tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-80088100523107499692024-03-13T09:33:52.254-04:00FULL PERMISSION LIVINGLife, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness through Self-ActualizationPeter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.comBlogger2390125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-22427431955470347642024-03-09T09:18:00.000-05:002024-03-10T20:17:09.138-04:00REMINDER: YOU CAN'T WALK ON HOT COALS BY PASTING ONE BELIEF OVER ANOTHER!<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You see, the difference between really working on, challenging and releasing your inner beliefs and suppressed feelings, and just trying to superimpose new beliefs over other ones is that... you burn your feet!<br /><br />Check out this news item:<br /><br /><i>SAN FRANCISCO -- Fire officials said 21 people at an event hosted by motivational speaker Tony Robbins suffered burns while walking across hot coals and three of the injured were treated at hospitals. The injuries took place during the first day Thursday of a four-day event at the San Jose Convention Center hosted by Robbins called "Unleash the Power Within." Most of those hurt had second and third degree burns, said San Jose Fire Department Capt. Reggie Williams. Walking across hot coals on lanes measuring 10 feet long and heated to between 1,200 to 2,000 degrees provides attendees an opportunity to "understand that there is absolutely nothing you can't overcome," according to the motivational speaker's website.</i><br /><br />Yeah, thanks for the demonstration, Tony! <br /><br />Listen folks, it is certainly possible to uproot and overcome any belief system, including major collective beliefs like gravity, the need to breathe air and the destructive power of fire on human flesh. What is not possible is to do the above by simply wishing you can or believing in a huckster's rantings when you haven't done the self-work necessary to be that transcendent.<br /><br />Careful!<br /><br /><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-5hbUjcoEk5I/UAv9I88m6KI/AAAAAAAAC90/y46Tr3PjgOw/s1600/images-1.jpeg"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-5hbUjcoEk5I/UAv9I88m6KI/AAAAAAAAC90/y46Tr3PjgOw/s1600/images-1.jpeg" /></a><br /><br /><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-VtRYhwm9bN0/UAv9M4yStLI/AAAAAAAAC98/eL2e9ETy3Mc/s1600/images.jpeg"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-VtRYhwm9bN0/UAv9M4yStLI/AAAAAAAAC98/eL2e9ETy3Mc/s1600/images.jpeg" /></a><br /></span>Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-10286820073251313312024-03-06T12:30:00.000-05:002024-03-07T12:00:31.822-05:00REPOST: ADDICTED TO ANXIETY?!This is a subject that is somewhat difficult to grapple with. When I propose to people I see for therapy that their anxiety is something they're attached to - out of familiarity, for the adrenaline rush, as a distraction from other feelings - the usual responses go something like: "But I hate feeling like this!" It's not pleasurable at all!"<br />
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Nonetheless, an addiction to anxiety is very real, and a very real dilemma for a lot of people, just like an addiction to intensity is. (See this very good <a href="http://pathworklectures.com/pathworksearch/lectures/151.htm"><span style="font-weight:bold;">Pathwork Guide Lecture</span> </a>on that subject)<br />
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<a href="http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2011-02-07/are-you-addicted-to-anxiety/?cid=hp:mainpromo7"><span style="font-weight:bold;">Here's</span></a> <a href="http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2011-02-07/are-you-addicted-to-anxiety/?cid=hp:mainpromo7">a link to an article</a> on this very subject by Casey Schwartz, a graduate of Brown University with a Masters Degree in psychodynamic neuroscience from University College London.<br />
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And here's some excerpts:<br />
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"Considering that anxiety makes your palms sweat, your heart race, your stomach turn somersaults, and your brain seize up like a car with a busted transmission, it's no wonder people reach for the Xanax to vanquish it. But in a surprise, researchers who study emotion regulation—how we cope, or fail to cope, with the daily swirl of feelings—are discovering that many anxious people are bound and determined (though not always consciously) to cultivate anxiety. The reason, studies suggest, is that for some people anxiety boosts cognitive performance, while for others it actually feels comforting."<br />
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“Some people get addicted to feeling anxious because that’s the state that they’ve always known. If they feel a sense of calm, they get bored.”<br />
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"Wanting to feel an emotion is not the same thing as enjoying that emotion, points out neuroscientist Kent Berridge of the University of Michigan, who discovered that wanting and liking are mediated by two distinct sets of neurotransmitters."<br />
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Hey, folks, try to relax!<br />
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<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/TVAdDHQv4aI/AAAAAAAACcw/jPlSMsXSyY8/s1600/k0150676.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 113px; height: 170px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/TVAdDHQv4aI/AAAAAAAACcw/jPlSMsXSyY8/s320/k0150676.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5570984678383411618" /></a><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/TVAdcCjjI1I/AAAAAAAACc4/rCAuavOOdSw/s1600/k0533196.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 122px; height: 170px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/TVAdcCjjI1I/AAAAAAAACc4/rCAuavOOdSw/s320/k0533196.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5570985106616820562" /></a>Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-27954456774326968822023-12-30T09:08:00.001-05:002023-12-30T10:11:41.785-05:00MORE ON: "IT'S GETTING BETTER ALL THE TIME!"<div style="caret-color: rgb(29, 33, 41); color: #1d2129; margin-bottom: 6px;"><span style="font-family: arial;">
This passage is from Chapter 19, "It’s Getting Better All The Time," of my book, FULL PERMISSION LIVING: The Journey from 3rd to 5th Dimensional Consciousness - </span></div>
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“You sit on the cusp of major shift; don’t watch your news because it will tell you differently. The news is still stuck in the rut of doom. Just like the films you see. Be prepared for some new script writers, some new films that talk about the magnificence of the society called humanity, writing stories about the shift in ways you’ve never seen. You see, it’s coming. Get ready.” </span></div>
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THIS is from the NY Times 5 years ago:<br />
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<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif" style="color: #121212; font-style: inherit;">"<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2019/01/05/opinion/sunday/2018-progress-poverty-health.html?rref=collection%2Fsectioncollection%2Fopinion&action=click&contentCollection=opinion&region=rank&module=package&version=highlights&contentPlacement=3&pgtype=sectionfront&fbclid=IwAR215hJAL2M8KAM2j7rKiZOfTmmcJniDWihFi8a7UT_PT8bWjmbKlE7ooxU">Why 2018 Was the Best Year in Human History!"</a></span><br />
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THIS is from today's NY Times: <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2023/12/30/opinion/2023-humanity-poverty-growth.html">https://www.nytimes.com/2023/12/30/opinion/2023-humanity-poverty-growth.html</a></span><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-43782452939328994782023-12-23T08:02:00.000-05:002023-12-24T20:29:08.271-05:00LANGUAGE IS STILL NOT OUR FIRST LANGUAGE! (OR LEAVE YOUR PARENTS AND KIDS ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS!)<div>
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This is from The Book of Truth," channeled by Paul Selig:<br />
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"The presupposition that any attunement we give you can be deciphered by you and then explained will leave you witless, because the level of operation that we align you at actually has no language, and our efforts to imprint you with language are succeeding because of the intonation that we incorporate in your field. If you can imagine that the claims you make with us are chords that play, and the intention is set in language so you have a comprehension of what is becoming as you, you will understand this a little better. The amplitude of the frequency that we are working with here is vast and can hold a million and more just in the idea of its potential. In its realization as and through each of you, it holds untold millions."<br />
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Whoa! In other words, language is not our first language. Rather, it is a vehicle for transmitting and exchanging energy, vibrations, intentions.</div>
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This is a repost (below) that I initially wrote for the holidays, but it expresses a message for any time of year.<br />
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LANGUAGE IS NOT OUR FIRST LANGUAGE! (OR LEAVE YOUR PARENTS AND KIDS ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS!)<br />
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Okay, then, the two most guilt-trip-ridden, obligation-driven holidays are over, Christmas, of course, far surpassing Thanksgiving, and any other holiday, not only in guilt, but also in sudden deaths from heart attacks.(For one explanation of why we do this to ourselves, see <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2012/12/dont-let-your-heart-break-on-christmas.html">the FPL piece: "DON'T LET YOUR HEART BREAK ON CHRISTMAS!"</a>)<br />
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Another reason we end up undermined (and <i>overfed </i>) during the holidays, and in general throughout our lives, is that we don't listen to what our relatives and others are saying to us... <i>energetically</i>.<br />
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Mom might say things like: "You never know how long I'm going to be around, so you better come home for the holidays or..."<br />
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Dad might say: "Remember, your family members are the only ones you can ever truly count on being there for you, so..."<br />
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You might say to yourself: "I don't think we got enough presents for the kids. They're going to feel deprived."<br />
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Ready to click on the guilt machine, yet? Well, wait before you do and ask yourself this: How do you feel when someone lays a guilt trip on you? Do you feel an increase in your desire to engage with them, an excitement about visiting them more often, joyful in your gift giving? Of course not, unless you're stuck within the confines of your <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2009/06/masochistic-character-structure.html">masochistic character structure</a>, and love feeling guilty and anxious.<br />
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No. In truth, when someone guilt-trips you, you feel repelled by their attempts to manipulate you, don't you? And the idea of seeing them becomes less joyful and more burdensome. Yet, <i>over the river and through the woods to Grandmother's house you go</i>, and on into debt from breaking the bank on Amazon Prime (Don't you love that same day delivery?!).<br />
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Well, guess what? Your feelings of repulsion are not a measure of your "selfishness," but rather an accurate energetic/emotional response to the true message that the guilt-tripper is sending to you energetically, a message that you're ignoring because you're paying more attention to the words than the energy. That's right, when Mom threatens you with her pending death, or Dad threatens you with your pending abandonment, they are actually saying "<i>Don't</i> come home for the holidays. Stay away. Go. Do your own thing. Live your life. We spent two decades taking care of you. Now, we don't want to cook or put up a tree. We want to go on a cruise for the holidays. Alone. Leave the nest already!"<br />
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And when you're dumping tons of toys on your kids and you notice that they get increasingly agitated as the present opening goes on and on, it's because energetically, without words, you are saying to them: "Aren't I a good dad? Don't you love Mommy? Won't you always appreciate me? A lot?!" In other words, you're telling your kids: "Giving you all these gifts is a real hassle and expense, and I wish I didn't have to do it to earn your love!"<br />
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So, here's the news - You don't! <br />
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First of all, <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2012/07/the-truth-about-everything-part-two-all.html">"All Love Is Unconditional,"</a> so you can't earn more. (See FPL"S <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2012/07/the-truth-about-everything-part-two-all.html">Truth About Everything: Part TWO</a>) And like all animals and all other living beings, a human being's first language is <i>energy</i>. Not English, Spanish, Arabic, etc. Our first language, and the way we truly communicate to each other, first and foremost, is with vibrations of energy. "Vibes." But unlike animals, human beings have egos and intellects that can override our nature and inherent energy sensors when engaging with others. As a result, through spoken language, we communicate superficially from beliefs and social conditioning that are very often at odds with how we really feel, and therefore, against our well-being and the greater good of others.<br />
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So, folks, don't go home for the holidays or spend your hard-earned money on light sabers or selfie sticks. Have some Johnny Walker Gold Reserve by the fire with your lover, let your kids actually have the time and space to play with one or two thoughtful presents, and leave your parents alone!<br />
