Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
MORE REJECTIONS YOU GOTTA LOVE!
Read the cover story article in Rolling Stone on George Harrison. Here's a good one from the piece: in addition to the infamous rejection by Decca Records ("They'll never go anywhere."), the Beatles lost a local talent show "to a novelty band fronted by a midget!" After that, they went from performing at a Hamburg, Germany dive bar to recording "Sergeant Peppers..." a mere 6 years later!!
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
REPOST: TODAY'S QUOTE!
"As breath has a power to join body, mind, and spirit, so too and more passionately does music."
(Krista Tippett in a beautiful blog piece on Bobby McFerrin)
(Krista Tippett in a beautiful blog piece on Bobby McFerrin)
BACK TO SCHOOL - TOO BAD FOR THE KIDS!
Ugh! Here we go again. First week of school. HERE is a link to some pieces I've written over the course of this blog's existence on why kids would be better off is teachers and parents left them alone.
THROUGH HARLEY!
Check out the hot new blog on the block - "ThroughHarley" - and enjoy the wisdom, humor and honesty of the old soul inhabiting this unique young person! 
WAIT! STILL NOT CONVINCED ABOUT "THE WAVE?!"
Read THIS: "Unprecedented Run Of U.S. Natural Disasters Costs Billions, Strains Infrastructure
You could be like "the experts," who say "What's happening is mostly random chance or bad luck, though sometimes the luck seems downright freakish."
Or you could read about The Wave on this blog!
You could be like "the experts," who say "What's happening is mostly random chance or bad luck, though sometimes the luck seems downright freakish."
Or you could read about The Wave on this blog!
THE CODEPENDENT-FREE DIET!
During the past month or so, I've lost about 8 pounds. I haven't been eating or not eating any different foods particularly. I haven't engaged in any specific new exercise routines. I haven't been taking any supplements or herbs for the purpose of weight loss. In fact, I haven't been trying to lose weight, although I could definitely have afforded to shed the pounds I've lost since the 4th of July.
What I have been doing differently this summer, though, is focusing on the areas of my life in which I am manifesting "codependence."
Codependence is an odd word, coined originally to describe the enabling partner of an alcoholic or addict. These days it refers to a vaguely defined set of feelings and behaviors that apply to virtually everyone in relationships, so let me try and construct a more useful working definition for the purposes of this discussion.
Codependence is a compelling feeling in an adult human being that one is in need of another in order to feel complete, whole and validated, and it includes a belief that in order to receive a desired level of love, one must sacrifice one's own well-being to some degree. This belief, erroneous at its core, stems from childhood, of course.
When a child isn't receiving the level of acceptance and unconditional love that can only come from self-actualized parents, he or she will always see the problem as within themselves, not in the parents. It is just too threatening to face that those upon whom we are completely dependent in our most dependent state cannot give us what we need because of some deficit in them. Hope for the helpless child lies in the fantasy that if somehow it acts in a certain way that is more pleasing or submissive, or more needy and demanding towards the parents, the needed love will be forthcoming.
And it never happens. Never. Because it was never in the child's hands, never the child's fault in the first place.
Nonetheless, the pattern of denying who one is in order to get more love becomes an entrenched and unconscious pattern, embedded in the psyche and in habitual behaviors until some serious self-work is engaged in that can excavate the erroneous beliefs and free up the traped feelings of hurt and rage.
So, what's this got to do with me losing weight?
Well... everything! Because everything is energy, and energy is directed by consciousness, and the state of being in our consciousness, which generates emotions, in turn creates our physical experiences, and yes, our physical form, too. So, weighing ourselves down by a psychological attachment to another, believing in our own neediness or incompleteness without that other, will create a physical body that also feels weighed down as well.
Now, that is not to say that any particular body weight or size is inherently a manifestation of codependence, but rather when one's weight feels like a weight or an obstacle to the full freedom of expression of the self, then there is most likely a codependent issue.
So, let go of your significant others, folks, let go of your families, let go of any relationships that you feel attached to by the illusion of need. You will not end up alone, just free, full of love and light with those who you choose to engage in for the purposes of sharing life and love with.
And you might even lose a few pounds!
What I have been doing differently this summer, though, is focusing on the areas of my life in which I am manifesting "codependence."
Codependence is an odd word, coined originally to describe the enabling partner of an alcoholic or addict. These days it refers to a vaguely defined set of feelings and behaviors that apply to virtually everyone in relationships, so let me try and construct a more useful working definition for the purposes of this discussion.
Codependence is a compelling feeling in an adult human being that one is in need of another in order to feel complete, whole and validated, and it includes a belief that in order to receive a desired level of love, one must sacrifice one's own well-being to some degree. This belief, erroneous at its core, stems from childhood, of course.
When a child isn't receiving the level of acceptance and unconditional love that can only come from self-actualized parents, he or she will always see the problem as within themselves, not in the parents. It is just too threatening to face that those upon whom we are completely dependent in our most dependent state cannot give us what we need because of some deficit in them. Hope for the helpless child lies in the fantasy that if somehow it acts in a certain way that is more pleasing or submissive, or more needy and demanding towards the parents, the needed love will be forthcoming.
And it never happens. Never. Because it was never in the child's hands, never the child's fault in the first place.
Nonetheless, the pattern of denying who one is in order to get more love becomes an entrenched and unconscious pattern, embedded in the psyche and in habitual behaviors until some serious self-work is engaged in that can excavate the erroneous beliefs and free up the traped feelings of hurt and rage.
So, what's this got to do with me losing weight?
