE!!

Well, I've written a lot on this blog about the benefits of coffee, and clearly I do love the dark brew, but this guy trumps me in his dedication to the roasted bean -
Really!

Read more HERE.


LEFT BEHIND? SORRY, BUT WE'RE ALL GOING!

This is somewhat vintage post (from 2 years ago) that came into my consciousness this morning -

I just saw one of the worst movies of 2014, "Left Behind," based on the first book in the Left Behind series by Tim LaHaye and Jerry Jenkins. The monumentally popular books (at least amongst self-described Christian fundamentalists) are quite loosely based on a fear-based and child-like interpretation of the Book of Revelations in the Bible. Starring a rather ambivalent Nicolas Cage, who wouldn't openly talk about his religious beliefs when interviewed about the movie, and a forlorn Lea Thompson, who seemed sad to have been reduced to the role of a chagrined mother who gets "raptured" early on in the film, Left Behind takes a powerful psychic projection from long ago, linear speaking, about the transition from 3D Earth to 5D Earth, now taking place in our times, and turns it into a proselytizing reward and punishment lesson about believing or not believing in a Jesus who actually never said most of the things devout Christians attribute to him.

Here's a piece I posted on FPL 2 years ago explaining how the Revelations predictions are actually playing out for all of us on 5D Earth.

As I've written on FPL, this current transitional time is a time of "non-optional choice." That might seem like an oxymoron, but let me explain.

The non-optional part is that you must make a choice, now. In other words, this is not a time where remaining in neutral is possible. The status quo must go. The optional part is what choice you make.


As has been written and talked about for a few thousand years, by soothsayers and metaphysically connected individuals, we collectively put in place a decision that in this age, at this time, and specifically centered around the calendar year, 2012, we would shift from 3D consciousness to 4D briefly and then on to 5D (You can read some FPL posts on 4D HERE).


The choices basically come down to this: 

1. You may hunker down, hold on, and dig into 3D ideas and beliefs - like dualism and limitation - which means that your life will be what is referred to in the Book of Revelations as the "Tribulation." In other words, you will continue on in a struggling, battling, crisis-ridden way of life, in which obstacles, barriers and adversaries continue to plague your daily existence.


2. You may simply leave the planet, making your statement that you don't want to make the shift to 5D in physical form just yet, but you don't want to suffer either. As FPL readers may recall, I posted the statistic a few weeks ago that more people died last year in the U.S. than in any year since we've been keeping the statistic. Revelations calls this the "Rapture." Yep. It's definitely one popular route right now, especially with younger souls.


3. You may do the self-work necessary to open your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual channels, embrace change and the unknown and move forward into 4D, then 5D, where you create your reality consciously in accordance with your highest excitement. This is the "Thousand Year Golden Age" described in Revelations.


I mean, this might seem like a no-brainer to you, but that most likely means you're on your way to doing whatever it takes to get on the 5D train. A good number of people right now, I can assure you, are going with options 1 or 2.


This particular moment "in time" represents the opening of a significant window in our continuum, a moment when there is a great deal of energy available to make the transition. But The 2012 Train is heading out of the station, and it will not be as "easy" to catch soon. Can you eventually catch another train? Absolutely. Ultimately, every being must evolve and continue to raise their vibrational frequencies on their way to fully conscious oneness. Everyone "makes it," in other words. But how and when is always up to us. Again, as I've said before, there will eventually be another train of acceleration to get on at some point, and sooner or later, everyone is going to 5D and beyond. But if you're ready, willing and able, now would be a good time to leap!


So, here we go, folks. There's now less than 3 weeks left to 2012, time to make your choice and get on the 5D train... or not. But, as Bashar says, we're pulling out of the station.


All aboard!











HERE is link from a channeled piece by "Bashar" on "The 2012 Train" talking about "leaving the station!"

A CHRISTMAS CAROL 2016!

Jacob Marley to Antonin Scalia on his deathbed?

Marley: "I wear the chain I forged in life! I made it link by link and yard by yard! I girded it of my own free will and by my own free will, I wore it! In life, my spirit never rose beyond the limits of my money-grabbing decisions like your Citizens United ruling! Now I am doomed to wander without rest or peace, incessant torture and remorse!

Scalia: But it was only that you were a good man of business, Jacob!

Marley: BUSINESS?! Mankind was my business! The common welfare was my business; charity, mercy, forbearance, benevolence, were all my business. The dealings of my legal trade were but a drop of water in the comprehensive ocean of my business!