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Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-42359309783525700422023-12-20T09:25:00.000-05:002023-12-30T10:02:13.423-05:00FALSE CLARITY TO GENUINE CONFUSION TO GENUINE CLARITYHave you noticed that some people can seem very sure of themselves even though they are predominantly living in a state of unreality in many areas, while some people seem to judge themselves for feeling confused about things, when in fact they are much closer to the truth than the falsely confident are. One cannot skip steps to arrive at genuine clarity, and one cannot get there simply by acting sure of oneself.<br />
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One way that I’ve conceptualized the process of personal evolution has been as a kind of three-part journey from <b>false clarity to genuine confusion to genuine clarity.</b> <br />
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Initially, when someone first arrives to a place where they're ready to take the step of engaging in a full-spectrum self-work process, they are in a state that I’ve found myself thinking of as "<b>false clarity</b>." This is a frame of mind in which one’s personal belief systems are so firmly in place and embedded so far down in the subconscious mind that the person feels certain of their validity, rarely questioning them. From this place, people will frequently start sentences out with "I believe…" <br />
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"I believe that I can't only get what I want through the manipulation of myself and others."<br />
"I believe that if I am honest and assert myself directly, no one will like me." <br />
"I believe that if I acted strictly according to my desires, I’d be out of control." <br />
"I believe it’s impossible for Eros and passion to last in a relationship." <br />
"I believe that if I want something done right, I have to do it myself, because no one will ever be there for me." <br />
"I believe that to truly give to others means to sacrifice something of what I want." <br />
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And so on…ad infinitum. There are many, many such axioms or beliefs with variations and derivatives aplenty. (In my class on beliefs, and in each of the character structure classes, I present a more extensive list of some of the more common beliefs that we run our lives by.) <br />
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Since these beliefs are not doubted for the most part, the person initially coming for therapy is seeking ways to better cope with what are accepted as the harsh “realities" of their life. Much energy has been invested in trying to find better and better ways of manipulating the self and other people to "get what I want". To that end, a person will develop what some theorists have referred to as "masks" ("personas", according to Carl Jung), or false selves, constructed to present to the world in order to gain sought after praise, recognition, validation or other substitutes for what they truly need: unconditional self-love. Indeed, many come to therapy looking to polish up their masks so they might "work better", and are surprised to find out that a key part of the actual self work is, in fact, to expose and "take off" the masks.<br />
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One of the first endeavors in a person’s unfolding process, then, is to begin uncovering the embedded beliefs behind the masks, and challenging their validity, thereby confronting the false clarity they offer as a substitute for real knowingness and security. It is not easy. Indeed, if you believe something so thoroughly, you will invite, create or only be able to see that very thing in your life most of the time, so its reality will seem absolute. And, if you have been so invested for so long in a particular method of trying to attain a modicum of happiness, you will not readily forgo it. To face that a strategy that you have been devoting much of your life force to is actually faulty is a heartbreaking proposition. <br />
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Let’s consider a common scenario. A person may come to therapy because they have had a series of love relationships in which they’ve found themselves feeling emotionally deprived. In spite of tireless efforts to be agreeable, accommodating and self-sacrificing, they were just "not getting enough" - attention, sex, support, appreciation or affection from their partner. This person feels so defeated and frustrated because while they believe that there really isn’t enough love in the world to go around, they are sure that the way to get what is available is by being…agreeable, accommodating and self-sacrificing! What they are in denial of is the fact that their accommodating, etc., behavior is part of a mask, attempting to hide a very demanding and childish attitude towards their loved one based on a buried belief in deprivation. The partner being bombarded with these masked demands will often withdraw and indeed be less inclined to "give" affection, etc. This then seems to validate the underlying belief that "there is not enough." So therefore, one must manipulate even more, all the while building up a stockpile of resentment. On and on, in a self-fulfilling, vicious cycle that Eva Broch referred to in one of her Pathwork Guide Lectures as a "circular trap." The failure of the manipulations to get more of what is wanted is often what brings the person to therapy, seeking to find out what they’re doing "wrong", why the mask they’re sure is based in reality is not having its designed effect. <br />
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This is life in a state of false clarity. Sure you’re right, sure you know how life works, but inexplicably unhappy, which, if the beliefs are seen as clearly right, can only lead the person to the conclusion that they are "failing" - meaning manipulating inadequately.<br />
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So, where can one go from there, from this place where the self is so rigidly defined according to firmly held beliefs that only lead to frustration and a sense of inadequacy? When blocked feelings are released through an integrated mind-body-spirit psychotherapy, the embedded beliefs start appearing in higher relief. This is because the beliefs were previously being used to justify keeping emotions trapped in the body. As the emotional channels are opened, the old beliefs become subject to challenge and dismantling. People find themselves at that point without the familiar, stereotypical ways of viewing the world, themselves and others. They feel somewhat lost at first, anxiously free-floating for a while and they will experience a shift in their "I am" completion to the more immediate feeling expressions. "I am…feeling lost now. I don’t know how to act. What can I count on? Where can I find security?" Meaning, without the illusions created by projecting static images into the future, what can they count on for predictability? Again, the reason they are in therapy in the first place is because they realize that their lives have never successfully followed their projections anyway, and the fulfillment promised by the illusions always seemed to remain unattainable or just out of reach. Now, they are starting to realize that they didn’t know what they thought they knew. Now, they are in a state of "<b>genuine confusion!</b>" At this moment, I usually congratulate patients! It is here, at the "I don’t know who I am" place, that true wisdom begins.<br />
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What keeps people going at this stage, fortunately, is that despite the confusion, they feel better, and often, in spite of an apparent lack of direction, their outer lives frequently are improving. For one person, it may be physical health that improves, for another financial abundance arrives, or work-life becomes more creative. For still others, they break through a relationship barrier. Yet, for all, it is really the new inner feeling of self-possession and inner connectedness that provides motivation. <br />
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At this stage of the process, the person in the above example has uncovered a belief in deprivation and scarcity of love that’s been embedded in the subconscious mind since very early in childhood, based on a less-than-fully-gratifying relationship with a parent. The feelings stored in the body since that time, the hurt and rage, have also now been energized through the therapy and partially released at this stage as well. The origins of the person’s masks are getting uncovered and seen as primitive attempts by the child to "get more" from a parent - with poor results, of course. It is now becoming understood that the world of love has been viewed through this tainted lens for the last two, three, four or more decades, since infancy usually. It is experienced as a revelation to consider that one could be fully gratified in an adult relationship, could give and receive all of the love that one is capable of without having to do anything to "get it". It is also startling to realize that one has discounted or ignored the possibilities for greater love because to see that would have run counter to the "absolutely certain" beliefs that they were holding onto. This is a point at which the resistance to being "wrong" about one’s strategy for living gets confronted. It is painful. One is faced with the fact that all of the feelings of failure and frustration, and of course, self-hate, were not based on reality at all, but on an erroneous conclusion about life which originated in early childhood. Great courage is required by the person to forge on here. <br />
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If one does indeed forge ahead, what is the next step on the journey?<br />
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When the deep primal feelings have been to a great extent released, and the core negative beliefs very much unveiled, the person comes to a new place of overall inner security and openness that provides both confidence to trust what one knows in the moment, and simultaneously, flexibility to re-evaluate one’s "knowledge" and change when called to do so. This is "<b>genuine clarity</b>." <br />
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The person knows how they feel in the moment, and is aware of their immediate inner thought processes as well. Judgmental attitudes about emotions and the contents of one’s mind are not held onto. A person at this stage follows their instincts in major decisions without a lot of second-guessing or rigidly gripping to projections and anticipated outcomes. When one is in a state of genuine clarity, the truth of matters is no longer mainly sought through deductive reasoning, but rather through inner resonance with the truth, and actions are decided upon by trusting "gut feelings." The person at this stage knows that whatever transpires, they will be open and flexible enough to creatively move with the events. Mistakes and temporary obstacles are accepted as information, not measured against images of perfection or rigid beliefs about success or failure. One can experience the "joy of being wrong" in this state, that is the freedom from needing to come up with the "right" strategies, free from worrying about "blowing it" when making decisions, etc. <br />
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In our example, the person who once believed in deprivation now knows through experience that life is abundant with opportunities to exchange love and pleasure with another and that the only "efforts" one must make to that end are to keep the emotional channels in oneself clear. Gratifying experiences have begun to come to this person, now in genuine clarity, without manipulation, indeed, without even "wanting" them in the old way at all. "Good things" seem to just arrive as a by-product of being more genuinely oneself. The person understands, too, that we all act like magnets for experiences in life, and that we will attract whatever we are "charged up" with. If it is joy and love that we are energized with, we will attract joy and love. If it is hostility, likewise that is what we will attract. So, unpleasurable events are dealt with by going within to examine one’s inner state. The person is also clear now that one’s attitude towards oneself is one’s attitude toward others. (I believe that a common misunderstanding of "Love thy neighbor as thyself" is corrected intuitively by the person in this place. Most people think this expression means you should love your neighbor as much as you love yourself, as if it were a rule for behavior. In fact, I believe it means that you will love your neighbor to the degree that you love yourself.)<br />
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The person who has achieved genuine clarity will also feel it in their body when they are in truth. No other "proof" will be needed to determine the "rightness" for them of courses of action. This person will explain, "I have to do this or that because it just feels right." They will also say about their actions, "To do otherwise would be not being my-self."Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-47587196299974359992023-11-23T03:30:00.000-05:002023-11-23T11:25:25.359-05:00GIVE THANKS! THE RIVER IS TAKING YOU WHETHER YOU KNOW IT OR NOT!<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">I have spoken often about the concept of free will, and as in the "Serenity Prayer," what it actually means in the larger scheme of things, where it applies and where it doesn't. I've used the analogy of human beings as swimmers in a powerful river, said river being our Higher Self will, our destiny. One can exercise free will as a human being by swimming against the current, struggling, fighting, ultimately exhausting oneself, or one can turn around, and go with the flow, having a much smoother and faster time time of it on this trip called physical life.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">The key point I've made, however, is that someone on the bank of the river would see that whether you're swimming against the current or going with the flow, either way, you're being taken downstream to your destination, which is self-actualization and awakening to the truth of your oneness with All That Is.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">We are almost home, folks, almost at our destination, which is to wake up and remember who we are as conscious creators of our reality. We are coming to understand that the conflicts and limitations we've experienced for seemingly so long were just part of a mega-game we created. But now, arriving back home (And it's not necessary anymore to leave physical life to get there.), we can enjoy being human beings in the fullest, most ecstatic ways. That's why we came here in the first place.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Here's an eloquent description of the moment from "Oneness":</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i>“<span style="color: #262626;">There would be no exultation in the discovery of the first