Well... everything! Because everything is energy, and energy is directed by consciousness, and the state of being in our consciousness, which generates emotions, in turn creates our physical experiences, and yes, our physical form, too. So, weighing ourselves down by a psychological attachment to another, believing in our own neediness or incompleteness without that other, will create a physical body that also feels weighed down as well.
Now, that is not to say that any particular body weight or size is inherently a manifestation of codependence, but rather when one's weight feels like a weight or an obstacle to the full freedom of expression of the self, then there is most likely a codependent issue.
So, let go of your significant others, folks, let go of your families, let go of any relationships that you feel attached to by the illusion of need. You will not end up alone, just free, full of love and light with those who you choose to engage in for the purposes of sharing life and love with.
And you might even lose a few pounds!
THE OLD TREE AND THE WAVE!
There was an old tree... in front of our home in Brooklyn which we've come to refer to as "The Vortex." It was a very big tree, and very old, and no matter what we tried, every so often its roots would get into our plumbing system and cause havoc. We didn't want to kill the tree, but we meditated and asked it if it might stop infiltrating our pipes.
Well, during the hurricane this weekend, the tree complied, choosing the occasion of the storm to leave its long lifetime on Earth as a tree. It fell over, broke in half and was completed uprooted, miraculously landing in such a way as to not damage anyone or anyone's property.
This event occurred while we were at a spiritual retreat in Norwalk, Conn., sequestered from the storm with the channeler, Darryl Ankar, who channels the very powerful "Bashar." Bashar spoke to me about the synchronicity of the event, implying that it was possible to collaborate on other events in the same way that we collaborated with the tree towards whatever ends we desired in our lives, if we were ready to "clear the pipes [channels]."
The Vortex is open for business, folks! Focus your positive intentions, let go of resistance, let go of fear and petty concerns and ride The Wave!
Thank you, Good Old Tree!
Well, during the hurricane this weekend, the tree complied, choosing the occasion of the storm to leave its long lifetime on Earth as a tree. It fell over, broke in half and was completed uprooted, miraculously landing in such a way as to not damage anyone or anyone's property.
This event occurred while we were at a spiritual retreat in Norwalk, Conn., sequestered from the storm with the channeler, Darryl Ankar, who channels the very powerful "Bashar." Bashar spoke to me about the synchronicity of the event, implying that it was possible to collaborate on other events in the same way that we collaborated with the tree towards whatever ends we desired in our lives, if we were ready to "clear the pipes [channels]."
The Vortex is open for business, folks! Focus your positive intentions, let go of resistance, let go of fear and petty concerns and ride The Wave!
Thank you, Good Old Tree!
HOW ABOUT THAT WAVE! STILL RESISTING?!
I was getting a massage when the earthquake hit last Tuesday. I thought: "Wow! This is really one earth-shaking body work session!"
Check it out, folks. Now, there's a major hurricane slamming the east coast of the U.S. this weekend, too.
Are you still resisting? Read up on my blog about The Wave HERE.
Check it out, folks. Now, there's a major hurricane slamming the east coast of the U.S. this weekend, too.
Are you still resisting? Read up on my blog about The Wave HERE.
Today's Movie Recommendation!
I don't do this often, but when I am truly moved by a movie, I'll mention it on FPL to share the gift. I actually think that movies are important. Human beings need to tell stories to each other, need to share their experience of being human, and movies are one of the ways we do it in our times.
Anyway, last night, I was truly moved after having watched (finally!) "THE FIGHTER."
Wow!
But it wasn't the movie that got me. It was a pretty predictable film in many respects, nicely done, but nothing in and of itself that will stick with me story-wise. No. It was the extraordinary performance of Christian Bale in the supporting role of a crack-addicted has-been boxer that blew me away.
This was SO not Batman, folks! Really! Bale pulled this one in from somewhere deep. Of course, he won many awards for the performance, including the Oscar, so I'm not spreading a word that isn't already out there. I just rarely see an actor so nail a role, create a character so compelling that it elevates even a mediocre film to amazing heights.
Check out The Fighter!
Anyway, last night, I was truly moved after having watched (finally!) "THE FIGHTER."
Wow!
But it wasn't the movie that got me. It was a pretty predictable film in many respects, nicely done, but nothing in and of itself that will stick with me story-wise. No. It was the extraordinary performance of Christian Bale in the supporting role of a crack-addicted has-been boxer that blew me away.
This was SO not Batman, folks! Really! Bale pulled this one in from somewhere deep. Of course, he won many awards for the performance, including the Oscar, so I'm not spreading a word that isn't already out there. I just rarely see an actor so nail a role, create a character so compelling that it elevates even a mediocre film to amazing heights.
Check out The Fighter!
Today's Quote
"When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, 'I used everything you gave me."
Erma Bombeck
Erma Bombeck
Repost: "The Superstition of Pessimism!"
"If I believe in the positive, I will be disappointed, and I may chase it away by my very belief in it. I dare not believe in the good. It may not happen. It may be smarter to believe that nothing good can happen to me, that I cannot ever change, that I cannot ever grow out of my obstructions."
Do any of you have that little nugget lurking in your subconscious? Well, here's a real gold nugget for you - the Pathwork Guide lecture called: "The Superstition of Pessimism."
You may actually believe that there's some emotional safety in this kind of inner game - "If I expect the worst, I won't be disappointed." However, as the Guide warns us:
"Denying the positive and believing in the worst to appease the gods, as it were, is destructive. You do not know the power of such thoughts. There is no playing with such power without grave consequences. There is no such game that does not have a grave effect. The power of this game needs to be made conscious."