Scalia: Why do you lament?

Jacob Marley: Because I seek to intervene for good in human matters, and have lost my power forever. By the way, you have no idea the length and breadth of the ponderous chain you yourself bear.

Scalia: Oh. Shit.




TODAY'S LOVE QUOTE!

"And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course."
Kahlil Gibran

[FPL Editor's Note: 1. It is more accurate to say that it is Eros whose course cannot be directed; and 2. Love always finds you worthy.]

Happy Valentine's Day!

TODAY'S "BOOK OF MASTERY" QUOTE!

How you decide to be in encounter with any situation will call to you the next series of events that you will learn through. Each time you make a choice to be a certain way, to align to the self in a certain way, you claim the potential of that choice to ricochet and propel you forward. So the choice that is made of how to perceive the self in regard to any situation calls to you how the response is manifested in the physical realm.”
(Paul Selig in "The Book of Mastery")

DO YOU HAVE "RBF SYNDROME?!"

In the past on FPL, I've written about so-called "syndromes" identified over recent years by the so-called "Traditional Medical Establishment" ("TME"). (See "The Medicalization Of Mundane Experience: The 'Syndrome' Syndrome.") My favorite at the time was "RLS" or "Restless Leg Syndrome."

Well, I have a new favorite - "RBF Syndrome" or "Resting Bitch Face Syndrome."

This is from Wikipedia:

"Resting bitch face, or bitchy resting face, is a term for a facial expression (or lack of expression) which unintentionally appears angry, annoyed or irritated. The concept has been studied by psychologists and may have psychological implications on facial biases, gender stereotypes, human judgment, and decision making."

This is from the Urban Dictionary:

"A person, usually a girl, who naturally looks mean when her face is expressionless, without meaning to."

Now, you might think that RBF is just a humorous meme, but think again, because once the TME gets ahold of it... That's right! According to the NY Times: "Plastic surgeons say they are fielding a growing number of requests from those who want to surgically correct their 'permafrowns.”

Folks, you don't have to be an expert in body language to understand the concept of "masks," as described in character analytic and bioenergetic therapies. They are the repetitive attitudes, stereotyped verbal expressions, and rigid physical poses and postures we adopt in childhood in a futile attempt to hide ourselves from ourselves and others. But your grandmother knew that when she told you to stop frowning, lest that expression become permanently stuck on you.

The good news is you don't need surgery; your mask can be removed by you in a thorough holistic therapy that gets to the underlying cause of the deformation. In fact, when the mask comes off in therapy, it is a beautiful sight to behold. Suddenly, the entire person's visage becomes supple and vibrant.

So, while she may have been right in her admonitions, for Grandma's sake, take action and heal your RBF... before the TME comes up with a drug for it!




     


THE JOY OF BEING WRONG!

Many people throughout the years have suggested that I write a book. I've never dismissed the notion, but I haven't yet felt the calling to do so in the way that I have felt called to write on this blog, or to write film and television scripts. Nonetheless, I have thought about it, and often when I do, I think of titles. "Full Permission Living" would, of course, be an obvious one, as might "The Truth About Everything."

One of my long-standing favorites, however, is this one:

"The Joy of Being Wrong!"

Yes. The joy of being wrong is... exactly that. A joy. A joy, PL? Yes, because the "need to be right" rests on so many illusions that are out of alignment with the deeper truths of reality that it can literally become the bane of our existence.

Why?

Well, first of all, because the notion of being "right" is rooted in dualistic consciousness, in the illusion of separateness, rather than oneness. In 3D, that illusion was a mainstay of the game. Good versus evil, right versus wrong, my country, politics or religion versus yours, my needs versus your needs, on and on it goes. As a result, in that game, the best case scenarios involved negotiating and compromising away your needs and desires, and the worst meant regular bouts of conflict, battle, and even war ultimately.

Secondly, being right means someone or something else has to be wrong, and so, differences become points of contention and subject to judgment, rather than opportunities for learning, incorporating and enjoying variety. Differences, in other words, must be corrected, not experienced with curiosity or positive interest, sapping much of the richness of diversity out of life.

Third of all, being right is rooted in the energy of pride, the deadliest of the "Seven Deadly Sins." Pride does indeed come before a fall, as the saying goes. It is a house of cards that many relationships and empires have been built upon and collapsed under the weight of. In the most extreme cases, as in the Psychopathic Character Structure, pride is a matter of life and death, where embarrassment or "losing face" is literally a cause to kill and/or die for.