tastes of limitlessness, were that experience not preceded by massive doses of
the experience of limitation. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #262626;">The journey was designed, by you, to deliver you back to the beginning, but not
before you were given every opportunity to experience fully what it was like to
have ventured far from home. You embarked on this adventure fully confident
that the signposts and maps would be there, at the appropriate moment, to
enable you to return safely. For, you placed them there yourself, to await your
own rediscovery, after an appropriate amount of time was provided for you to
forget, totally, where they were hiding. Since this is your game, you
structured it to be challenging and exciting, yet built in safeguards that
would insure your safe return. At the deepest level, you know that there is no
way you can fail at this. You will not be stranded for all eternity in the illusion
of separation because you did not 'get it.' You have seen to that. You have
simply programmed sufficient detours and side trips into the itinerary to
insure the greatest possible sense of gratification in discovering that you
are, at last, heading home. You are heading home whether you consciously
subscribe to such ideas in the present time period or not. For the energy that
propels you in that direction does not emanate from the limited perspective of
your conscious physical identity, but rather, is being directed from a place of
greater awareness that knows, like a loving parent, that you have been ‘out
there’ long enough.”</span></i></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #262626;">Here's the Serenity Prayer with some revisions I've made for my meditation purposes. See if you can spot the changes and why I made them:</span></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #262626;">"</span>God grants me the serenity to accept the things that my ego
and lower self will cannot change; </i></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i>God grants me the courage and mindful intention and Higher
Self Will to change the things I can; </i></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i>God grants me the Wisdom in my knowing of myself
as Word to know the difference."</i></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">HAPPY THANKSGIVING!</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><br /></span>Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-74619033895001709312023-08-30T10:03:00.001-04:002023-08-31T12:19:01.142-04:00IT'S THE END OF THE WORLD AS WE KNOW IT!<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">And you're gonna feel fine!<br /><br /> Biblical aficionados might hear those lyrics from the 1987 hit song by R.E.M. as an anthem celebrating the Apocalypse. They might even relish the expectation of being “raptured” up to Heaven at the moment that the End Times come. They might see physical life mainly as a proving ground where one struggles with relationship, money and health issues in an ongoing battle between greed and deprivation, good and evil, righteousness and debauchery, and only holding onto a hope that there is an afterlife reward waiting for those who profess the correct beliefs when the “end of the world” arrives offers the promise of relief. <br /><br />In addition to prophesies contained in the Book of Revelations almost 2 millennia ago, those revealed by Nostradamus in the 16th Century and Edgar Cayce in the 20th Century, along with many lesser known prophets along the way right up until the present, all seem to likewise point to this moment in history as the tipping point of humanity’s existence on Earth. Even the Mayan calendar, which doesn’t go past our era, is interpreted as a foreshadowing of the end of days for us all. <br /><br />Be afraid. Be very afraid.<br /><br />Or not. <br /><br />What if what was being presaged by these soothsayers was something else? Not the existential end of humanity as a race, but rather the end of how we’ve known existence, reality, and ourselves for centuries upon centuries of linear time? What if what we’re in the process of discovering about it all is going to leave us feeling not just fine, but truly rapturous?! What if we are in the midst not of a cataclysmic debacle, but rather a great transformation, one so profoundly positive that all that has come before, all that has been familiar, “the world as we know it,” will be gladly let go of?<br /><br />Have you noticed that everything old is "dying?" Old not as in old age or chronology, but old as in energy, the energy of 3D limited, dualistic, linear consciousness? Don't let the Republican National Convention madness and the rise of Donald Trump fool you. What you are witnessing there, presumably from a safe distance if you're reading this blog, is the old paradigm of 3D limitation in its death throes. Thus the maniacal and futile kicking and screaming in Cleveland and on FOX News.<br /><br /> In fact, what is happening is that we are approaching the final year - 2017 - of a transition that began with the wave of shifts arriving on 12/12/12, and is accelerating at a greater and greater rate right now toward a future that is going to be startling in its awesomeness! <br /><br /> In 3D, it was all about survival. No more. New quantum tools are becoming available, our DNA is literally being restructured (see the work of <a href="http://www.drjoedispenza.com/">neuroscientist, Dr. Joe </a><span style="color: #0000ee;"><u>Dispensa</u></span>), and as a result, said DNA will be working more efficiently in tandem with consciousness. This alliance will lead to more commonplace spontaneous healings, and ultimately the disappearance of illness and disease altogether. <br /><br /> We will experience the end of karma in the days ahead, no longer needing to "work things through" from the past (Which prompted me a while ago to write the post below: "THE END OF THERAPY AS WE KNEW IT!"), and we will discover that our own personal "akashic records" are not a library of who we've been, but rather a pool of energy that combines all of our lifetimes into a well of wisdom and knowledge that we will be able to draw upon at will. I</span><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">ntuition and "planned synchronicity" will replace intellect and logic as our guiding principles. Merely b</span><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">y paying attention to synchronicities, we will be able to invoke them more readily. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">So, strap in, folks - we're headed towards becoming a planet of light!</span><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">"</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><br /> This is from a post entitled, <a href="http://higherfrequencies.net/change-can-be-effortless/">"CHANGE CAN BE EFFORTLESS,"</a> on the <a href="http://higherfrequencies.net/change-can-be-effortless/">Higher Frequencies</a> website of <a href="http://higherfrequencies.net/change-can-be-effortless/">Wendy Kennedy</a>:<br /><br />"Many of you currently repeat to yourselves, 'I can’t. No matter what I do, things never change. I don’t know how. I know these higher spiritual concepts, but it’s hard for me!' Well, the truth of it is that it can be easy. It can be effortless, but you cling to the old stories of self. Sometimes out of the fear of safety and self preservation. Sometimes out of acceptance or rather the fear of not being accepted. Sometimes you cling to the old so you may maintain the illusion of control. The universe is like a vast and flowing river. You have the choice to effortlessly flow with it or frantically try to cling to the shore.<br /><br />This is from the recent FPL post entitled, <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2014/11/give-thanks-river-is-taking-you-wheter.html">"GIVE THANKS! THE RIVER IS TAKING YOU, WHETHER YOU KNOW IT OR NOT!"</a>:<br /><br />"One can exercise free will as a human being by swimming against the current, struggling, fighting, ultimately exhausting oneself, or one can turn around, and go with the flow, having a much smoother and faster time of it on this trip called physical life... The key point I've made, however, is that someone on the bank of the river would see that whether you're swimming against the current or going with the flow, either way, you're being taken downstream to your destination, which is self-actualization and awakening to the truth of your oneness with All That Is."<br /><br />Well, there's a really revolutionary aspect to this, now, folks. Right now, right here, in this home stretch in the run-up to 5D, the river is roaring! The power of the current, the literal energetic rapids thrusting us forward into full 5th Dimensional consciousness, is rapidly altering the process... of process!<br /><br />Here's more from the Higher Frequencies piece:<br /><br />"It is not for you to have to mentally solve every single 'issue' you have but rather for you to more consciously and consistently align your vibration. For in truth, no issue is ever solved at the level of the ego, a.k.a the operating system of the mind. Integration happens from the higher level of consciousness or the operating system of the heart. Because of your engrained belief that the ego is in control, most of you will not fully release a lower thought or emotion until you are capable of mentally perceiving it. As you align your beliefs with the awareness that you are a Divine Being of Light having a physical experience, the conscious awareness of a subconscious belief is no longer required. It is simply a matter of maintenance of vibrational alignment. In truth this awareness never was, but as you identified with your egoic self you added a step in the integration process that said, 'I must figure this out.”<br /><br />Whoa! Now, I've been a therapist in a variety of modalities for over 30 years, and consider myself to be operating pretty far out of any traditional box. But no matter what the approach I employed or experimented with, one thing I always accepted as truth was that the "the conscious awareness of a subconscious belief" absolutely was a requirement for self-actualization.<br /><br />But I have to admit, I have found myself more and more, especially over the last few years, skipping steps. And it's not because I've become jaded or lazy, but because I have to keep up with my patients who are moving through their evolution at warp speed! The younger ones especially are doing in 2 years or less what took us <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2014/02/its-2014-which-wave-are-you.html">First Wavers</a> 10 to 20 years! (Take heart, though, 50-somethings, you're moving at warp speed, too, now. You did the job you signed up for, cutting a swath through the jungles of 3D for the <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2014/02/its-2014-which-wave-are-you.html">First Wave</a>rs, the under-30-somethings, and now you're serving the coffee to them as they wake up. Many thanks... to us!)<br /><br />More on Effortless Change:<br /><br />"What is the frequency you would like to experience? Joy, gratitude, infinite abundance, connection, acceptance, ease, grace, peace? When you work with the ego, you tend to think about creating a specific form to experience one of those frequencies and usually only in one area of your life. One of the benefits of working [directly] with frequency rather than focusing on form is that the universe assists you in receiving the frequency in multiple forms and typically by expeditious means. Too much of your energy is focused on the masculine 'doing' state and not enough on the feminine 'being' state. I will be _____ when I _____. I will BE something after I DO something else. In higher dimensional existence where there is no time, both [what you desire and what manifests in your life] are simultaneous expressions."<br /><br />And a bit more:<br /><br />"As it has been more socially acceptable to be mental rather than emotional, some of you may find this a bit challenging. But as we said, you do know at the subconscious level exactly what the frequency [of joy, gratitude, abundance...] is. It may simply take some practice to identify what that actually feels like in the body. For others, you believe accessing these frequencies will be too painful so you refuse to allow yourselves to open. In your past you have experienced strong negative emotions and as a result have closed down access to all emotion. Your belief is that if you start to feel you will unearth all the pain that has been suppressed. Sometimes you may momentarily experience those frequencies, but it is the pathway to integration and the release of pain. Pain is perception, and you may choose to experience it for thirty seconds or thirty years<a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2014/11/need-to-light-fire-under-yourself.html"> [Or 38 years!]</a>. It is up to you. If you choose to perceive an experience through the lens of victim/perpetrator then you will experience pain. If you choose to perceive it through that of co-creator, you are able to release any pain and observe the experience from a neutral space."<br /><br />Okay, so practically speaking, what does this mean in terms of self-work? It means that the proportion of time spent excavating the past from our memory banks and bodies needs to be matched and ultimately surpassed by the time spent practicing, through meditation and focused intention, giving ourselves access to our Higher Selves and Universal consciousness. It means being willing to change, to give up our previous sense of self, our identities, our attachments to linear time and physical limitation, to conflict and obstacles, etc., and leaping into the greater, vast unknown where everything is possible and manifestation is instant.<br /><br />Are you ready?! If you think not, remember, you're going anyway, so you can only choose to make it more difficult. <br /><br />If you think you are ready, then remember the Zen proverb:<br /><br />"You should meditate 20 minutes every day, unless you are too busy, in which case, you should meditate an hour each day."<br /><br /><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-oTvW-JYgB-U/VH3gA2udAUI/AAAAAAAADwk/NvfvVa4psZs/s1600/images-1.jpeg"><img border="0" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-oTvW-JYgB-U/VH3gA2udAUI/AAAAAAAADwk/NvfvVa4psZs/s1600/images-1.jpeg" /></a><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-O50qzGRCFx4/VH3gGK4kOjI/AAAAAAAADws/VmW_CnBLG_Y/s1600/images.jpeg"><img border="0" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-O50qzGRCFx4/VH3gGK4kOjI/AAAAAAAADws/VmW_CnBLG_Y/s1600/images.jpeg" /></a></span></div>