That last part is of the utmost importance. I tell many people, regularly, that making something conscious does a lot. As long as something is unconscious, it will exert power over you. Once something is brought into the light of awareness, it already begins to lose its grip and strength. And mind you, I'm not talking about superimposing a false or exaggerated optimistic attitude over an underlying negative attitude. That will do no good at all. And it's not necessary.
Here's the Guide:
"The courage to believe in positive life unfoldment can very easily be confused with wishful thinking. There is a subtle and yet very distinct difference between wishful thinking and a virile faith in the positive. You all indulge very easily in wishful thinking. Then, to be "realistic" -- because you already know the disappointing results of wishful thinking -- you revert into the superstition of pessimism."
Optimism is the natural state of all living things. Without it, newborns wouldn't reach out for nurturance right from birth. Flowers wouldn't open to the sun. Life expects to be fulfilled. So, by bringing our negative expectations into consciousness, thereby dissipating them, the natural optimism will take over.
Once more, the Guide:
"All human beings are wonderful manifestations of divinity. One flower is not better than another flower. One bird is not better than another bird. The mountain is not better than the sea. The pine tree is not better than the oak. Think of yourself and other people in those terms and assert your goodwill to let others be their best. Then you can let yourself be your best so you can truly enjoy the fruits of your efforts and feel deserving of them."
Have a great day! 
Do any of you have that little nugget lurking in your subconscious? Well, here's a real gold nugget for you - the Pathwork Guide lecture called: "The Superstition of Pessimism."
You may actually believe that there's some emotional safety in this kind of inner game - "If I expect the worst, I won't be disappointed." However, as the Guide warns us:
"Denying the positive and believing in the worst to appease the gods, as it were, is destructive. You do not know the power of such thoughts. There is no playing with such power without grave consequences. There is no such game that does not have a grave effect. The power of this game needs to be made conscious."
That last part is of the utmost importance. I tell many people, regularly, that making something conscious does a lot. As long as something is unconscious, it will exert power over you. Once something is brought into the light of awareness, it already begins to lose its grip and strength. And mind you, I'm not talking about superimposing a false or exaggerated optimistic attitude over an underlying negative attitude. That will do no good at all. And it's not necessary.
Here's the Guide:
"The courage to believe in positive life unfoldment can very easily be confused with wishful thinking. There is a subtle and yet very distinct difference between wishful thinking and a virile faith in the positive. You all indulge very easily in wishful thinking. Then, to be "realistic" -- because you already know the disappointing results of wishful thinking -- you revert into the superstition of pessimism."
Optimism is the natural state of all living things. Without it, newborns wouldn't reach out for nurturance right from birth. Flowers wouldn't open to the sun. Life expects to be fulfilled. So, by bringing our negative expectations into consciousness, thereby dissipating them, the natural optimism will take over.
Once more, the Guide:
"All human beings are wonderful manifestations of divinity. One flower is not better than another flower. One bird is not better than another bird. The mountain is not better than the sea. The pine tree is not better than the oak. Think of yourself and other people in those terms and assert your goodwill to let others be their best. Then you can let yourself be your best so you can truly enjoy the fruits of your efforts and feel deserving of them."
Have a great day! 
REPOST: ALL OUR HIGHER SELVES
I frequently make reference to "character structures" on this blog, the conglomerate of defenses and deformations that we create in childhood in order to survive the slings and arrows of growing up with less than self-actualized parents in an imperfect world. But underneath each character structure lies an evolving, magnificent soul, the true essence of who we are, our "Higher Self." It is from that Higher Self that we draw the material that shapes the "style" of our character structure, and back to that unencumbered Higher Self that our journey ultimately takes us, sooner rather than later if we do the self-work necessary to actively dismantle our defenses.
So, here is a breakdown of what each Higher Self looks like underneath each particular character structure. It is always valuable to be reminded that whatever our dysfunctions, our true nature is a thing of great beauty.
SCHIZOID CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS
- Strong connection to and awareness of the profoundly spiritual nature of life;
- Access to vast universal wisdom and the capacity to teach others how to make the connection to that wisdom;
- Great courage and fearlessness to connect with feelings;
- Great capacity to create and appreciate beauty, including through artistic abilities.
ORAL CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS
- Great capacity to give to others in a deeply nurturing, truly healing way;
- An appreciation for the vastly abundant nature of existence and the joy of sharing;
- Genuine independence, autonomy and self-confidence with full capacity to surrender to the oneness with another;
- Powerful intuitive abilities and the capacity to follow insights through to fruition by sustained, patient effort.
MASOCHISTIC CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS
- Great capacities for pleasure, humor, optimism, playfulness and joy;
- Genuine supportiveness, strength and desire to be of service to others;
- An expansive, open heart with deep compassion, true kindness and understanding;
- Positive assertiveness and healthy aggression with substantial amounts of energy;
- Ability to be spontaneously creative in the moment, surrender ego control and trust the natural order in all things;
PSYCHOPATHIC CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS
- Great leadership and executive qualities and capacities to bring people with differences together in a harmonious effort;
- Strong abilities to guide and inspire others to accomplish their chosen tasks in life and see their own specialness without competitiveness or separation;
- True innovators and adventurers able to travel “the road not taken”, or “to boldly go where no one has gone before”, without recklessness or excess;
- A genuine seeker of truth, with genuine humility, honesty, loyalty and unwavering integrity;
- A truly big heart full of love and fearlessness to surrender to the flow of feelings, life and the Higher Self.