I regularly would say to the members of my groups and classes in a moment when pride and self-righteousness were flaring up, "You have a choice. You could be right, or you could be happy."

Much more to be said on this subject, but suffice it to say for now, folks, discover the joy of being wrong and heave a great sigh of relief... unless you still would like to enjoy another duel or two.


THE TRUTH ABOUT EVERYTHING, PART SEVEN: THERE IS NO "ORIGINAL SIN!"

As with all the other Truths About Everything, truly understanding the implications of this one changes things significantly. The idea of "original sin" is a novelty concept of the Catholic Church, an organization that also specializes in sinning, though not very originally or coincidentally. It usually follows that the more you seek to suppress something, the more driven you are to act out the very thing you are suppressing. Of course, the belief in some kind of inherent "sinfulness" in human nature is certainly not limited to Catholics.

Even psychology-minded critics of religion like Sigmund Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, believed that human beings were "bad" by nature, that is born with inclinations to be aggressive, competitive and selfish, and that these tendencies would plague us all of our lives. In his book, "Civilization and its Discontents," Freud lays out what he believed to be the unavoidable conflict between our primitive desires and impulses, and the need to behave in a socially conscious and cooperative way for the good of society, a conflict which ultimately leaves us... well... discontented.

The truth is, however, that the Church and Freud are wrong. There I said it. Blasphemy, eh? Okay, so let me qualify a little...

It is true that human children are basically savages for the first 5 years of their little lives. By civilized standards, little kids are greedy, sadistic, violent, narcissistic, impulse ridden, ruthless, and pretty much incapable of true empathy. It isn't until around age 6 or 7, when most children start desiring to have a pet to care for, that kids begin developing some small amount of empathy. However, because little children are... well... little, they can't do a great deal of harm to society, so they are given a fair amount of leeway by adults going about the business of socializing and civilizing the little Neanderthals.

Furthermore, it is certainly true that adult human beings as a whole have a history of violence and destructive acting out on a massive scale. No other species so wantonly attacks and kills their own like we do. And we don't just kill when we feel our survival is threatened. We kill out of pride, lust, envy, over differences in philosophies, spiritual beliefs, sexual orientation and skin color. Whew!

So, didn't I just validate the Church and Freud? Human beings from the get-go seem to be pretty... bad! Yes. But... no. You see, we've have made things a lot worse by believing in our own badness, by even developing such a concept. 

Linear human evolution, as we think of it, began at a very animalistic level, yes, where violence, as such, was for survival purposes as it is with most animals in nature in this particular line of reality. However, homo sapiens became capable of developing intellects and egos, which allowed us to reflect on our behavior, a potentially positive things, but along with the capacity for reflection came capacities for judgment, shame and guilt (specialties of the Church, btw), and along with judgment, shame and guilt came emotional and psychological disturbances and distortions, which caused our personal and social evolution to become somewhat derailed.

Here's famed psychoanalyst, Karen Horney:

"Inherent in man are evolutionary constructive forces, which urge him to realize his given potentialities, that man by his very nature and of his own accord, strives toward self-realization, and that his values evolve from such striving. With such a belief in an autonomous striving toward self-realization, we do not need an inner straight jacket with which to shackle our spontaneity, nor the whip of inner dictates to drive us to perfection. There is no doubt that such disciplinary methods can succeed in suppressing undesirable factors, but there is also no doubt that they are injurious to our growth. We do not need them because we see a better possibility of dealing with destructive forces in ourselves: that of actually outgrowing them. The way toward this goal is an ever increasing awareness and understanding of ourselves. Self-knowledge, then, is not an aim in itself, but a means of liberating the forces of spontaneous growth. In this sense, to work at ourselves becomes not only the prime moral obligation, but at the same time, in a very real sense, the prime moral privilege."

If you're a reader of the FPL blog, you probably seen that quote before because it's one of my favorites. What Horney is saying here is that if the "whip of inner dictates" - i.e. - judgment, shame and guilt - were not in play in our psyches, we would naturally outgrow our primitive impulses. Again, it is our belief in our own badness that causes us to act badly. In other words, our actual original sin is believing in original sin.