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Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-88797023348237661882023-07-03T08:00:00.000-04:002023-07-04T08:13:43.784-04:00REPOST: "THIS INDEPENDENCE DAY, CELEBRATE FREEDOM FROM ILLUSION!"<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">The <a href="http://www.ushistory.org/declaration/document/index.htm">Declaration of Independence</a>, even given the 3D limitations of the men who wrote and signed it, was a great document. I use phrases from it in my book, "FULL PERMISSION LIVING: The Journey from 3rd to 5th Dimensional Consciousness," and in my blog's tag line, albeit with my own added twist: "Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness... <i>through Self-Actualization!"</i> embellished further with a 5th Dimensional twist: "We hold these truths to be self-evident... <i>that we create our own reality, we are all one and love is the essence of All That Is!"</i></span><br />
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<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"><br /></span><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">How about celebrating <span style="font-style: italic;">independence</span> on Independence Day, and, you know, "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness?" We aren't a colony of Great Britain's anymore, or of any other country for that matter, so what do we actually need to become independent of in present time? </span><br />
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<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">Everything we suffer from is the result of an illusion. Money problems, relationship issues, a less than vibrant sex-life, the stifled expression of creativity... all are a function of holding onto to that which isn't rooted in reality. Quite frankly, <span style="font-style: italic;">it's crazy!</span></span><br />
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<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">The laws of reality are so simple, so straightforward, so all-encompassing, you'd think everyone would be living accordingly. Soon, we will be. But it hasn't always been so. You see, on the old 3D version of planet earth, we were experimenting with letting our egos rule our experience of reality. Yes, our egos, that little part of our mind was only supposed to be a temporary stand-in for a brief time in early childhood, when fantasy was a way of adapting to untenable situations, until our Higher Self mind could be integrated and grounded into our personalities and lead the way out of the wilderness of childhood. But then, out of fear, confusion, laziness, we allowed our egos to stay in charge and become the ongoing dictators of our paths. Well, then, the lives that so many were leading were perfect examples of what the ego at its best could create - limitation, drama and fear.</span><br />
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<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">On this Independence Day, then, why not celebrate your independence from illusion and wake up to the freedom of living in reality. It's not just about flags or fireworks or hot dogs (although Wes' "adult hot dogs" at the Seaview Market are something to celebrate!). It's about freedom.</span><br />
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<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">Self-Evident Truths.</span>Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-54980367303098523902023-05-15T02:00:00.000-04:002023-05-15T08:17:24.253-04:00GET RID OF YOUR STUFF... QUICK!Okay, here's a bit of sock-'em-in-the-gut news that came in on the psychic airwaves during a very powerful channeling session.<br />
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You have read on this blog many times that you create your own reality. Some may still not understand that this statement is meant literally, not figuratively, but even physicists these days can readily tell you that it is consciousness that directs the energy which gives form to matter. (For an even more "scientific" understanding of this process read Jane Roberts channeling "Seth" in the mind-expanding book, "The Nature of Personal Reality").<br />
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Furthermore, said reality is not created in a static way, like "There, I created a chair and it's done." No. That chair is being created <i>continuously</i> by you, as long as you choose to experience having it. In other words, all that surrounds you is being created by you <i>constantly</i>, moment to infinitesimal moment, to the degree that you are aware of "having" your creations around you. And guess what?<br />
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And plenty of it. Yep. So, here's the shocker delivered yesterday about you and your stuff - Get ready hoarders! - When you wake up in the morning, the first thing you do, before the bathroom, before coffee, every morning, is recreate<i> all your stuff!</i><br />
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That's right. All that you're used to having around you, all that you expect to be there, has to be created as soon as you awaken from your vacation in the spirit world known as sleep. And that is another reason why you're so exhausted. Those clothes you never wear, but keep in your closet just in case, the books and magazines you never read, but think you might one day, old tacky jewelry, trinkets and trash alike, all of it. Even that chair you never sit in. All of it has to be created by your consciousness... until you decide, literally, to let go of it. That's one of the reasons vacations are so relaxing, because we go to a new environment and leave most of our <i>stuff</i> behind, so our consciousness can be freer to experience the now without the clutter.<br />
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So, look around you, folks. Everything you see is the result of an expenditure of your creative energy. If you're too tired to finish that screenplay, or to start that book, or to try that new recipe, or to just create more abundance or love in your life, maybe there's some old shoes you can give away.<br />
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Go <b><a href="https://soundcloud.com/fpliving/things-dont-work-mp3">HERE</a></b> to hear <a href="https://soundcloud.com/fpliving/things-dont-work-mp3">the oldie but goodie by Loffredo/Saperstein on this subject</a>.<br />
<br />Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-72516899920078739952023-05-12T02:30:00.000-04:002023-05-12T09:19:31.587-04:00REPOST: "I AM HE AS YOU ARE HE AS YOU ARE ME AND WE ARE ALL TOGETHER!" (On "HO'OPONOPONO")Okay, folks, this is top shelf stuff, bottom line, how it really works, whether you're conscious of it or not, whether you agree with it or not, whether you like it or not! If we could really nail this, really know this consciously, and utilize it, well... we'd be living in alignment with 5D consciousness.<br />
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This article is from the book, "<span style="font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://www.mrfire.com/zero/">Zero Limits</a>,</span>" by Dr. Joe Vitale.<br />
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<a href="https://www.blogger.com/www.mrfire.com"><span style="font-weight: bold;">The World's Most Unusual Therapist</span></a><br />
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Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.<br />
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When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane?<br />
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It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.<br />
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However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called <a href="http://www.hooponoponohelp.com/"><span style="font-weight: bold;">ho 'oponopono</span></a>. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more.<br />
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I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does. The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility.<br />
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His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.<br />
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Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.<br />
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After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely. Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.<br />
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Not only that, but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.<br />
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This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: "What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?"<br />
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"<span style="font-weight: bold;">I was simply healing the part of me that created them</span>," he said.<br />
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Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life - simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.<br />
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Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: <span style="font-weight: bold;">if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life</span>.<br />
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This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy--anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.<br />
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I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho 'oponopono means loving yourself. If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone--even a mentally ill criminal--you do it by healing you.<br />
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I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?<br />
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Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, your improve your world. Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message. This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, "I'm sorry" and "I love you," I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.<br />
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Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying "I love you," I somehow healed within me what was creating him.<br />
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I later attended a ho 'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive. He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.<br />
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"What about the books that are already sold and out there?" I asked.<br />
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"They aren't out there," he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. "They are still in you."<br />
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It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves. Suffice it to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you.<br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><br />Of course, if we're talking about reincarnating in the same lifetime, we're already taking it for granted that reincarnation in the "usual" way, by dying and coming back into physical form through birth again, is a given. For clarity's sake, let's also accept that the purpose of reincarnation is to sort of reset the soul's journey through the venue of physical existence in a time continuum in order to accomplish a particular task by living a life, then dying, then being born again. <br /><br />Make no mistake, the process of "regular" reincarnation is no day at the beach. Dying, but even moreso being born can be a real drag! Why? Because no matter what level of development you were at when you died, you still have to be reborn in physical existence as a helpless baby, in a state of complete ignorance, with amnesia about all that came before. And if it's not bad enough that you can't remember all the work you did in other lifetimes, even worse is the reality that you have to have parents again! Noooo!!!<br /><br />On the other hand, reincarnating in the same lifetime is also quite a challenge. To accomplish it, you must do whatever it takes in terms of self-work to fulfill what you came here to do. That means no true inner desire in you is ignored and no blocks are left undealt with. Every inner belief is confronted, all supressed feelings are released, and the ego and childish self-will are surrendered to the adult and higher self. Believe me, I have literally known more than a few people who have said, when faced with that level of work, that they would rather die. And they have.<br /><br />However, for those of you who relate to this, who feel that you are at a turning point in your life where you can hunker down and spiral down and out through your final years of life, or you can choose to turn everything upside down and start over again in a whole new way, this lecture is for you.