TODAY'S MOTHER'S DAY REMINDER!


"Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable."

Kahlil Gibran


MOTHERING... EVEN WITHOUT CHILDREN!

"Generativity is primarily the interest in establishing and guiding the next generation, although there are people who, because of special gifts in other directions, do not apply this drive to having offspring, but to engaging in other forms of altruistic concern and creativity which may absorb their kind of "parental" responsibility. This is a stage of growth of the healthy adult personality, and where such enrichment fails, regression from generativity to an obsessive need for pseudo intimacy takes place, often with a pervading sense of stagnation and interpersonal impoverishment. The mere fact of having, or even wanting children does not itself attest to generativity."
Erik Erikson

I have often reposted that Erikson quote, written in the last century, because it is so relevant to our time in the 21st Century and to the vibrational rise up to 5D that's been occurring since the end of 2012. 

More than ever, First and Second Wave people are choosing not to have biological children, and even those who do choose to have offspring are having fewer of them, and at a later age. In fact, so-called "Millennials" are having fewer children than any other generation... ever! And while 3D-minded social scientists and statisticians scramble to explain the historic decline in the birth rate through the lens of old school theories, the truth is... this is great and timely news!

What Mother Earth does not need during this time is more physical bodies, but rather, she needs for those already here to become more enlightened, self-actualized and engaged in generativity fully. 

As someone who has been privileged to participate in the process of hundreds of people awakening and journeying toward higher consciousness, I have witnessed more and more people coming to work on themselves with an intensity and focus that could not be maintained easily while engaged in the 20-year full-time job of parenting a child. So, most have chosen to forego the role, which for centuries was a societal requirement for a woman. I salute you and wish you a Happy Mothers Day! I also salute those rare individuals who are giving it a go, having physical children while pursuing their self-actualization in earnest. 

On this Mothers Day, 2018, I honor all of you, all the mothers giving back to life, even the ones dressed in the illusion of male bodies!

Happy Mother's Day!




GREAT NON-EXPECTATIONS!

Someone referred me to an article, "Why Generation Y Yuppies Are Unhappy," on a blog whose name I love: "wait but why." The piece mainly describes what the author (whose name I couldn't find) feels is the root of the problem: unrealistic expectations on the part of GenY-ers (Those born between the late 70's and mid-90's).

The theory presented basically purports that the latter day post-hippie then prosperous Baby Boom generation spawned a generation of entitled narcissists - their kids - who expect everything in their fantasy life to come true, but don't want to work for it. - at all. This is a current and very popular idea, and sociologically, holds some merit. But it is also superficial and a generalization, of course, as all 3D theories must be.

I'm sure the FPL reader who sent me the link did so because she knows that a focus of the work that I do with people includes guidance to rid oneself of not just unrealistic expectations, but of all expectations.

Here's Eckhart Tolle:

"Today I’m going to suggest a small change in mindset that could change your life. I won’t keep you in suspense. Here it is: think of nothing that happens as either good or bad. Stop judging, and stop expecting. It’s a tiny change — all you have to do is say, ‘That wasn’t good or bad, it just happened, it just is.’ It’s tiny, but it takes practice, and amazingly, it can knock you on your ass. Why? Because with this little change, you will no longer be swayed up and down depending on whether good things or bad things happen to you, whether people (and their actions) are good or bad. You will learn to accept things as they are, and move within that landscape mindfully. You will no longer expect good things to happen (or bad things), but will just take things as they come, and be content with whatever comes. This means you’ll no longer be disappointed, or unhappy. The second half of this change is just as small, but just as important: dropping expectations. Not lowering expectations, but eliminating them."

Really? No expectations, Eckhart? Wouldn't that lead to complacency? Lethargy? Boredom? If we didn't have high hopes for things, didn't have goals, a focus on outcomes, what would motivate us to do anything?

I'm glad I asked.

As a screenwriter by avocation (at least so far), I've have heard from many fellow writers, producers, actors, etc., that every good screenplay has conflict in it. In fact, I have been told, that every scene in every good screenplay must have conflict in it. There must always be "tension," the conventional wisdom goes, something for the hero to overcome, face, defeat or defy, in order for a story to be interesting. Many people feel that this is also the key to an interesting, exciting life, as well, and so, they are always creating barriers, crises and limitations to break through in their daily lives. What fun!