RIGID CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS
- Tremendous passion and connection to the sensuality of human relationships, with a true appreciation for and capacity to express the wonder of coming together physically in love with another;
- Great capacity to let go and surrender to the flow of love, to fall in love with life and with others;
- Genuine capacities to make and sustain commitments;
- Strong organizational skills combined with flexibility, patience and acceptance of new approaches to situations;
- A deep appreciation for the beauty of physical life, and sensibilities to integrate the elements of form to create beauty.
So, here is a breakdown of what each Higher Self looks like underneath each particular character structure. It is always valuable to be reminded that whatever our dysfunctions, our true nature is a thing of great beauty.
SCHIZOID CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS
- Strong connection to and awareness of the profoundly spiritual nature of life;
- Access to vast universal wisdom and the capacity to teach others how to make the connection to that wisdom;
- Great courage and fearlessness to connect with feelings;
- Great capacity to create and appreciate beauty, including through artistic abilities.
ORAL CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS
- Great capacity to give to others in a deeply nurturing, truly healing way;
- An appreciation for the vastly abundant nature of existence and the joy of sharing;
- Genuine independence, autonomy and self-confidence with full capacity to surrender to the oneness with another;
- Powerful intuitive abilities and the capacity to follow insights through to fruition by sustained, patient effort.
MASOCHISTIC CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS
- Great capacities for pleasure, humor, optimism, playfulness and joy;
- Genuine supportiveness, strength and desire to be of service to others;
- An expansive, open heart with deep compassion, true kindness and understanding;
- Positive assertiveness and healthy aggression with substantial amounts of energy;
- Ability to be spontaneously creative in the moment, surrender ego control and trust the natural order in all things;
PSYCHOPATHIC CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS
- Great leadership and executive qualities and capacities to bring people with differences together in a harmonious effort;
- Strong abilities to guide and inspire others to accomplish their chosen tasks in life and see their own specialness without competitiveness or separation;
- True innovators and adventurers able to travel “the road not taken”, or “to boldly go where no one has gone before”, without recklessness or excess;
- A genuine seeker of truth, with genuine humility, honesty, loyalty and unwavering integrity;
- A truly big heart full of love and fearlessness to surrender to the flow of feelings, life and the Higher Self.
RIGID CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS
- Tremendous passion and connection to the sensuality of human relationships, with a true appreciation for and capacity to express the wonder of coming together physically in love with another;
- Great capacity to let go and surrender to the flow of love, to fall in love with life and with others;
- Genuine capacities to make and sustain commitments;
- Strong organizational skills combined with flexibility, patience and acceptance of new approaches to situations;
- A deep appreciation for the beauty of physical life, and sensibilities to integrate the elements of form to create beauty.
DISCOVER THE JOY OF BEING WRONG!
You create your reality from your beliefs.
You either get this or you don't; it's that kind of thing.
If you don't get it, you feel victimized, at least some of the time, by what seems to be life's random cruelty or unfairness. Likewise, if you don't know that you create your own reality, you may feel "lucky" or randomly "blessed" at times for the good things you've received.
If you do get it, however, the question you ask about every event or circumstance in your life is the same: "Why did I create this?"
Sounds simple, but it makes a huge difference as to how you experience your life.
Here's a useful exercise:
Pretend that your life is a screenplay that you are writing, and that you are also the director and star of the script. What every writer knows to do when creating a story is ask at every turn of events in the script:
"Why this? Why Now? How does this advance the story?"
Practice that for an hour, a day, a week, and see what happens and how you feel. You will be surprised. Realizing that you are totally and utterly responsible for the life you are creating will not feel like a burden as you might imagine it will. It is actually quite liberating.
Challenge every assumption, every belief you have, folks, that you think is "just the way it is." That is a good way to start. You will feel a bit disoriented (see my "Genuine Confusion" piece )because you will realize how wrong you've been about so many things, but it will also be a great relief.
I always thought that a title for a book I might write someday would be: "The Joy of Being Wrong!"
Try it out and let me know.
You either get this or you don't; it's that kind of thing.
If you don't get it, you feel victimized, at least some of the time, by what seems to be life's random cruelty or unfairness. Likewise, if you don't know that you create your own reality, you may feel "lucky" or randomly "blessed" at times for the good things you've received.
If you do get it, however, the question you ask about every event or circumstance in your life is the same: "Why did I create this?"
Sounds simple, but it makes a huge difference as to how you experience your life.
Here's a useful exercise:
Pretend that your life is a screenplay that you are writing, and that you are also the director and star of the script. What every writer knows to do when creating a story is ask at every turn of events in the script:
"Why this? Why Now? How does this advance the story?"
Practice that for an hour, a day, a week, and see what happens and how you feel. You will be surprised. Realizing that you are totally and utterly responsible for the life you are creating will not feel like a burden as you might imagine it will. It is actually quite liberating.
Challenge every assumption, every belief you have, folks, that you think is "just the way it is." That is a good way to start. You will feel a bit disoriented (see my "Genuine Confusion" piece )because you will realize how wrong you've been about so many things, but it will also be a great relief.
I always thought that a title for a book I might write someday would be: "The Joy of Being Wrong!"
Try it out and let me know.
HAPPY 50TH, PRESIDENT OBAMA! (DON'T FEAR THE REAPER - BE THE REAPER!)
In honor of President Barack Obama's 50th birthday today, I am reposting this FPL blog post that has several links in it to other pieces I've written on the subject of aging.
Remember, life is meant to be a celebration!
DON'T FEAR THE REAPER - BE THE REAPER!
There was a piece in the Huffington Post, entitled, "Over 50? You're at the Height Of Your Powers," by Julia Moulden.