<br /><br />Okay, here's a marvelous section of <a href="http://pathworklectures.com/pathworksearch/lectures/230.htm">a Pathwork Guide lecture</a> on this subject, spelled out much more eloquently by Eva Brich and the "Guide:"<br /><br />"A person who is truly on a path of accelerated development can, and frequently does, literally reincarnate in the same lifetime. As I have explained, you plan a life task for yourself before incarnation. With the aid of spiritual advisers, you plan a certain environment and certain conditions, and set certain goals of fulfillment as a task for yourself. Many, many human beings barely fulfill this task; many leave physical existence with the task unfulfilled and must return in a new embodiment to try again, perhaps under different conditions. This you know. This I have discussed. But another, quite different phenomenon is possible. And that is when a human being fulfills the task and is ready to take on a further task that would ordinarily await a new embodiment, after the person has spent some so-called time not in the body. On an accelerated path, a new incarnation can be undertaken without leaving the old body behind and creating a new incarnation.<br /><br />"Thus, a laborious change and break in consciousness (normal death) can be bypassed if the personality is truly devoted to give all of itself to its own expansion and to fulfilling a seedplan that ordinarily would be activated only in a new incarnation. It can be done within the same life span. The life that would have been terminated earlier can be extended, and the new seedplan can be 'taken out' and become the task within this life span. Or, a life that might have continued in certain circumstances -- according to the old seedplan -- completely changes in feelings, expressions, experiences, environment, and task.New talents may manifest, and old ones maybe expressed differently."<br /><br />Whew! What does this look like? It looks like a lot of endings first. Relationships, careers, habits - suddenly none of the old things you've held onto so dearly work for you anymore. You have to let go of almost everything that constituted your life as you've know it. This is hard and scary, and a lot of stalling and hesitation occurs when a person reaches this point. But I have to say, I've had the pleasure of witnessing a handful of people arrive to that border and perservere in crossing it.<br /><br />Here's the Guide again:<br /><br />"A path such as this one you have chosen is indeed a very rare and intense one. Some of you may already connect intuitively with a complete change in your life experience, so that other potentialities that would have remained dormant in the incarnation you were born into can now come to the fore. With less development, these potentialities would remain to be expressed only in a future lifetime.<br /><br />"This change is a wonderful occurrence. It is an acceleration of the organic movement. And in this extended period of energetic influx of the Christ consciousness, there are more individuals opening themselves to this change. When you do not shrink from it, when you trust it and go with it, you can indeed bring forth a second incarnation within one embodiment.<br /><br />"I suggest that you practice active meditation and visualization in which you trust change as the most desirable, positive, brilliant, and joyful phenomenon, which you want to go with and not stem against. A further suggestion has to do with the familiar. You feel safe in a familiar territory, even though this territory may actually be less safe than the unfamiliar one. So you frequently remain in a constricted and confined circumference to avoid the imagined danger of the unfamiliar."<br /><br />Yes, this is the librarian in "The "Shawshank Redemption." Remember him? He was in prison for so long that in spite of the confinement, when his time was up, he became deathly afraid of freedom. The prison walls became embued with feelings of familiarity and safety for him, while the open expanse of a free life was the threatening unknown. Tim Robbins character, on the other hand, in a metaphor for the whatever-it-takes energy, chipped through the stone wall for years, broke through that, then had to wade through "five hundred yards of shit" to finally get to freedom. Morgan Freeman's character is us at the turning point. He's done his hard time, and now has to choose: go back to the known element of prison again or follow Tim Robbins to freedom and the great unknown.<br /><br />Here's the Guide:<br /><br />"Living a full life always means stepping beyond the old fences and making new territory your own familiar ground, in which you soon feel as comfortable as in the old. Realizing yourself means feeling comfortable in a new self-expression. That is the task. And only the first few whiffs of the new experience are unfamiliar. Soon the new becomes the familiar, and you expand your circumference; you expand the territory for your psychic 'at homeness' until finally all the universe and all states of consciousness are truly your own, intensely familiar. Then you are one with the universe."<br /><br />Amen!</span><br />
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Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-81396456431687119672023-04-11T14:06:00.000-04:002023-06-29T12:41:29.104-04:00MORE THAN HALF OF YOUR THERAPY ON POLITICS? DOESN'T MATTER!<span face="Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif">Heard a very interesting bit on National Public Radio yesterday. A panel of psychotherapists were reporting that in 4 out of every 7 therapy sessions in recent times, patients were talking about the 2016 election. Thought of another way, that's 57% of the precious 50 minutes someone in therapy has to discuss their relationships and emotional lives, their careers and finances, and all the vicissitudes of their inner lives. 29 therapeutic minutes being spent on the 3D spectacle known as politics.<br /><br />There's an article on the subject in the <a href="http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2016/sep/27/americans-suffering-from-election-related-stress/">Washington Times entitled: "Sick: Americans now suffering from ‘election-related stress."</a><br /><br />"Is the election making you sick?” asks Dr. Robert Glatter, an emergency room physician at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City, and <a href="http://www.forbes.com/sites/robertglatter/2016/09/17/is-the-election-making-you-sick/#243bb34410ca">contributor</a> to Forbes magazine. He calls the combination of election and nonstop media attention a “life stressor” with serious physical effects. Dr. Glatter counsels voters to be alert for increased blood pressure, fluttering heartbeats, headaches, nausea and other telltale symptoms of “election-related stress” — and seek relief through less exposure to news coverage and social media. Yoga, meditation and even psychotherapy could help as well, he says.<br /><br /><i>Even</i> psychotherapy?! Come one, Doc, those last few things are what will constitute real healing methods in 5D.</span><br />
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<span face="Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif">But that's not the point of this piece. The point is that while talking about the election or politics or anything else going on in mass consciousness is valid fodder for self-reflection ( <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2014/12/todays-oneness-quote_21.html">the FPL post: "YOU SAY IT'S WORLD PEACE YOU WANT? LOOK INSIDE!")</a>, in 5D, which is where we are inevitably going, it just doesn't matter.</span></div>
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<span face="Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><span style="background-color: white;">Who won the last debate? Who will win tonight's? Who will win the election? </span><span style="background-color: white;">In the words of Bill Murray in "Meatballs," the classic comedy from 1979: "It just doesn</span><span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline;">'t matter!"</span></span></div>
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Yes, if you understand that the "rejection" of passion-inspired art or passion-inspired love can only be experienced as such if you define it that way. Rejections always include beliefs, "formulas for success," calculations about "what will sell," measurements of one's "worthiness," etc., instead of just a loving focus on the simple but powerful desire and joy of offering one's gifts to another or to the world. In that latter framework, "pitching" or "auditioning," then, becomes more like looking for the right home, the right chemistry with another for your work or love.<br />
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"This 'telephone' has too many shortcomings to be seriously considered as a means of communication. The device is inherently of no value to us." --Western Union internal memo, 1876 </div>
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"So we went o Atari and said, 'Hey, we've got this amazing thing, even built with some of your parts, and what do you think about funding us? Or we'll give it to you. We just want to do it. Pay our salary, we'll come work for you.' And they said, 'No.' So then we went to Hewlett-Packard, and they said, 'Hey we don't need you. You haven't got through college yet.'" --Apple Computer Inc. founder Steve Jobs on attempts to get Atari and H-P inetersted in his and Steve Wozniak's personal computer.</div>
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"Who the hell wants to copy a document on plain paper???!!!" -- 1940 Rejection Letter to Chester Carlson, inventor of the XEROX machine (Note: In fact, over 20 companies rejected his "useless" idea between 1939 and 1944. Even the National Inventors Council dismissed it. Today, the Rank Xerox Corporation has an annual revenue in the range of one billion dollars.)</div>
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Decca Records rejecting <span style="font-weight: bold;">The Beatles</span> in 1962, an executive saying: "guitar groups are on the way out" and "the Beatles have no future in show business."</div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Well, think again. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">And read </span><b style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2017/04/07/opinion/sunday/to-be-a-genius-think-like-a-94-year-old.html?action=click&pgtype=Homepage&clickSource=story-heading&module=opinion-c-col-right-region&region=opinion-c-col-right-region&WT.nav=opinion-c-col-right-region">THIS</a></b><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">And </span><a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/search?q=declining+with+age" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>THIS</b></a><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">AND <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/91-year-old-gymnast-johanna-quas_us_595e4f39e4b0d5b458e8af3b?k9e&ncid=inblnkushpmg00000009">THIS!!!</a> </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><br /></span>Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-47017848527693519392023-04-03T12:15:00.000-04:002023-05-03T13:06:27.885-04:00HEY, GET THE EGO OUT OF YOUR "I" TODAY!"I am not ___ enough to ___."<br />
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Perhaps the most common sentences I hear in sessions with people are constructed like the above one. You can fill in the blanks with endlessly different words or phrases ("I am not good enough to be successful." "I am not attractive enough to find love." "I am not secure, strong, trusting, confident enough to leave my dysfunctional relationship or the job that I hate, or to love my body as it is.").<br />
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I have written often on this blog about <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2012/02/character-structures.html">character structures</a>, and the injuries and defenses that lead to their creation by the immature ego of the little child. I have also written extensively about the essential self-work needed to dismantle the character structures in order to head towards a life of self-actualization. Well, today, for those who are ready, I'd like to offer an exercise that can assist greatly in the process of dismantling the ego's grip on our lives. It will sound simple and straightforward, but it will be a challenge.<br />
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Okay. From now on, remove the pronoun "I" from any negative statement about yourself and your life, and replace it either with "my ego" or "the child in me."<br />
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So, "I am not attractive enough to find love" becomes... "<i>My ego</i> says I'm not attractive enough to find love." "I am not secure enough to love my body as it is" becomes... "<i>The child in me</i> is not secure enough to love my body as it is." And so on.<br />
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Try it. You will discover how powerful this simple exercise is in revealing how <b>identified with your ego</b> you are, how often when you say "I" you are actually speaking the words, statements and beliefs of the ego. And specifically what, you may wonder, is the problem with such an identification? Well, a great deal, actually.<br />
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You see, the ego did have an original purpose in the developing child's psychology. That purpose was to observe events and experiences and store them in memory, very useful if you don't want to keep getting burned over and over from touching a hot stove to discover once again that it's not a desirable action.<br />
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However, what went awry living in the environments we did as little children, chronically getting wounded emotionally and psychologically by our un-self-actualized parents, relatives, teachers, etc., is that we turned to our ego to protect us emotionally:<br />
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"Maybe if my ego helps prevent me from burning my hand over and over, it could help me figure out how to get mommy to not be angry at me, or how to get daddy to pay attention to me."<br />
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The above is a logical leap for that desperate little child, but an erroneous one. You see, the ego is designed to be the periscope on the submarine, but it is not the submarine itself, nor even the captain. Operating from a primary false assumption that all little children make - that the painful effects of the parents' lack of self-actualization could somehow be manipulated or avoided by the actions of child's ego - the child assigns the ego the impossible task of providing for its security and well-being.<br />