Here's a quote from the home page of Full Permission Living:

"Full Permission Living is the based on the understanding that human beings are, by first nature, sane, loving, cooperative, creative, humorous, intelligent, productive and naturally self-regulating. Full Permission Living rests on the foundation of truth that all people are entitled to live pleasure-filled, spontaneous, lives without guilt, shame or oppressive inner rules and prohibitions. Indeed, we are meant to live with full inner permission to follow our natural inner guidance and our inborn pleasure instinct to seek out gratification in all of our actions and endeavors, and that such a way of living always benefits those around us and those that we love."

That last line is important, folks. Contrary to common (erroneous) beliefs, truly living a life of self-centeredness - i.e. - centered in your true self - will always benefit the people in your life energetically as well. That's the harmony of the way higher consciousness works. The belief in competitiveness and scarcity is exactly that - a belief, an idea, perhaps an experiment or game that we have been playing that we are now beginning in earnest to outgrow.

Hey, we've had some great wars, haven't we? Some spectacular thefts, scandalous cheating, innovative brutality, really taken it to the edge, right? It was stimulating for sure, but if you're ready for the next level of excitement - peace, harmony, bliss, expansive creativity without competition, deep love, Eros and sex, vibrant health and abundance... then keep in mind what Karen Horney's "prime moral privilege" is - to work on yourself - and have a blast!  



SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT - THE DOWNSIDE OF SELF-SACRIFICE/THE UPSIDE OF SELFISHNESS!

Here's a quote by George Bernard Shaw:

"Self-sacrifice enables us to sacrifice other people without blushing."

Now, think about that. Very interesting. Pretty radical? Blasphemous, even, especially to all the martyrs of the world. The great Irish playwright is saying in most simple terms that those who sacrifice themselves feel justified in sacrificing others. If this is so, can we not conversely conclude that self-love and healthy self-centeredness must lead us to do what benefits all others, as well?

If you're up for it, below is an extensive excerpt from a Pathwork Guide lecture on the "MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS."

The Guide:

"People very frequently think -- and if they do not do so consciously, they feel it unconsciously -- that whatever brings them happiness must be damaging to someone else. Hence, it is inevitable that your conscience bothers you every time you are happy, whether you were actually selfish or not. This guilt is bound to afflict your inner will for happiness.

Your unconscious concept is that if you enjoy something, your pleasure will automatically be at the expense of somebody else. Since you were taught that it is wrong to be selfish, you feel you must suppress your 'selfish' desire. You fail to distinguish whether your desires are actually selfish or not, and you indiscriminately suppress all desires. In the belief that all desires for happiness are selfish, you do not dare to desire at all. In the process of suppression, unable to distinguish one from the other, you lump together the really selfish with the really healthy desires which have nothing whatever to do with selfishness. Thus, you have no way of sorting them out, of judging, of coming to terms with them. Only then would you be in a position to freely decide for some desires and against some others.

In short, this is the unconscious concept: since desires aim for happiness and wanting happiness is selfish, I must suppress all desires. You do not realize that as they are driven out they continue their existence underground. The really selfish desires in your unconscious make you feel guilty, but so also do the rightful desires. Both continue to claim and clamor inside of you, often without your awareness. On top of all this, the prohibition you inflict on them makes you resentful. You resent the world for not allowing you to be happy, while in reality it is your wrong conclusion about happiness that is the cause. In the process of suppression of all desires and impulses, the childish and therefore actually selfish ones cannot mature and refine themselves. This can happen only if they are faced and dealt with in awareness. As a consequence, your legitimate and healthy desires and impulses, which are not selfish in the least, cannot find fulfillment.

You are all weighed down by the unconscious conclusion that something is selfish merely because it makes you happy. This is very tragic, my friends. It is a needless cost you pay in happiness and joy. You dare not wish for happiness simply because you fail to discriminate between actual and imagined selfishness. Every time a rightful and healthy impulse for self-expression manifests, you feel and think of it as if it were your really immature and crude selfishness.

The question now is how to treat the real selfishness that exists in the immature part of every human being. The usual and wrong way to handle this is to suppress it and superimpose a compulsive unselfishness that is not genuine. Out of the superimposition stems the unconscious concept that it would actually be very pleasant to be allowed to be selfish. This notion gets a foothold within you, and you unconsciously believe that to be selfish would bring you happiness, but alas, you are not allowed to be happy. You wrongly think that should you give in to your desire for happiness, you would not be loved or approved of. Since love and approval are so necessary for you, you would rather forsake 'happiness.' The inner conflict can be stated in this way: 'If I could be selfish, I could do anything I wanted. That would mean happiness. On the other hand, I cannot be happy if I am not loved and approved of. Therefore, I must become unhappy, in order to be happy.' This sounds completely illogical, but the immature unconscious is this illogical and this contradictory. You can now see what utter confusion exists in the human soul. I am sure, you will not have too much trouble confirming similar feelings in yourself. I venture to say that this conflict exists to some extent in all human beings.