Nonetheless, I have wondered, what might be interesting about a story or a life that didn't have conflict as its motivating force? If there weren't obstacles to overcome, if there were no victories to be won by defeating someone or something outside or even inside of ourselves, if there were no resistance, what would make life exciting?

Ready?

Creating!

That's right. Creating.

The main thing we do from the highest levels of our being is create... and then, experience what we create... and then, create some more. Endless creation. That is essentially the main activity of All That Is. Seems pretty exciting to me.

So, back to the question of where would motivation come from?

Motivation would come from desire and inspiration. Desire and inspiration come directly from our Higher Selves. They are the initial stirrings of creation in a physical body in a linear time continuum. (In non-physical form, desire, inspiration and creation, as well as experiencing, would occur simultaneously.) And make no mistake, our desires and inspirations are not random or whimsical, but rather, they are messages about what our Higher Self would like to create through us. And folks, yes, our desires are meant to be fulfilled. Really.

The process looks like this: desire and inspiration come from our Higher Self. This stirs the imagination. Our task at that point is to play with images and visions of the fulfillment of the desires through creative expression. Then, through this playing process, we will attract opportunities and find paths for action in the physical world to actualize our desire.

So, where do expectations fit in.. or not fit in?

First of all, you can only have expectations if you are not focused in the moment. Expectations are always about a future outcome that the lower self mind and ego believes is best, and said pictured outcome is often rooted in the idea of undoing or overcoming a less-than-satisfying past. This is a constipated creative process at best.

Secondly, expectations, as a function of the lower self mind and ego, are inherently limited to what the lower self mind and ego can conceive of. And that mean no "miracles," no serendipity, no quantum leaps, just the... expected.

So, folks, whatever generation you're from, let go of your judgments and expectations, tune into your desires, use your imagination and create. No need for conflict or obstacles or antagonists in your story. Unless of course that's what you desire.

Comment Lao Tzu?

“When people see some things as beautiful, other things become ugly.
When people see some things as good, other things become bad.”

Thanks, LT.

REPOST: IT'S IN THE BLOOD!

"The day may yet arise when one may take a drop of blood and diagnose the condition of the entire human body."
Edgar Cayce

I was shown an amazing video yesterday of an interview with one Harvey Bigelson, MD, on the "Conscious Media Network," part of Gaiam TV. Dr. Bigelson, a pioneer in homeopathic medicine, discovered that if you examine live blood cells under what is called a "dark field microscope," you will see holographic images relevant to the current health condition of the person.

OK. What are you talking about, PL?

I will try and explain this as simply as possible.

First of all, it turns out that blood tests, as they are usually done, are not of live blood cells. Huh? That's right. The blood cells in samples taken from patients in traditional blood tests are dead when they are examined. This is so for two reasons: 1. the cells are not viewed immediately; and 2. the cells are injected with stains and dyes before they are viewed. So, what you get back from a common blood test is similar to an autopsy. You get chemical composition and cell counts, but no live picture of how the blood and body are functioning in real time.

What Dr. B discovered by immediately looking at blood samples under a dark field microscope with a special lens that doesn't require any staining process, the pictures in our blood show very different results... to say the least! In fact, there are actually pictures, or more accurately, "crystalized holographic images."

In other words, contained in our blood cells are 3-dimensional images of what's going on in our bodies that we need to know. So, for example, a live blood sample of a pregnant women contains a holographic image of the growing fetus that exactly matches the images taken through a sonogram. Likewise, everything from a broken bone or a tape worm to a dental implant will show up in these images if they are creating an imbalance in the body.

Take a breath. Now, think about it. This is one of those game-changers.

Everything is composed of energy and energy is directed by consciousness. And just as the whole contains everything, every little bit of everything also contains the whole. This has been known and demonstrated for a number of years through holography, which is a type of photography that uses lasers to create a holographic image, or hologram. What has been remarkably demonstrated through this method is that you can cut off any corner or bit of a hologram and using lasers, or a dark field microscope, see the entire image.

Now, take another breath because the next piece of information from Dr. B might seem off the charts.