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The ego, in turn, does its best to take on the job, but its resources are inadequate to the task. What the ego comes up with as solutions are the very things that hinder our fulfillment as adults, because the ego's main efforts are directed at keeping the true self of the child hidden behind a false self (mask). In fact, for this defensive maneuver to have its effect fully, it becomes compulsory to believe that we in fact are our ego and its various masks. This false solution ultimately interferes with the real solution that nature and life provides for the child - growing up!<br />
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So, folks, try this exercise. It's much more than a word game or semantics. It's a way to aid the self-work you are hopefully doing to detach yourself from your ego and become your fullest, truest adult self, who is of course going about the business of becoming conscious of itself as your Higher Self, and ultimately, All That Is, your one true identity.<br />
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<br />Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-58745172932668249312023-03-06T07:00:00.000-05:002023-03-06T08:23:06.574-05:00REPOST: IT FEELS LIKE...!<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Take any negative statement - about yourself, about love, relationships, finances, your body, about any aspect of life - and put those three words - "It <span style="font-style: italic;">feels</span> like..." in front of the statement, and you will change your life for the better. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Sound too simple? Ah. Try saying: "It <span style="font-style: italic;">feels</span> like it sounds too simple."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"I can't get my financial life together," you say? Try saying: "It <span style="font-style: italic;">feels</span> like can't get my financial life together."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"I don't know how to let go in sex." Change to: "It <span style="font-style: italic;">feels</span> like I don't know how to let go in sex."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Make up your own and try it out.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You see, our outer experiences and circumstances follow the dictates of our inner statements to ourselves. When we make declarative statements like, "I can't stop smoking," for example, the Universe around us, which is one, big creation factory, just responds by saying "Okay! You can't stop smoking!" This is commonly known as the "self-fulling prophecy" syndrome. And the Universe is completely neutral about what you create. You can keep on creating the same painful experiences over and over until you're done with your declarations of your right to suffer. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But when you add "It feels like..." in front of a negative statement, you're acknowledging that it's a subjective, emotional perception or judgment that you're making, and so you won't activate the creative process.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Does this <span style="font-style: italic;">feel</span> like it's too easy, too good to be true? Well, check it out and let me know the results of your own personal experiment.</span>Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-53085380669512912062022-10-01T11:37:00.000-04:002022-10-10T08:54:08.891-04:00Baby SoulsUnderstanding that human beings are all the same in certain ways, and as such entitled to equal treatment and valuation under the law, is a foundation of civilization. Just as important, though, is recognizing that we are all different from each other in significant ways as well. Too often, we get angry at each other, on an individual basis and en masse, because we don't accept our differences. We actually don't even really believe in our differences, especially and including at the "soul development" level. <br /><br />A most excellent description of the differences between souls, called "<a href="http://www.michaelteachings.com/soul_ages.html">Soul Ages</a>" was written about by Joya Pope in her book, "Upcoming Changes." In the book, Ms. Pope explains how an evolving soul, just like a developing human being, can be at various stages in their growth process. Understanding this can change the way we deal with others in a very productive way. Just as you wouldn't expect a 3-year old to drive herself to preschool or make his own dinner, you wouldn't expect a "Baby Soul," to be able to embrace liberal, democratic self-government or guilt-free, uninhibited sexuality. <br />If we could understand this, for example, about religious fundamentalists - whether in the Middle East or middle America - we would realize that we can't force "democracy" or enlightened points of view on them. In their own exploitive ways, Republicans, and of late, Hillary Clinton, have understood this and used it to their advantage. In the United States, however, there are also a large number of "Mature Souls" counterbalancing the number of Baby Souls, so our government shifts back and forth between conservative and liberal forces on a fairly regular basis. The intense battle between the two main Democratic contenders for the presidency right now is an example of this conflict.<br /><br />Below are some excerpts from the "Baby Soul" section of Joya's book. See what you think, and see if you recognize anyone you know!<br /><br />Here's Joya Pope:<br /><br />"Structure helps Baby Souls to feel comfortable in the world. They want to be directed and therefore seek out higher authorities who are willing to lay out clear rules for them. As a small example of this, a Baby Soul (in an adult human body) would rarely defend their child's rights to the school principal, but rather would push to make the child act acceptably to the teachers and administration. Sometimes a Baby Soul will seek out - even again and again - discipline from the prison system as a way to civilize himself. This soul age will hold traditional religious leaders in esteem, turn doctors into gods, and likely feel their country, their army, and certain politicians, can do no wrong.<br /><br />"Traditions, rituals, and law and order provide a welcome sense of security. <br />In a dogmatic, black-and-white way, they identify right from wrong. Usually conscientiously good citizens, they can be counted on to do the "right" thing, but this is also the soul age with the greatest propensity to long-term grudge holding.<br /><br />"The Ku Klux Klan would be a Baby Soul organization on the negative end of the spectrum, while many service organizations like the Knights of Columbus or the Rotary Club would be on the more positive end. Anti-abortion organizations, school prayer promoters, and fire-and-brimstone preachers all tend to emerge out of Baby Soul consciousness and concerns. Preferring to be big fish in small ponds, Baby Souls are often found in small communities.<br /><br />"When their beliefs are opposed, Baby Souls may become inwardly bewildered. Baby Souls are so sure they are right that they have difficulty comprehending opposition. This is not a self-reflective phase.<br />When dealing with physical problems, Baby Souls ordinarily prefer conventional medicine, medications and surgery. Considering alternative therapies or looking for the root of the problem doesn't make sense to their way of approaching the body. With the exception of so-called "healing" within charismatic churches, this soul age is sold on orthodox medicine.<br />Around sexual matters, there is uneasiness, shame and guilt. This is not a time for hot tub entertaining, but hiding bodies, making love in the dark - probably with pajamas and without great sensuality.<br /><br />"Baby Souls sometimes come into prominence. They don't often look for a big stage, not having the resourcefulness or experience to handle it well, but they may gather fame for their unyielding political or religious beliefs. Jerry Falwell is a prominent religious leader with Baby Soul beliefs; Oral Roberts and Jimmy Swaggart, two others. Idi Amin, Hitler, Khomeini, Bin Laden, etc., and, in the United States, Richard Nixon, Evan Mecham, Jesse Helms and some of our more rigidly conservative Governors, Congressmen and Senators are examples of Baby Souls putting out their world views on a larger scale. Pat Boone and Charleton Heston were among the few Baby Souls peopling the entertainment business!" <a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/SCg4jsUas9I/AAAAAAAAAY0/j3LamNY06LE/s1600-h/images-1.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/SCg4jsUas9I/AAAAAAAAAY0/j3LamNY06LE/s200/images-1.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5199467955642610642" /></a> <a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/SCg4-8Uas_I/AAAAAAAAAZE/pvn8ufG82ig/s1600-h/images-3.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/SCg4-8Uas_I/AAAAAAAAAZE/pvn8ufG82ig/s200/images-3.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5199468423794045938" /></a><br />Hey, Joya - don't forget Ronald Reagan, who not only liked to eat jelly beans in the Oval Office, but also called his wife, "Mommy!" <a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/SCg5M8UatAI/AAAAAAAAAZM/na4ulofXiBc/s1600-h/images.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/SCg5M8UatAI/AAAAAAAAAZM/na4ulofXiBc/s200/images.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5199468664312214530" /></a> <a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/SCg43MUas-I/AAAAAAAAAY8/-QFJuAvZkOE/s1600-h/images-2.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_o4WdDdanb58/SCg43MUas-I/AAAAAAAAAY8/-QFJuAvZkOE/s200/images-2.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5199468290650059746" /></a>Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-1644275989617290152022-08-24T07:31:00.000-04:002022-08-25T12:39:29.329-04:00NOW HEAR THIS! EVERYTHING GETS BETTER WITH AGE, INCLUDING HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HOW YOU LOOK!!<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You get that?</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I've written often (check <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/search?q=aging"><b>HERE</b></a>) about the illusions and conditioned negative beliefs we've carried around about aging, particularly in what has been loosely called "Western Culture," and definitely in what was once 3D, the dense level of consciousness where a belief in strict linear time meant time was always <i>running out</i>. In that mindset, aging was seen as a process to bemoan, thwart or deny as much as possible.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Well, folks, this is 5D, and the illusions are falling by the wayside. The veil is lifting on the game of limitation, dualism and linear time. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/11/sexiest-age_n_5578049.html"><b>THIS</b></a> was in the news this week:</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"A poll of 80,000 American adults of all ages by<a href="http://www.gallup.com/poll/172361/older-americans-feel-best-physical-appearance.aspx?utm_source=alert&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=syndication&utm_content=morelink&utm_term=Well-Being" sl-processed="1" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1b1464; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_hplink"> polling giant, Gallup,</a> reveals that we feel most satisfied with our bodies <em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-style: italic; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">after 65</em>. Yes, you read that correctly. Not at 18, or 25, or even 40."</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Yo! I'm turning 60 next month, and I have to be honest - <i>I can't wait!</i> All of my life, I have looked forward to being "old." Really. Even in my teens and twenties, I somehow knew that life was going to continue to get better and better the older I got. And it has.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This is from one of my posts on the subject:</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"Our soul energy, the source of which comes from our Oversoul and Higher Self in any particular lifetime, infuses us gradually and continually throughout our journey as physical beings. In other words, when we don't interfere, we naturally live at a higher and higher vibratory rate as we mature, more and more filled up with the energy of spirit until, once again, we go back to being pure spirit, as we were before physical incarnation.<br /><br />Many of us were conditioned to fear this process, and so look upon what is meant to be a glorious evolution as a deterioration instead. And as we know, what you believe is what creates your reality. So, for many, what can be an experience of greater vibrancy, potency, wisdom and creativity over time instead becomes a depressing time of loss (and loss of time).<br /><br /><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/julia-moulden/over-50-youre-at-the-heig_b_851890.html">Julia Moulden</a>, <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/julia-moulden/over-50-youre-at-the-heig_b_851890.html">in a piece entitled, "</a></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-weight: bold; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/julia-moulden/over-50-youre-at-the-heig_b_851890.html">Over 50? You're at the Height Of Your Powers,"</a> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">used Jack Palance as an example of someone who remained vital well into his elder years, and showed it off at the 1992 Oscars when he did <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGxL5AFzzMY" style="color: #003366; text-decoration: none;"><b>his famous one-handed push-ups</b></a> on stage, at the age of 73. (Palance won the Oscar for Best Supporting Actor in "City Slickers" that year.)</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Hey - Don't fear the reaper. Rather, just start reaping!</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span>Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-37648264052153731232022-08-07T07:40:00.000-04:002022-08-07T09:27:07.700-04:00REPOST: WHY RELATIONSHIPS FAIL - IN PURSUIT OF EROS!I can't count the number of people I've seen for couples counseling over the years. Struggles in relationships are among of the most frequent of reasons people seek out therapy. How one measures "success" in a course of therapy with a couple is a matter for debate in my profession, I suppose, but if the yardstick is whether or not the couple holds their relationship together instead of splitting up, then I am an abject failure. I would have to guess that somewhere around 75 to 80 percent of the couples I see for therapy end up separating. One of my colleagues calls me "The Separator."<br />