Here's an excerpt:
"Mental decline, for instance, isn't inevitable. Scientists say there's no reason our brains have to degenerate as we age; they're 'plastic' and can grow and develop just as they did when we were younger. Physical decline isn't unavoidable, either. The physical changes we associate with aging, such as loss of strength, speed and agility, are not caused as much by the passing years as by our sedentary lifestyle. Just as we need to continue to use our brains, we need to keep moving our bodies. The truth is that as we age, we actually improve in many ways. Enjoyment of life and happiness rise steadily after 50. We become more emotionally stable. And new capabilities and qualities emerge."
I've written about this subject before, of course. Two pieces from the FPL blog - "DECLINING WITH AGE? NO, WITH TIME!" and "SEX IN THE SECOND HALF!" - are specifically about the illusions and distorted views and beliefs that we have about "aging" that create our reality.
In truth, beginning at birth and ending with death (if we choose to have that kind of ending to physical life), the process of being human is one of continual incarnation.
What I mean by that is that our soul energy, the source of which comes from our Higher Self in any particular lifetime, infuses us gradually and continually throughout our journey as physical beings. In other words, we live at a higher and higher vibratory rate as we mature, more and more filled up with the energy of spirit until, once again, we go back to being pure spirit, as we were before physical incarnation.
Some people have learned or been conditioned to fear this process, and so look upon what is meant to be a glorious evolution as a "deterioration." And as we know, what you believe is what creates your reality. So, for many, what can be an experience of greater vibrancy, potency, wisdom and creativity over time instead becomes a depressing time of loss.
Julia Moulden uses Jack Palance as an example of someone who remained vital well into his elder years, and showed it off at the 1992 Oscars when he did his famous one-handed push-ups on stage, at the age of 73. (Palance won the Oscar for Best Supporting Actor in "City Slickers.")
Life is meant to get better and better as you grow and progress through it, folks. Don't fear the reaper. Rather, just start reaping!
Remember, life is meant to be a celebration!
DON'T FEAR THE REAPER - BE THE REAPER!
There was a piece in the Huffington Post, entitled, "Over 50? You're at the Height Of Your Powers," by Julia Moulden.
Here's an excerpt:
"Mental decline, for instance, isn't inevitable. Scientists say there's no reason our brains have to degenerate as we age; they're 'plastic' and can grow and develop just as they did when we were younger. Physical decline isn't unavoidable, either. The physical changes we associate with aging, such as loss of strength, speed and agility, are not caused as much by the passing years as by our sedentary lifestyle. Just as we need to continue to use our brains, we need to keep moving our bodies. The truth is that as we age, we actually improve in many ways. Enjoyment of life and happiness rise steadily after 50. We become more emotionally stable. And new capabilities and qualities emerge."
I've written about this subject before, of course. Two pieces from the FPL blog - "DECLINING WITH AGE? NO, WITH TIME!" and "SEX IN THE SECOND HALF!" - are specifically about the illusions and distorted views and beliefs that we have about "aging" that create our reality.
In truth, beginning at birth and ending with death (if we choose to have that kind of ending to physical life), the process of being human is one of continual incarnation.
What I mean by that is that our soul energy, the source of which comes from our Higher Self in any particular lifetime, infuses us gradually and continually throughout our journey as physical beings. In other words, we live at a higher and higher vibratory rate as we mature, more and more filled up with the energy of spirit until, once again, we go back to being pure spirit, as we were before physical incarnation.
Some people have learned or been conditioned to fear this process, and so look upon what is meant to be a glorious evolution as a "deterioration." And as we know, what you believe is what creates your reality. So, for many, what can be an experience of greater vibrancy, potency, wisdom and creativity over time instead becomes a depressing time of loss.
Julia Moulden uses Jack Palance as an example of someone who remained vital well into his elder years, and showed it off at the 1992 Oscars when he did his famous one-handed push-ups on stage, at the age of 73. (Palance won the Oscar for Best Supporting Actor in "City Slickers.")
Life is meant to get better and better as you grow and progress through it, folks. Don't fear the reaper. Rather, just start reaping!
RIDING THE WAVE WITH HELIOS!
I am back from two weeks, linearly speaking, of life at the shore, channeling and communing with "Helios," the personification of the sun in Greek mythology, known also as "Sol" in Roman mythology.
As is always the case when it is one's intention, this year's journey to the sea was revelatory and transformational at many levels. The first affirmation that came to me from Helios early on was: "Things are never going to be the same!" This invocation was to be said not the way human beings typically say it, with a sense of tragedy or remorse, but rather with a spirit of excitement and celebration.
THINGS ARE NEVER GOING TO BE THE SAME!
Ha! Try it out. Say it with an energy of positive anticipation and see how it feels.
Anyway, I look towards "vacations" as a time for me to let go of familiar environments, habits, routines, and mental patterns in order to refresh my spirit, reboot my mind, and cleanse my energy field, while absorbing the exquisite healing energy of nature's best. There are few things in life - orgasm, deep meditation and a great sleep are among them - that compare with the sheer joy of immersing myself in the ocean under a bright sun bursting forth through an azure sky. When I am taken by a wave while body surfing, the laughter that roars out of me is a true harmonic between my personality and my soul. I laugh so strongly because I am simultaneously so awed by the power of the water to do with me what it will, and yet in that seeming helplessness, I also feel a knowing comfort that all is right with the Universe.
The Wave that I've often written about over the last 2 years, is strong and getting stronger, folks. As some people are soaring forward into a place of self-actualization, creative expression and pleasure in love, Eros and sex, others are getting slammed and slammed hard. People died out here on Fire Island this year, young people, in their twenties, overdosing on drugs, drowning from recklessly swimming while under the influence late at night during a storm. People who are unconscious or in denial (same thing in a way) will say these were just tragic accidents, the result of youth or maybe depression, etc., and at a superficial level, there is veracity in such an understanding.