This wrong conclusion accounts for the utter hopelessness you so often feel -- a hopelessness that finds an outlet in occasional moods for which you sometimes find outer reasons and rationalizations. This very conflict is the underlying reality of your hopelessness. Were your misconception true, happiness would indeed be an impossibility. You would be justified in being hopeless if you couldn't be happy without being loved, and you cannot be loved when you are happy, for happiness is selfish according to this erroneous concept. There is unhappiness either way. You may fluctuate between the two alternatives, but whichever way you turn you find yourself unhappy and frustrated. You often rebel inwardly and try to force the people around you to break this law, or what seems to you a law. But your conviction that you are in an insoluble situation causes you to try to get out of it in the wrong way. The irony is that you try to come out of it by sometimes actually acting out your most childish and selfish impulses rather than your legitimate and healthy ones. This must offend others and provoke them to react negatively toward you. And this, in turn, convinces you anew that your predicament is indeed hopeless. Since the cause of your rebellion is unconscious, it does not occur to you to choose to act upon your healthy impulses; instead, you pick the most drastic examples for your experiment. The drastic examples are the selfish impulses. Only by a growing awareness and conscious discrimination can you be in a position to make the proper choices and so receive the proof that your conclusion was wrong. It becomes self-evident that this conflict frustrates your inner will and prohibits the deserved fulfillment of your desire.

The idea that selfishness, if allowed, would be a happier state, may be only in your unconscious mind, while consciously you know all the right answers. In that case, questioning yourself in the proper way will bring you closer to the inner contradiction. By going deeply enough, your answers will be less and less convincing, even to yourself. When this happens, you are approaching the afflicted area. Some of you, if you but took the trouble to think about it, might even find a consciously-held belief that you would be happier if you were allowed to be selfish.

Whether this misconception exists in your conscious or in your unconscious mind, how can you be freely unselfish in your actions day in and day out? Not doing the unselfish act makes you feel guilty, doing it seems to be a violation of your will and conviction. It cannot be a free act, independently chosen. Whenever you do something out of compulsion and not because you say yes to it, you cannot be at one with yourself. You must be divided, in conflict, you must lose your inner peace and your sense of rightness. How can you be happy either in doing something that makes you feel guilty, or in doing something that appears to be against your personal interests? Either alternative brings dissatisfaction.

Let us now examine why this concept is wrong. I am addressing that part of your personality where you hold the misconception. First, not everything that makes you happy is automatically selfish and damaging to another merely because it makes you happy. Quite the contrary. As a happy person, you are better able to bring happiness and joy to others. You are entitled to the same consideration for yourself as another person. Only as a free, strong, and happy person can you have fulfillment in life and be constructive in your environment. In order to accomplish this, you have to give yourself consideration, you have to respect your own rights, and they will not conflict with the interests and rights of others. If sometimes it appears that way, ascertain the truth with absolute self-honesty. There are no fixed rules to determine whether actions are right or wrong when they appear to be against the interests of another person. However, it is essential to become completely aware of all your wishes, impulses, and motives. Only in that way can you discriminate and judge which one is selfish and which one is not.

As to the actual selfishness that seems, consciously or unconsciously, so advantageous and desirable: In reality selfishness cannot offer any advantage to you, even if it seems so at the moment. The higher your consciousness is, the more absolute will this conviction be in you. At the moment it may be difficult for you to understand this truth, and then you should just strive toward this fuller vision as a goal. But the true concept cannot become part of you as long as you try to force it upon yourself; as long as you act in the right way because you think you should; as long as the decision is not wholly your own and therefore free. In the meantime, all you can and should do is to be honest with yourself.

When it still seems to you that the selfish act would be more desirable, contemplate the following: An isolated event, with all its causes and effects, will have a different aspect than the same event would in its larger context. In other words, a particular incident may actually seem to warrant the view that selfishness is advantageous. But if you follow through the chain reactions, you are bound to gain a different perspective. The different view will give you the desire and activate the free will to decide for the unselfish act rather than be driven to it as before. This in itself will make a tremendous difference. It will automatically open a new vista, showing you that selfishness is not advantageous, either now or in the long run. It is divorced from reality. As long as you see only the first effects of an action, you do not possess a view of the whole picture. It is only a segment, and the segment cannot convey the whole.