In some cases, Bigelson found images in the blood of an event in the patients body that hadn't happened yet! In the Gaiam video, Dr. B showed a female patient's live blood sample that had an image of a fractured femur bone, exactly matching the X-Ray of the broken femur in the patient from an accident which happened subsequent to the examination. So, not only does the smallest part of us know what is happening to us, what we are creating, each cell of our body even registers what we are intending for ourselves.

I have been saying to people for a while now that intention is everything. Everything that we create, everything that occurs within us and around us starts with an intention. And guess what? The body knows it. I have had the experience, for example, of deciding to start a cleanse on a Sunday, and beginning to show the effects of the cleanse on Saturday! A day ahead of the physical action.

As I wrote in my Truth About Everything post, "The Placebo Effect is Real," when you understand that consciousness directs everything, it changes everything. Or at least it should.

Thank you Dr. Harvey Bigelson, and thank you to my partner, who in her tireless quest for higher knowledge, brought me this information.

ADDENDUM TO: "ARE YOU BECOMING RUTHLESS ABOUT YOUR SOLITUDE?!"

I'm back! 

From a sojourn in solitude, a journey into my self - emotionally, spiritually and creatively. I spent the month of February in The Bahamas, Freeport specifically, basking in the warm sun, bathing in the clear, aqua sea, and writing a book. I was alone for the first three weeks, and it was a revelation in that I revealed myself to myself without the comforts of sharing space and interacting directly with loved ones.

I walked and meditated on the beach first thing in the morning, swam several times a day, and talked to myself out loud in my journal using voice dictation (My MacBook Air became for me what "Wilson," the soccer ball, was for Tom Hanks in "Castaway!"). I got close to the sound of my own breathing. I also laughed out loud, especially when I found myself saying: "I'm tan, in a bathing suit and tank top, walking on the beach in water so clear I can see my feet many yards out... and it's February!" When I returned home to Brooklyn, and several snowstorms that apparently had been waiting for me, I laughed again. "Ha! You think I care about snow? I'M TAN!!"



Below is a piece I wrote year or two ago (See the above title), and here is a link to another one, entitled, "WANT A BETTER RELATIONSHIP? ENJOY SOME SOLITUDE!" In that post, I talked about the importance, not only for creative purposes, but for the betterment of one's relationships, and life in general, of spending "quality time" alone. 

Well, in this run-up to 5D, making the choice to have a good amount of solitude in your life has risen to the level of an imperative. As one's vibrational frequency rises, which is occurring in general to everyone, but at an accelerated rate for those who've awakened and are actively pursuing their path through the ascension process, it becomes increasingly necessary to protect one's personal energy field from vibrations of a lower frequency. In other words, you can't hang out with friends, family members, colleagues, etc., whose vibration is lower than yours, without feeling some negative effects. And right now, those effects are manifesting at a faster and faster rate.

I am hearing more and more from the awakened people I work with and who read this blog that they are finding more and more people, places and situations intolerable.

Here's a passage from an amazing book, ONENESS, by Rasha:

"The tendency to distance oneself helps to create a vibrational buffer and is a self-protective mechanism that one adopts instinctively. For, until you become adept at stabilizing the accelerating levels of vibration, you are susceptible to the variations in vibrational frequency with which you are surrounded and the extremes of experience that can result. One becomes acutely aware of the effects of certain environments and certain individuals upon one’s manifestation of life experience. And one begins to make choices that others may consider radical. One often becomes ruthless in the curtailing of associations and activities that no longer serve one’s highest interests.The tendency becomes increasingly that of choosing aloneness over the companionship of others that had always been taken for granted as a way of life. One comes to regard one’s own company as profoundly gratifying, and the time one chooses to spend interacting with others begins to diminish. One becomes attuned to one’s own inner world and is drawn to withdrawing to that space at every opportunity.”
Whoa, PL! Are you saying that I shouldn't go to my family's for Thanksgiving next year? That I should quit my job? Ditch my old college friends? Not ride the subways?!

Well... yes. And no. 

The yes is this - 

If you attempt to lower your own vibration in order to maintain a relationship or spend significant amounts of time in an environment that's not up to where you're at consciousness-wise, you're going to feel out of balance and toxic. At a certain point, you will have no choice but to distance yourself from that person, place or thing, or invite a crisis. Thus, the growing phenomenon this past November to celebrate "Friendsgiving" -  Thanksgiving with friends instead of family.