At a deeper level of understanding, though, those souls left the planet because they weren't prepared and/or willing to ride The Wave. I am neither being glib nor grim about this. Our souls know that we are eternal and every journey in physical existence has its span of time. However, if you are on the borderline of awakening to your true nature, but are hesitating in doing what it takes to raise your vibration up to that awakening, just know that there is an opportunity for a great deal of help right now, one way or another.
I say ride that Wave! (More pictures to come!)
As is always the case when it is one's intention, this year's journey to the sea was revelatory and transformational at many levels. The first affirmation that came to me from Helios early on was: "Things are never going to be the same!" This invocation was to be said not the way human beings typically say it, with a sense of tragedy or remorse, but rather with a spirit of excitement and celebration.
THINGS ARE NEVER GOING TO BE THE SAME!
Ha! Try it out. Say it with an energy of positive anticipation and see how it feels.
Anyway, I look towards "vacations" as a time for me to let go of familiar environments, habits, routines, and mental patterns in order to refresh my spirit, reboot my mind, and cleanse my energy field, while absorbing the exquisite healing energy of nature's best. There are few things in life - orgasm, deep meditation and a great sleep are among them - that compare with the sheer joy of immersing myself in the ocean under a bright sun bursting forth through an azure sky. When I am taken by a wave while body surfing, the laughter that roars out of me is a true harmonic between my personality and my soul. I laugh so strongly because I am simultaneously so awed by the power of the water to do with me what it will, and yet in that seeming helplessness, I also feel a knowing comfort that all is right with the Universe.
The Wave that I've often written about over the last 2 years, is strong and getting stronger, folks. As some people are soaring forward into a place of self-actualization, creative expression and pleasure in love, Eros and sex, others are getting slammed and slammed hard. People died out here on Fire Island this year, young people, in their twenties, overdosing on drugs, drowning from recklessly swimming while under the influence late at night during a storm. People who are unconscious or in denial (same thing in a way) will say these were just tragic accidents, the result of youth or maybe depression, etc., and at a superficial level, there is veracity in such an understanding.
At a deeper level of understanding, though, those souls left the planet because they weren't prepared and/or willing to ride The Wave. I am neither being glib nor grim about this. Our souls know that we are eternal and every journey in physical existence has its span of time. However, if you are on the borderline of awakening to your true nature, but are hesitating in doing what it takes to raise your vibration up to that awakening, just know that there is an opportunity for a great deal of help right now, one way or another.
I say ride that Wave! (More pictures to come!)
TODAY'S QUOTE!
"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony."
Mahatma Gandhi
[NOTE: See Candace Pert's book, "Molecules of Emotion," which describes how when we are in such a state of harmony, our bodies enter into a state of alignment at the bio-molecular level.]
Mahatma Gandhi
[NOTE: See Candace Pert's book, "Molecules of Emotion," which describes how when we are in such a state of harmony, our bodies enter into a state of alignment at the bio-molecular level.]
Repost: "The Poetry of Sexuality/Women are the Bridge!"
Joyce McFadden, MSW, a psychoanalyst, in a great piece on the Huffington Post called, "How to Help Girls Navigate Sexualization in the Media," says this:
"We're missing the simplicity of what our daughters most need from us: our blessing of their sexuality as normal and healthy. I think as Americans, our fixation with the taboo of sexuality causes us to overlook its poetry and its greater meaning in our lives, and then we pass this limited view of sex onto our children. It's difficult for women to teach their girls how to celebrate being alive within their desire; but it's commonplace for women to teach girls how to devalue their bodies in the quest for physical perfection. A mother, over the years, even in the most seemingly innocuous statements like 'I was good today; I skipped lunch.' or 'I was bad today; I had cake' erodes herself in front of her daughter, and in so doing, systematically erodes her daughter right along with her. This is the crisis. Why do we readily and consistently, consciously and unconsciously, dispense messages of self loathing that will harm them in every way by undermining their confidence, even as we shy away from teaching them how to protect, delight in, and express love with their bodies?"
At one point, McFadden refers to a sex therapist, Esther Perel, author of "Mating in Captivity," a book exploring the sexual complications within marriage, who says that it isn't usually the mechanics of sex that bring couples to her for help, but rather their desire for "the poetics of sex."
Well, that's painful, isn't it? As those of you who are familiar with my work and writings know, I stand staunchly on the side of healthy sexuality as the cornerstone of all the other variables regarding physical, emotional and mental health. Sexual energy, Chi, Kundalini - whatever it is called - is not only the most powerful force within the human body, at once healing and invigorating in its effects, but it is also the link between physical life and spiritual life.
As the Pathwork Guide says, "In the human realm the power of sexuality can, in its most ideal form, be the greatest 'representative' of spiritual existence."
The Guide continues: "There is no other human experience that conveys so fully what spiritual bliss, oneness, and timelessness are: the timeless Now, beyond the confines of time. In the total sexual experience man breaks through the confines of time and separateness to which his limited mind has bound him. Through such an experience man is reminded of his true existence in the eternal."
Mark Epstein, a Buddhist psychotherapist, has a beautiful chapter on sexuality in an amazing book entitled, "GOING TO PIECES WITHOUT FALLING APART."