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Indeed, when I first see a new couple in treatment, one of my first ground rules is that it must be understood that we are not engaging in a process to "save the relationship." I explain that we are going to use the arena of the relationship to increase the self awareness and understanding of each individual, and then, see where that leads. Interestingly enough, very few people are really thrown by that at first, because by the time a couple arrives to therapy, the relationship has gotten so congested with anger, pain and resentment that "saving it" is not really what they're desiring (even though they will need help admitting that).<br />
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But, what causes relationships to end? Well, first let's eliminate the word "fail" here as meaning ending, and redefine it this way: a relationship is "failing" when either the Eros has died and the couple is refusing to admit it, or the flame of Eros is still alive and the partners in question are not doing what it takes to fan the flame so it can grow higher. These are two very different situations and a necessary part of self-work within a relationship is to clarify the problem.<br />
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In my favorite Pathwork Guide lecture - "<a href="http://pathwork.org/lectures/the-forces-of-love-eros-and-sex/">The Forces of Love, Eros and Sex</a>" - the Guide, channeled through Eva Broch, says this:<br />
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"Eros lifts the soul out of sluggishness, out of mere contentment and vegetation. It causes the soul to surge, to go out of itself. When this force comes upon even the most undeveloped people they become able to surpass themselves. Eros gives the soul a foretaste of unity and teaches the fearful psyche the longing for it. The more strongly one has experienced Eros, the less contentment will the soul find in the pseudo-security of separateness. How then is Eros different from love? Love is a permanent state in the soul. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Love does not come and go at random; Eros does.</span> Eros hits with sudden force, often taking a person unaware and even making them unwilling to go through the experience."<br />
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Yes. Many of us have had a taste of that, some of us more than a few times. The Guide calls it "Eros," most of us refer to it as being "in love." I often refer to it as the "Free Pass" from the Universe that gives us a taste of how great existence can be in physical form. But if as the Guide says, Eros can "come and go," then how can we get to "keep it" in the context of one relationship? <br />
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Well, the first part of the answer to that is kind of Zen, like Sting's lyric: "If you love somebody, set them free."<br />
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Mark Epstein, my favorite Buddhist psychotherapist, in his fantastic book, "GOING TO PIECES WITHOUT FALLING APART," says it this way:<br />
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"Clinging is as much of a problem in lovemaking as in the rest of life. In order for sexual relations to be deeply satisfying, there must be a yielding of this clinging in a manner that actually affirms the unknowability and separateness of the loved partner. It is the peculiar convergence of awe and appreciation with pleasure and release that characterizes the best sexual experiences. Separate and together cease to be mutually exclusive and instead become reciprocally enhancing and mutually informative. There is wisdom in this state, not just raw instinct."<br />
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So, Part One of how to keep Eros, like anything else you want to "keep," is to let it go. (I know. I know. Keep trying to wrap your head around it. It will come to you.) <br />
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Part Two is to try and penetrate that "unknowability" that Epstein refers to, and simultaneously allow your own hidden self to be penetrated, even though you will never be completely successful.<br />
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"Eros strengthens the curiosity to know the other being. <span style="font-weight: bold;">As long as there is something new to find in the other soul and as long as you reveal yourself, Eros will live.</span> The moment you believe you have found all there is to find, and have revealed all there is to reveal, Eros will leave. It is as simple as that with Eros. But where your great error comes in is that you believe there is a limit to the revealing of any soul, yours or another's. When a certain point of usually quite superficial revelation is reached, you are under the impression that this is all there is, and you settle down to a placid life without further searching."<br />
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Okay, to summarize - the way to keep Eros alive is to first, not cling or grip onto it, or onto the person who is the object of your desire, and second, to simultaneously seek to know that person at greater and greater depths while revealing yourself in the same way. Now, let's be honest - this is rarely done in most relationsihps, mainly because it requires very intensive and persistent self-examination and staying connected to the full range of feelings, including pain and sadness. Many more couples would rather either settle into a "comfortable" relationship without any passion, or have serial experiences with a lot of partners to get that initial rush when Eros provides its universal "Free Pass." <br />
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However, on those rare occasions when the "whatever-it-takes" effort is made, the result is a soaring, sublime experience of the depths of love and pleasure and soulfulness that is nothing less than the first and main reason we all became human. And know this, if you achieve such a state at any point in your lifetime, you won't care when it is or how old you are. You won't look back and regret that you didn't find such joy when you were younger. You'll be way too busy being happy and satisfied for regrets.<br />
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Now, can it all still end, even if you make all of the above efforts? Well, again the answer is a Zen "yes" and "no." Sometimes people come together for a particular soul purpose, to accomplish something together - like bringing a child into the world, or to work on a developmental task - like overcoming one's repetition compulsions from childhood up to a point. In such a case, the Eros that may have brought said couple together will come to the natural end of its lifespan between those two people. They will fall out of love. Not coincidentally, in such a situation, the couple will lose their motivation to continue the intensive, in-depth revelation process with their mate. So, couples counseling also comes to an end.<br />
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Which brings us to another subject for another day - how to end things. So much is damaged and lost during endings because we're so "bad" at them, and fear them so much, when in fact, a healthy ending can be the very crowning glory of a relationship when all of the love that was there and all that was accomplished can be integrated and made permanent in the psyche. <br />
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But again, that's a talk for another day.Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-88455309675889686142021-11-12T03:00:00.000-05:002021-11-12T11:41:46.249-05:00MORE SEX EQUALS MORE MONEY, TOO!<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I've written extensively on this blog about how a vibrant sex life significantly benefits your physical and emotional well-being, and I've posted several pieces about the connection between your spiritual nature and your sexuality.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Well, here's a piece from the Huffington Post last year about the <i>financial</i> benefits that come with an active sex life. The article, entitled, "<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/14/more-sex-higher-wages_n_3755271.html"><b>People Who Have Sex At Least 4 Times A Week Make More Money</b></a>," finds a statistically significant correlation between sexual activity and financial prosperity.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;">It pays to have more sex. Literally, new research finds. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;">People who have sex four times or more a week earn higher wages than their less-sexually active colleagues at a statistically significant level, according to <a href="http://ftp.iza.org/dp7529.pdf">a discussion paper from Nick Drydakis, a fellow at the Institute for the Study of Labor</a>, a private, independent organization focused on labor market research."</span></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Now, to be clear, detached sex, sex in isolation, or compulsive sex, isn't necessarily a money maker, but rather sex that brings genuine pleasure to you and your partner, and especially sex that is combined with love and Eros, is what can be a path to prosperity.</span></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;">"See, people who have frequent sex tend to be happier, have higher self-esteem, better reasoning ability and are less likely to be depressed.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;"><b>More sex makes you healthier and happier. And happy, healthy people tend make more money.</b>"</span></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;">This is from an amazing chapter in an amazing book, "PATH OF EMPOWERMENT," by Barbara Marciniak:</span></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;">"The orgasmic experience connects you with your spirit, reorganizing and revitalizing your cells. Sex is like a rocket booster, and coupled with conscious intent, it can propel you into aspects of reality that can enrich your life. When you are having sex, you are stirring the life-force kundalini energy nestled at the bottom of the spine. Activating kundalini energy by means of sexual pleasure can create direct openings into simultaneous dimensional experiences that have a complete interface with the life you are presently leading."</span></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; line-height: 21px;">Nicely said. In other words, folks, through the power of sexual expression and enjoyment, especially via the orgasm experience, especially with someone you love, you can access your creative abilities across the spectrum of dimensions. </span></span></div>
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Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-84824158642972560532021-08-12T09:00:00.000-04:002021-08-13T09:47:01.506-04:00YOU ARE NOT VULNERABLE WHEN YOU'RE OPEN. YOU'RE VULNERABLE WHEN YOU'RE LITTLE!<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">I read an blog post a while ago entitled, "<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/25/10-stories-from-successfu_n_4144305.html">The One Quality We Often Mistake For Weakness Can Actually Make You Stronger</a>," which extolls the virtues of being "vulnerable." Citing examples from President Obama to the Dalai Lama, the piece gives examples of the strength that comes from being vulnerable. The post refers to a book, "</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; line-height: 23px;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592407331?tag=vglnkc7202-20">Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead," by Brene Brown</a>.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">"I feel too vulnerable when..."</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">How often I hear individuals begin a sentence like that. Usually, the person in question who is perceiving themselves as "vulnerable" is talking about being "open" in some situation that is revealing of their inner life to another. But this common connection in one's mind between openness and vulnerability is erroneous. </span><br />