The no is implied in this sentence from Oneness above -

"For, until you become adept at stabilizing the accelerating levels of vibration, you are susceptible to the variations in vibrational frequency with which you are surrounded and the extremes of experience that can result."

In other words, the need to be "ruthless" in distancing yourself from others with low vibrations is temporary. Once you become stabilized in your ascension process, and are no longer relating to others as other than reflections of you, you will be able to go anywhere and be with anyone without your level of vibration or consciousness being affected. Most likely, however, you will only choose to do so as a teacher or guide.

For now, though, most of you who are in a transitional phase of your process, will have to take measures to protect your energy field. So, besides staying home alone or living in the woods, what does that look like? 

It looks like this -  whenever you choose to mingle with a variety of vibrations, you take a few minutes through breath and meditation (in advance is best) to first clear your own field of any low vibrations, and fill it up with the highest frequency of love and light possible. Then, you do the same thing for the vortex and field of energy you're entering, clearing out the negative, low vibes and filling up the room and the energy fields of the people around you with higher vibes. [NOTE: If you're able to at least consider that everyone is a reflection of a part of you, it will help with the process.]

You can do this, folks. And the results will be nearly instantaneous if you're sincere. 

Of course, the results will also be nearly instantaneous if you don't do this.

Here's an example - 

Earlier this year, I was heading to a gathering in my car, to a situation that I knew was going to be filled with low vibrations. I neglected to take those few minutes to clear and protect my field, etc., and - no joke - I pull into the driveway at the home of said gathering... and my car catches on fire! I instantaneously realized what I'd forgotten to do.  

Turns out it was just a hot bulb that had come loose and fell on some plastic, creating a lot of smoke, but I gratefully accepted the reminder and did my inner work before I went into the house. And I've never forgotten since. Whew!


HAPPY FIRST DAY OF SPRING! (PEAK EXPERIENCES! FREE SAMPLES! GOT YOURS?)

During the 1950's, Psychologist Abraham Maslow, who developed the concept of "peak human potential," did years of research on what he called "peak experiences. 

"Almost all people have or can have peak experiences," Maslow said. (These are what I have referred to as "free samples from the Universe.")

Psychologist Stella Resnik, in her book, The Pleasure Zone, wrote: "Peak experiences are intensely pleasurable times that can last for just a minute or for several weeks or more. They are periods of complete happiness and fulfillment. . . perceived as great moments, as very fine times in a person's life."

Maslow found that certain individuals - people he called "self-actualized", enjoyed a much higher frequency of peak experiences than did individuals in the general population. They felt fulfilled in their lives, motivated "not by need, but by the desire to grow."

Maslow's findings may not surprise most FPL readers who've actually done some serious self-work. The free sample I often speak of isn't meant to be a tease, folks, but an enticement to move oneself, whatever it takes, towards self-actualization, the place where peak experiences become part of everyday life i.e. - Full Permission Living!

Spring is here, and  then... If you're doing your self-work, it's gonna be a great summer! Get your peak experiences planned in!





THE PRIMAL SEXUAL IMPERATIVES OF THE CHARACTER STRUCTURES

Character structures are sets of defenses that we create in early childhood that affect us deeply for much of our lives. Every aspect of a person's physical/personality self is affected by character structure - mind, body and emotions. We create them to survive the slings and arrows of our imperfect childhoods with imperfect parents, but like the cocoon of a caterpillar, when we are ready to become self-actualized adults, we must shed them, "break through" our character structures. Not easy. It requires help. But there's no end run around it. The good news is that underneath it all is a Higher Self with great capacities and gifts to give to life.

This new delineation of what I'm calling the "primal sexual imperatives" of the character structures is meant to serve as an addendum to the full descriptions of the character structures found HERE on the Full Permission Living blog, taken from the 5 classes I teach on the subject.

Each character structure has a set of embedded directives meant to divert, distort or inhibit our powerful natural urges for self-expression, in order to keep the ego in control of our thoughts, feelings and actions. What follows, then, are what the ego, unable to eliminate sexual urges and desires altogether, though it would if it could, seeks to manipulate and use sex for.