Here's Epstein:
"There is always an element of separation in even the most profound union. The sexual arena is one in which the frustrations of separateness can be calmed and the resentments of disappointment drowned. It is an environment in which the most primitive and taboo impulses - of sucking, biting, teasing, prohibition and surrender - can be acted out in the pursuit of union. Passion is a vehicle for containing the incendiary mix of anger and desire. Anger loses its aversive quality and becomes raw excitement. As lovers attack each other's boundaries and gradually yield to each other's desire, they enter a territory in which the emotions of separateness pulse as one. There is no way to experience desire, however, without yielding some amount of control."
Beautiful! Please continue, Mark:
"Clinging is as much of a problem in lovemaking as in the rest of life. In order for sexual relations to be deeply satisfying, there must be a yielding of this clinging in a manner that actually affirms the unknowability and separateness of the loved partner. It is the peculiar convergence of awe and appreciation with pleasure and release that characterizes the best sexual experiences. Separate and together cease to be mutually exclusive and instead become reciprocally enhancing and mutually informative. There is wisdom in this state, not just raw instinct. Our habitual ways of thinking and doing obscure the underlying reality. Just as most couples engage in sexual activity without realizing how much more subtle and all-pervasive their pleasure could be, so do we go through our lives without experiencing much of the joy that is available through the simple nonactivity of being. Just as the sexual yogi has to learn to stop doing and make himself into an offering so that he can appreciate the profundity of his partner's arousal, so too do we have to learn how to stop proving ourselves and surrender to the more magnificent world of which we are a part."
Thank you, Mark. And let me finally add this:
Women are the bridge. Just as a soul "comes down" and enters the earth plane through the body of a woman, so too can we touch the heavens going in the other direction through her. In his book, Epstein talks about how it is through the orgasm of the woman that we find the cosmic experience of sexuality. He is unabashed in saying that a man's orgasm is secondary to the woman's, his being an "offering at the altar of her lap." Any man that I have ever talked to in depth about this who has truly experienced deep sexual union with a woman, knows this to be true. Great sex is greatly about the woman's orgasmic experience, which opens the portal to the universe.
So back to our mothers and daughters - and come on Dads and sons, get in on this! - we need to do whatever it takes to overcome these barriers that stifle the poetry of sex, and indeed, as Joyce McFadden implores us, bless the sexuality of our children.
"We're missing the simplicity of what our daughters most need from us: our blessing of their sexuality as normal and healthy. I think as Americans, our fixation with the taboo of sexuality causes us to overlook its poetry and its greater meaning in our lives, and then we pass this limited view of sex onto our children. It's difficult for women to teach their girls how to celebrate being alive within their desire; but it's commonplace for women to teach girls how to devalue their bodies in the quest for physical perfection. A mother, over the years, even in the most seemingly innocuous statements like 'I was good today; I skipped lunch.' or 'I was bad today; I had cake' erodes herself in front of her daughter, and in so doing, systematically erodes her daughter right along with her. This is the crisis. Why do we readily and consistently, consciously and unconsciously, dispense messages of self loathing that will harm them in every way by undermining their confidence, even as we shy away from teaching them how to protect, delight in, and express love with their bodies?"
At one point, McFadden refers to a sex therapist, Esther Perel, author of "Mating in Captivity," a book exploring the sexual complications within marriage, who says that it isn't usually the mechanics of sex that bring couples to her for help, but rather their desire for "the poetics of sex."
Well, that's painful, isn't it? As those of you who are familiar with my work and writings know, I stand staunchly on the side of healthy sexuality as the cornerstone of all the other variables regarding physical, emotional and mental health. Sexual energy, Chi, Kundalini - whatever it is called - is not only the most powerful force within the human body, at once healing and invigorating in its effects, but it is also the link between physical life and spiritual life.
As the Pathwork Guide says, "In the human realm the power of sexuality can, in its most ideal form, be the greatest 'representative' of spiritual existence."
The Guide continues: "There is no other human experience that conveys so fully what spiritual bliss, oneness, and timelessness are: the timeless Now, beyond the confines of time. In the total sexual experience man breaks through the confines of time and separateness to which his limited mind has bound him. Through such an experience man is reminded of his true existence in the eternal."
Mark Epstein, a Buddhist psychotherapist, has a beautiful chapter on sexuality in an amazing book entitled, "GOING TO PIECES WITHOUT FALLING APART."
Here's Epstein:
"There is always an element of separation in even the most profound union. The sexual arena is one in which the frustrations of separateness can be calmed and the resentments of disappointment drowned. It is an environment in which the most primitive and taboo impulses - of sucking, biting, teasing, prohibition and surrender - can be acted out in the pursuit of union. Passion is a vehicle for containing the incendiary mix of anger and desire. Anger loses its aversive quality and becomes raw excitement. As lovers attack each other's boundaries and gradually yield to each other's desire, they enter a territory in which the emotions of separateness pulse as one. There is no way to experience desire, however, without yielding some amount of control."
Beautiful! Please continue, Mark:
"Clinging is as much of a problem in lovemaking as in the rest of life. In order for sexual relations to be deeply satisfying, there must be a yielding of this clinging in a manner that actually affirms the unknowability and separateness of the loved partner. It is the peculiar convergence of awe and appreciation with pleasure and release that characterizes the best sexual experiences. Separate and together cease to be mutually exclusive and instead become reciprocally enhancing and mutually informative. There is wisdom in this state, not just raw instinct. Our habitual ways of thinking and doing obscure the underlying reality. Just as most couples engage in sexual activity without realizing how much more subtle and all-pervasive their pleasure could be, so do we go through our lives without experiencing much of the joy that is available through the simple nonactivity of being. Just as the sexual yogi has to learn to stop doing and make himself into an offering so that he can appreciate the profundity of his partner's arousal, so too do we have to learn how to stop proving ourselves and surrender to the more magnificent world of which we are a part."