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<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">You are not vulnerable when you're open.</span></b><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">The definition of "vulnerable" in most dictionaries is: "susceptible to physical or emotional harm." Okay. That's pretty straightforward. So, when are we the most susceptible to harm in those ways? Well, in two situations, mainly: 1. when we are without an option for avoiding danger; and 2. when we are truly dependent on another person or persons who may choose to do us harm. And when are we most likely to be in such situations? Well, unless you are literally a hostage in a terrorist takeover, or a prisoner of war or in jail, the most prevalent time human beings are actually vulnerable to harm is - you guessed it - in childhood!</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">That's right. In childhood, especially early childhood, we are essentially hostages to our parents and caretakers, without options to avoid the slings and arrows of our environment. And we are utterly and completely dependent on those others for our well-being, even for our very existence. Whatever the vicissitudes of our parents' mental and emotional health, or lack thereof, we, as children, cannot protect ourselves or remove ourselves from harm's way. We can't stop adults from hurting us, nor can we trade in one set of adults for another. In other words... we are vulnerable. Truly.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Now, here's where the confusion comes in and how the erroneous connection gets made.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">As children, as newly minted human beings, we are naturally open, physically, mentally and emotionally. We feel everything fully when we're first born, and to some degree, we stay that way throughout the very early years of life. However, because of the undeveloped, un-self-actualized aspects of humanity, we are injured by our environment. Our parents and caretakers hurt us. Yet, we cannot stop them, nor can we leave them.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">So what do we do? We begin to shut down, distort, and/or disconnect parts of ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally in order not to feel the pain so acutely. We form a <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2012/02/character-structures.html">character structure</a>, and initially, it actually does seem to mitigate the pain, which seems to validate the conclusion that open is vulnerable, and closed is safe.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">See, we can't understand truly when we're little <i>that we're little.</i> We can't really picture that one day, we'll be adults ourselves, and have the choices adults have. In other words, we can't understand that <b>it's being little that makes us vulnerable, not being open that makes us vulnerable</b>. And so, stuck in the confines of our character structures as time passes, we miss the fact that nature provides the solution to the problem of vulnerability in childhood - <i>we grow up!</i></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">In adulthood, we can realize that protecting ourselves emotionally with the armor of character defenses is very inefficient and inhibiting, and most importantly, no longer necessary. Wearing that suit of armor doesn't make for the easy enjoyment of a sunny day, let alone for making love. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">On the other hand, being fully open to our inner lives, which frees up the mind and body, gives us the energy and flexibility to creatively express ourselves, enjoy life and, if need be, avoid situations that would do us harm, which mainly means not engaging with negativity. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Thus, in this realization, we can engage in a healing process, in an holistic self-work process, that can dismantle the armor and allow us to be ourselves fully.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">So, let go of the false belief that when you love and reveal yourself to another, you are vulnerable. And Brene, forgive me for suggesting a slight change to the title of your book, but "<b>Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be <i>OPEN</i> Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead</b>" would work better for me.</span>Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-78028034799235515832021-08-11T09:39:00.000-04:002021-08-13T09:48:22.538-04:00IS YOUR LIFE BECOMING "TOO EASY?!"More and more people, that I've had the joy and privilege of serving as guide and facilitator for over recent years, have reached the 4th and 5th "<a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2008/10/all-stages-of-healing-together.html">Stages of Healing</a>" (Follow <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2008/10/all-stages-of-healing-together.html">this link</a>, or read Chapter 3, Part 2 in <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Full-Permission-Living-Dimensional-Consciousness/dp/1721563326/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1531048863&sr=1-1&keywords=full+permission+living">the FPL book</a> for more info).<br />
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Because of the realignment taking place in their inner lives, their outer lives are becoming more overtly synchronistic and balanced, and their manifestation capacities are becoming more conscious and immediate. They are organically using the Law of Attraction to enhance their human experience. They are lifting the veil to 4th, and eventually, 5th dimensions consciousness.<br />
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It is a wonder to behold!<br />
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This is from "<a href="https://paulselig.com/books/book-of-freedom/">The Book of Freedom," channeled by Paul Selig:</a><br />
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"You have designed a life in accordance with a blueprint of the True Self, which simply means that the True Self is creating for you. You are no longer the magician trying to bring something into being. You are no longer the one who must make decisions from a list of possibilities that you have created or inherited. <br />
"Each one of you comes to this expression with a design. The bodies you are in, the energetic fields you hold, are in fact the design that is now being re-created in accordance with the Divine Self.<br />
The vibration of the Divine Self, who has come to be known by the name I Am, assumes your body and the vehicle of expression, which is, in fact, the will. The will, you must understand, must be assumed in totality and in agreement with the Divine for alchemy to truly occur. This does not mean you don’t make choices, but how the choices are made are so much simpler because the knowing that you now possess aligns you to what you require. <br />
"So the battles over ideas, the shoulds and the woulds, will be gone as this is done because you have no need for them."Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-77715468345831618312021-08-08T15:03:00.003-04:002021-08-08T15:09:01.466-04:00MORE ON: EVERYTHING GETS BETTER AS WE GET OLDER!<p> <span face="Calibri, sans-serif" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Everything gets better as we get older. That’s right. The natural trajectory of a human lifetime for a self-actualizing individual is like an upward spiral, from density to light. And while the depths of density, which is the unique experience of being physical on Planet Earth in 3</span><sup style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; text-indent: 0.5in;">rd</sup><span face="Calibri, sans-serif" style="text-indent: 0.5in;"> </span><span face="Calibri, sans-serif" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">dimensional consciousness, while that journey into limitation can be an exciting game, the crowning glory of the trip is the arrival back home to the lightness of our true being.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; margin: 0in; text-indent: 0.5in;"><o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; margin: 0in; text-indent: 0.5in;">Like all of it, the experience of sex moves through the same passages from the highly focused intensity and dense physicality of adolescence and young adulthood to the glorious and soul-quenching adventures of mature sexual expression. Infused with uninhibited Eros and deep love and heart connection, sex in the later years of a human lifetime can literally bring you to tears from the sheer joy and pleasure as your crown chakra blows open with orgasms that are akin to giving birth. That sex later in life requires more time and care and attention to nuance and ambiance isn’t a sign of deterioration any more than the time and care that goes into producing a fine wine or writing a sonata is. As we grow, quality naturally replaces quantity as the prime directive.<o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; margin: 0in; text-indent: 0.5in;"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; margin: 0in; text-indent: 0.5in;">It is only due to a lifetime of conditioning by social idealization of youth and fear of the illusion of death that we are led to believe that the golden years represent loss rather than the natural reaping of rewards for becoming conscious once again of who we truly are. These are the years to decant that wine, and play that completed masterpiece called a life.<o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; margin: 0in; text-indent: 0.5in;"><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-GKbYnDO1PjM/YRArgWD1Y-I/AAAAAAAAEXk/83eZ6AH0FCstQdwTweUT6pajBL2AFlfjgCLcBGAsYHQ/s275/images.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="183" data-original-width="275" height="183" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-GKbYnDO1PjM/YRArgWD1Y-I/AAAAAAAAEXk/83eZ6AH0FCstQdwTweUT6pajBL2AFlfjgCLcBGAsYHQ/s0/images.jpeg" width="275" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-fs0pDWviV4I/YRArisBtpEI/AAAAAAAAEXo/1wkmM2E-kf4HMOtIrFuceHySxzIck9JxwCLcBGAsYHQ/s298/images-1.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="169" data-original-width="298" height="169" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-fs0pDWviV4I/YRArisBtpEI/AAAAAAAAEXo/1wkmM2E-kf4HMOtIrFuceHySxzIck9JxwCLcBGAsYHQ/s0/images-1.jpeg" width="298" /></a></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; margin: 0in; text-indent: 0.5in;"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; margin: 0in; text-indent: 0.5in;">For even more, check out these posts <a href="https://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2014/07/now-hear-this-everything-gets-better.html">HERE</a>!</p>Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-86884091910560180822021-05-04T07:30:00.001-04:002021-05-06T07:31:13.843-04:00TERMINAL LUCIDITY!<div style="color: #1d2129; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px;">"Terminal Lucidity" - A common phenomenon known to medical professionals tending to the terminally ill in which, just before death, there is a surprising surge of energy. Doctors caution family members that this surge is not a sign of strength or remission, but rather a sign that death is near. It is the proverbial "last gasp."<br />Consciousness-wise, this is what we are witnessing collectively right now - the death throes of 3D and its low vibrations of separation and limitation, fear and hate, and even duality itself. Just like with the end of any illness, the final clearing is often the most messy, but it is nonetheless a precursor to better days. Take heart!</div>
Peter Loffredohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11940970263018875931noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8008810052310749969.post-80470861866876089852021-04-08T09:18:00.000-04:002021-04-23T20:51:22.850-04:00THE POWER OF DOING NOTHING... POWERFULLY!<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Are you discovering the power of doing nothing? Many people are.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Remember the frequently referred to FPL post from January of 2013 - <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2013/01/almost-two-weeks-in-which-earth-on-you.html">"IT'S 2013! WHICH EARTH ARE YOU ON?!"</a> - in which the new rules of 5th Dimensional Consciousness (5D) were outlined? Right up top was <a href="http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/2013/01/almost-two-weeks-in-which-earth-on-you.html">Rule #1: "Murphy's Law Is Officially Reversed."</a> (In other words, in 5D, "everything that can go right, will go right... if you let it.")</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Well, 3 years later, many FPL readers, and people I know and work with, have been experiencing this new rule at work in the practical experiences of their everyday lives. So much so, in fact, that <i>complaints</i> are coming up in sessions that more or less boil down to: "It's too easy!" "I didn't actually do anything!" "Things just fell into place!" "Things just worked out!" Etc.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Sounds funny, right? But the truth is, <b>synchronicity</b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> </span>("the simultaneous occurrence of events that appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection," according to the dictionary) is the way of the Universe. There are no true coincidences, and this has always been the way things worked, only now, in 5D, we're becoming aware of it, and so becoming able to call upon it for manifestation purposes in our lives.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Many people call these synchronistic events "miracles," but here's my favorite quote on miracles:</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">"Miracles are the result of nature unimpeded."</span></b><br />
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Get that? Reread it:</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">"Miracles are the result of nature unimpeded."</span></b><br />
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In other words, things "working out" for your greatest good, for your highest excitement, for your fulfillment and self-actualization, even in ways you couldn't predict or imagine specifically, is just... <i>natural!</i> You don't have to <i>do</i> anything in the sense of forcing, willing, demanding, pleading or insisting, all approaches rooted in the ego, of course. You see, it's the ego complaining that things are "too easy," because it knows it is out of a job in 5D. It knows no other way than struggling, battling, overcoming, winning or losing, etc. Then, onto the next contest. So 3D!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">But there are actually things to do in 5D. There are actions to take. It's not a passive creative process. But it looks different than the old way. The "doing" required to make things happen in 5D looks more like this:</span><br />
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<b><i>Clear - Intend - Let go - Follow-up</i>.</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b>Clear</b> your consciousness of the remnants of 3D, egoic thinking and beliefs and suppressed feelings in the body;</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b>Intend</b> for yourself in your meditations whatever it is you truly desire, and imagine it happening;</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b>Let go</b> by employing the energy of allowing and receiving, without expectations or fear;</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b>Follow-up</b> with action when your Higher Self and the Universe give you signs and create opportunities for you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">One of my favorite books and movies, as many FPL readers know, is <a href="http://www.stevenpressfield.com/">"The Legend of Baggar Vance," by Steven Pressfield.</a></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Here's Baggar:</span><br />
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<i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">“There's a perfect shot out there tryin' to find each and every one of us... Now it's somewhere... in the harmony... of All That Is... All That Was... All That Will Be... All we got to do is get ourselves out of its way, to let it choose us.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">”</span></i></span><br />
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