Schizoid Character Structure: Sex for Control

To the schizoid ego, the free flow of energy through the body, is a major perceived threat, an existential threat. "Life is hazardous to my life" is a core negative belief held by the person with this structure. Literally fearing disintegration and annihilation of the self if the life force isn't controlled and/or cut-off, this person co-opts sexual energy and uses any participation in sexual acts for the purpose of controlling that energy and ultimately the body itself.

Oral Character Structure: Sex for Nurturance

Although the person with this character structure isn't terrified of or cut-off from the life force and sexual energy within them, they are undercharged energetically as a result of living through an early history of deprivation or enmeshment with the primary caretaker of early childhood, and so, they live in an inner world of lack, deprivation and need. "There isn't enough" is the core negative belief adhered to here, and the sex act is seen as a possible way to get "filled up," nurtured, unconditionally loved. Orgasms are not highly charged, and secondary to the wish to be taken care of, which is the main purpose of sex for the oral character.


Masochistic Character Structure: Sex for Release

Charged with plenty of energy, including sexually, but judging and suppressing it and "packing it in" the muscles of the body, this CS desperately seeks release through sex, often compulsively so. "If I let my feelings out, I'll will create a big mess, but if I don't, I'll explode!" Says the masochistic ego, supporting the claim with another 
core negative primal belief in one's own "badness." Battling with the need for release versus the efforts to suppress it, orgasms, just like bowel movements, are pushed out with force against the clenched muscles.

Psychopathic Character Structure: Sex for Power

While the schizoid CS seeks control of its own body and energy, the psychopathic CS seeks to exert power over others. Lacking the capacity for basic trust and true empathy, the person with this CS believes others are always seeking the upper hand through lies and manipulation, so one can truly be trusted. Thus, the core negative primal belief goes something like this: "I must always be right, must never submit or surrender to the will of others, must dominate and seduce others to control them, by any means necessary." A true chameleon, a psychopathic character will appear to be whoever and whatever you wish, including a 
sexually skilled, tireless, attentive lover. In fact, this CS allows for very little genuine physical pleasure, due to the defense mechanism of numbing, so in spite of dramatic displays to the contrary, sex is a bleak experience to the person with this CS.

Rigid Character Structure: Sex for Validation


Considered the only "genital" character of the five major character structures, this person is bioenergetically fully functioning sexually. Orgasm and sexual pleasure are fully charged and accessible in the body, flowing freely, but... there is a caveat - the pleasurable experience is laced with an ego need for validation. The need to be seen as beautiful, talented, smart, fit, young, etc., the list goes on, along with the defining of every situation as a performance, all of that is funneled into sexual interactions with others who must also serve to validate the rigid CS by their high levels of performance and admired attributes. The the core negative primal belief: "I must always look good, appear together and be highly valued and praised for my accomplishments by significant others, who must also look good, appear together and be highly valued and praised for their accomplishments."

REPOST: "I AM HE AS YOU ARE HE AS YOU ARE ME AND WE ARE ALL TOGETHER!" (On "HO'OPONOPONO")

Okay, folks, this is top shelf stuff, bottom line, how it really works, whether you're conscious of it or not, whether you agree with it or not, whether you like it or not! If we could really nail this, really know this consciously, and utilize it, well... we'd be living in alignment with 5D consciousness.

This article is from the book, "Zero Limits," by Dr. Joe Vitale.

Here's the excerpt -

The World's Most Unusual Therapist
by Dr. Joe Vitale

Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.

When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane?

It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.

However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more.

I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does. The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility.

His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.

Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.

After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely. Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.

I was in awe.

Not only that, but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.

This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: "What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?"

"I was simply healing the part of me that created them," he said.

I didn't understand.

Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life - simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.

Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life.

This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy--anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.

I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho 'oponopono means loving yourself. If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone--even a mentally ill criminal--you do it by healing you.

I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?

"I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again," he explained.

That's it?

That's it.

Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, your improve your world. Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message. This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, "I'm sorry" and "I love you," I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.

Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying "I love you," I somehow healed within me what was creating him.

I later attended a ho 'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive. He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.

"What about the books that are already sold and out there?" I asked.

"They aren't out there," he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. "They are still in you."

In short, there is no out there.

It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves. Suffice it to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you.

"When you look, do it with love."

ALL OUR HIGHER SELVES!