Thank you, Mark. And let me finally add this:
Women are the bridge. Just as a soul "comes down" and enters the earth plane through the body of a woman, so too can we touch the heavens going in the other direction through her. In his book, Epstein talks about how it is through the orgasm of the woman that we find the cosmic experience of sexuality. He is unabashed in saying that a man's orgasm is secondary to the woman's, his being an "offering at the altar of her lap." Any man that I have ever talked to in depth about this who has truly experienced deep sexual union with a woman, knows this to be true. Great sex is greatly about the woman's orgasmic experience, which opens the portal to the universe.
So back to our mothers and daughters - and come on Dads and sons, get in on this! - we need to do whatever it takes to overcome these barriers that stifle the poetry of sex, and indeed, as Joyce McFadden implores us, bless the sexuality of our children.
GROWN-UP POLITICIANS AN OXYMORON!
I posted this in response to a July 4th blog piece by journalist, Lauren Ashburn, on the Huffington Post. Lauren was wishing for grown-up politicians as an Independence Day birthday present.
Here's what I had to say to that:
At this point in our collective history, Lauren, "grown-up politician" has become an oxymoron. There are two ways that power can be used: power over or power for. A politician in our era seeks to exert power over others for personal gain; a true leader wields power for the benefit of the many. A politician manipulates by deception; a leader demonstrates by example. A modern politician's moral compass is rooted in his or her narcissism; a leader's guiding principle is found in the Declaration of Independence, which we celebrated yesterday, in that now quaint notion that leaders are bestowed their "just powers from the consent of the governed."
Grown-up politicians? A nice thought, but...
Here's what I had to say to that:
At this point in our collective history, Lauren, "grown-up politician" has become an oxymoron. There are two ways that power can be used: power over or power for. A politician in our era seeks to exert power over others for personal gain; a true leader wields power for the benefit of the many. A politician manipulates by deception; a leader demonstrates by example. A modern politician's moral compass is rooted in his or her narcissism; a leader's guiding principle is found in the Declaration of Independence, which we celebrated yesterday, in that now quaint notion that leaders are bestowed their "just powers from the consent of the governed."
Grown-up politicians? A nice thought, but...
TODAY'S QUOTE!
"Most people would rather take more and more chemical drugs, have more surgeries, get dialysis, wear diapers and buy an electric scooter to ride in than to do a 5-Day kidney detox and get healthy."
Dr. Richard Schulze (herbalist supreme)
Dr. Richard Schulze (herbalist supreme)
"B" RESPONDS TO PL'S: "WHO'S BIPOLAR? PARENTS, DOCTORS AND TEACHERS RUINING CHILDREN'S LIVES!"/PL RESPONDS!
Here's B:
Wow...Been reading your blog...and WHERE THE HELL HAVE YOU BEEN PETER???.... I cant believe that there are actually people out there (especially in the so called psychotherapy community) who realize what a scam this whole "psychopharmacology" industry really is..not to mention this whole compulsion to protect our parenting/education methodologies from scrutiny by attributing aberrant behavior to genetics or random forces...
I'm a stand up comic/enlightenment seeker (which aint easy...Bill Hicks being the only one who seemed to bridge those two worlds) in NYC looking to find some sparks of truth in this unconscious society...Just wanted to thank you for your insights...& wisdom...I lost a brother to this whole "Bi-polar" scam...Your blog is inspiring...Where are all the wise souls? Even the ones who appear to have a lot on the ball (like lets say Wayne Dyer just for a random example) sometimes seem to be coming from very ego driven places...or that could be just my projection of course...
B
Here's PL:
Clearly, you are an "enlightenment seeker," B, and perhaps an older soul in a young/maturing soul world. And yes, even many teachers with good things to say have egos.
Thanks so much for writing, B
Wow...Been reading your blog...and WHERE THE HELL HAVE YOU BEEN PETER???.... I cant believe that there are actually people out there (especially in the so called psychotherapy community) who realize what a scam this whole "psychopharmacology" industry really is..not to mention this whole compulsion to protect our parenting/education methodologies from scrutiny by attributing aberrant behavior to genetics or random forces...
I'm a stand up comic/enlightenment seeker (which aint easy...Bill Hicks being the only one who seemed to bridge those two worlds) in NYC looking to find some sparks of truth in this unconscious society...Just wanted to thank you for your insights...& wisdom...I lost a brother to this whole "Bi-polar" scam...Your blog is inspiring...Where are all the wise souls? Even the ones who appear to have a lot on the ball (like lets say Wayne Dyer just for a random example) sometimes seem to be coming from very ego driven places...or that could be just my projection of course...
B
Here's PL:
Clearly, you are an "enlightenment seeker," B, and perhaps an older soul in a young/maturing soul world. And yes, even many teachers with good things to say have egos.
Thanks so much for writing, B
CUP 'O JOE KEEPS THE DOCTOR AWAY!
If it feels good, it is good.
That's how I translate the "Pleasure Principle," a concept described by both Sigmund Freud and by those who speak through spiritual channels, as an understanding about how we are made as human beings.
Thus, according to a major study out of the Harvard School of Public Health recently is the news that a good dose of coffee a day keeps prostate cancer away.
Yep. It's that time!
That's how I translate the "Pleasure Principle," a concept described by both Sigmund Freud and by those who speak through spiritual channels, as an understanding about how we are made as human beings.
Thus, according to a major study out of the Harvard School of Public Health recently is the news that a good dose of coffee a day keeps prostate cancer away.
Yep. It's that time!
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