Let us say, you are shown a little stone from a big house. You can tell certain facts by looking at the stone: the quality and material, as well as the color. But you cannot tell what the house looks like from seeing the stone. You can judge neither its beauty, its architecture, nor the proportions and furnishings of the rooms.

It is the same with the inner and outer actions, attitudes, and reactions of the human being. By considering only the immediate effect, you take it upon yourself to pronounce judgment upon the whole picture with only a segment available. You need to extend your view, so that you are in a position to have a truer vision. This does not mean to accept something on faith; nor does it mean that by being good, you will be rewarded in the hereafter. The effect of right action can be seen here and now, while you are still on this earth plane.

When you think or feel that selfishness would be to your advantage, you are leaving out the obvious. You fail to connect cause and effect, and therefore your view is blurred. But you do not need supernatural vision or metaphysical knowledge to put two and two together. You need only to think, reach a little further, and see what is right in front of your eyes.

Let us suppose you have to make a choice between a selfish and an unselfish act. The unselfish act does not seem to bring you benefit, at least not directly. However, if you are objectively convinced that it is beneficial as such, be it for the world at large or for a small group, or for one other person, it is bound to benefit you too in some way, perhaps not always immediately, but often much sooner than you think. This conviction will grow in you. It will become an inner fact, but only if you have made a full and wholehearted decision for the unselfish act. Decide for it only because you are convinced it is right, and not compulsively, because you want to receive a reward, whether in the form of affection, love, approval, or to obligate others, or because you believe that God will reward you for having been a good child. Your action must be self-chosen for its own sake, regardless who seems to benefit from it immediately. When you do so, you will be at one with yourself. This will widen your horizon and raise your consciousness to the necessary maturity. The truth will then dawn on you that selfishness is not advantageous and is definitely not in your interest. Or, to put it differently, unselfishness is healthily "selfish."

I said before that performing an unselfish act for a reward turns the act into a selfish one. However, if you do the right thing in the right and mature way without ulterior motives and out of free choice, you will reap a reward of another sort, namely the good feeling of being at one with yourself, the security that only self-respect can offer. To do something wholeheartedly gives added self-respect that is a decided advantage manifesting in many ways. It will give you, among other things, the strength to overcome many a weakness for which you may despise yourself. It will reduce certain fears and anxieties, especially when dealing with other people. Your fear of others is always based on your feeling weak and inadequate. By coming to terms with your confusions, by making independent decisions for carrying out unselfish acts, thus being at one with yourself, you gain the self-respect which reduces the very inadequacy and self-contempt that make you weak and fearful toward others.

I cannot emphasize strongly enough that it is all-important whether or not you act unselfishly because you truly want to or because you think you have to. As long as the conviction that makes you want to is lacking, you have to continue the work of self-search, of examining your motives and concepts in comparison with objective truth, until you arrive at the point of conviction. Only then are you capable of making a free choice that is not driven by compulsion. This, in turn, will show you that unselfishness is not a yoke that you have to take on against your inner conviction. Instead, you will see without a doubt that unselfishness is really "selfish" in a healthy sense, and that it is to your advantage, provided your motives are right, your decision free, your reactions mature.

This will free you of the misconception that selfishness could make you happy if you were allowed to indulge in it. The other misconception, that happiness is selfish and is therefore forbidden, exists because of this misconception. Because of these wrong conclusions, your inner will cannot function, cannot flow out of you. Each time the desire for happiness manifests, a little inner voice prohibits it so that the inner will is broken. The desire may be reborn on an outer level, but, as I said before, the outer will cannot suffice in bringing you to any goal: it will only tear you apart; it will destroy your inner strength, serenity, and peace.

Try, all of you, to recognize your will; where it comes from, how it feels. If and when you find the inner will blocked, examine where and why you have doubts about the rightfulness of your desire. At times this suspicion may be justified because your desire may actually be harmful to others or to yourself. At times, your desire may be justified, but many unconscious, unhealthy motives may exist together with the healthy ones. At times, a wish may be wholly right and good, but your misconceptions -- about selfishness as well as in other areas -- may prohibit the inner will to function."

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