Many FPL readers are versed in the five basic Character Structures, those sets of defense mechanisms, beliefs, body distortions, attitudes and inhibitions that form the cocoon within which we strive to survive the slings and arrows of childhood, while living under the influence of un-self-actualized parents, living in an un-actualized culture.

Dismantling one's character structure aspects is an essential part of a self-work process that seeks to free the "caterpillar" that grows up to become the "butterfly" from the cocoon of one's character structure.

But exactly who and what is the butterfly that we can become in adulthood?

It is essentially the Adult Self expressing in human form what is called the Higher Self, or the True Self. It is the essential energy and essence from which each character structure is formed. It is the you that was always there, no matter how hidden from view by your personality distortions. It is the you that you are becoming aligned with. And every Higher Self is exactly that - the highest vibration of you as an incarnate being that you can be.

So... below, extracted from the Character Structure charts, are the Higher Self aspects of each character structure for your perusal.

Enjoy seeing yourself as you really are!


SCHIZOID CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Strong connection to and awareness of the profoundly spiritual nature of life;

Access to vast universal wisdom and the capacity to teach others how to make the connection to that wisdom;

Great courage and fearlessness to connect with feelings;

Great capacity to create and appreciate beauty, including through artistic abilities.


ORAL CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Great capacity to give to others in a deeply nurturing, truly healing way;

An appreciation for the vastly abundant nature of existence and the joy of sharing;

Genuine independence, autonomy and self-confidence with full capacity to surrender to the oneness with another;

Powerful intuitive abilities and the capacity to follow insights through to fruition by sustained, patient effort.


MASOCHISTIC CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Great capacities for pleasure, humor, optimism, playfulness and joy;

Genuine supportiveness, strength and desire to be of service to others;

An expansive, open heart with deep compassion, true kindness and understanding;

Positive assertiveness and healthy aggression with substantial amounts of energy;

Ability to be spontaneously creative in the moment, surrender ego control and trust the natural order in all things;


PSYCHOPATHIC CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Great leadership and executive qualities and capacities to bring people with differences together in a harmonious effort;

Strong abilities to guide and inspire others to accomplish their chosen tasks in life and see their own specialness without competitiveness or separation;

True innovators and adventurers able to travel “the road not taken”, or “to boldly go where no one has gone before”, without recklessness or excess;

A genuine seeker of truth, with genuine humility, honesty, loyalty and unwavering integrity;

A truly big heart full of love and fearlessness to surrender to the flow of feelings, life and the Higher Self.


RIGID CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Tremendous passion and connection to the sensuality of human relationships, with a true appreciation for and capacity to express the wonder of coming together physically in love with another;

Great capacity to let go and surrender to the flow of love, to fall in love with life and with others;

Genuine capacities to make and sustain commitments;

Strong organizational skills combined with flexibility, patience and acceptance of new approaches to situations;

A deep appreciation for the beauty of physical life, and sensibilities to integrate the elements of form to create beauty.


ARE YOU THE CRAZY VERSION OF YOURSELF SOMEONE ASKED YOU TO BE?!

"Everyone in your life is a version of themselves that you've created."

Thus says "Bashar," channeled by Darryl Anka. (That quote from THIS CLIP.)

This is similar in its import to a quote from Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, the practitioner of the Hawaiian healing art, Ho'oponopono, on how he healed people without interacting with them at all physically:

"I was simply healing the part of me that created them."

These two quote express, in a more expanded way, the Universal Truth put forth often on this blog that we create our reality from our beliefs.

Bashar and Dr. Len are basically saying that not just the events and material things in your life are your creation, but so, too, the very people you encounter and interact with in your life are your creation. That's some serious creating!

Now, understand, the individuals you create in your life are also independent beings in and of themselves, continually creating versions of themselves - and of you - to have their experiences through and with. "I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together." (Thank you, John!)

In other words, since we are truly all one, meaning not just connected, but ultimately and literally one unified being manifesting Itself in an infinite variety of seemingly separate selves, then if I want to create a version of you to have a particular experience with, you will co-create that version with me, even as I will do the same for you, as me. See?

So, the key practical question here is if there are people in your life you experience to be threatening, annoying, unpleasant to interact with and/or downright crazy, why are you creating that version of them to interact with? Why are you asking the person in question to create of version of him-or-herself that will be a problem for you?

This question is quite worth the time and effort to explore, because as long as you continue to feel victimized by the random, hostile, thwarting behavior of others, you will be unable to change your reality with said persons. Once you realize that you are creating the negative version of the person in question harassing you, you can uncreate that version. That might mean that the person changes their persona in your life, or more commonly, the person will exit your life stage left.

Remember Shakespeare?

"All the world's a stage and all the men and women merely players."

Well, thank you for being the antagonist in my play, but I'm writing out that role forthwith.

Likewise, if you find that a dysfunctional role you are playing in someone else's life no longer suits you, you can decide to leave that play for a better role, and indeed the other person will gladly replace you with someone else willing to be cast as the martyr, enabler, or narcissistic source of supply for their narcissistic lead character.

So, cast and crew members, take a look at the roles you are writing for yourself and the actors in your drama, and if you're not enjoying yourself fully, do a rewrite!

YOUR IDEAS OF WHO PEOPLE ARE, ARE ALWAYS FALSE!


Wrap your head around that! Well, of course, you can't, but you may be able to wrap your heart around it.

This is from the mind-and-heart opening book by, "The Book of Truth," channeled by Paul Selig:

"We will ask you each to make a decision now. Decide one human being in your life stands before you, anyone in your life, a friend or a parent, a coworker, perhaps, and you see them as you see them. You decide who they are based on your prior experience. 'Oh, she is wearing the sweater I bought for her. Oh, he is looking angry again. When he looks angry, he will do such and such.' You are prescribing behavior or an outcome or assigning history based on what you’ve known about them. Now would you look at this person again and make a new decision? 'Everything I know about this person is wrong, is my idea of who he or she is, and I have been projecting an identity upon them based on my prescriptions—perhaps through my experience, yes, but I am knowing them through the intellectual self who has history or ideas about who someone is.' This is the second step. To realize that you may not know is a precursor to knowing."

"Now we will ask you each, you who attend to these words, to imagine that one before you as if she was never born, had never come in the form she is in, had never been invested in a physical self, but is just vibration. What you are doing here is disassembling form or the requirement of the form to be the rendering of the construct of frequency that they express as. If they have no body, are they still themselves, or have you mistaken them through the flesh to resemble what you think they are based on prior intention? If they don’t have the body, are they still in love, in the frequency of love that I have placed them in? Are they still beautiful or ugly or old or young? In fact they are not. They just are as they are in the vibration of truth."

"Your ideas of who people are, are always false. Do you understand this? They are just your ideas and they are prescriptions you hold based on your history."

WHY ARE YOU STILL STRUGGLING?! - UPDATED!

Are you still having money problems? Relationship difficulties? Conflicts in your work-life? Blocks in your creative expression? Health issues? Anger? Depression? Anxiety? Or do you know people - friends, family members, colleagues - who are still in the grip of chronic suffering?

If you've been following the FPL posts on 5D,  you may be wondering why it seems that Murphy's Law ("Everything that can go wrong, will go wrong.") seems to still be in effect in your life, or in the lives of your significant others, when, in fact, as I have written, Murphy's Law has been reversed ("Everything that can go right, will go right, if you let it.").

Well, here's an explanation.

What has been referred to here on FPL, and in many other metaphysical, spiritual and conscious teachings, as "5D" (5th Dimensional Consciousness or Vibration) is not simply an idea or a perspective. For all intents and purposes, 5D is more like a placeSpecifically, 5D is a dimension, which, like all dimensions, has its own set of rules and operating systems. 

At the beginning of 2013, I outlined what those rules were in my post: "IT'S 2013! WHICH EARTH ARE YOU ON?!" 

The rules are: 

1. Murphy's Law is officially reversed. 
2. Creating your reality from your emotions and your ego is obsolete. 
3. Time isn't really real. 
4. The past is no longer prologue.  

For more detail about these new rules, go HERE.

In addition, in a related recent post, "THE POWER OF DOING NOTHING...POWERFULLY!", I outlined the new steps for creating your preferred reality:


Clear - Intend - Let go - Follow-up.

Clear your consciousness of the remnants of 3D, egoic thinking and beliefs and suppressed feelings in the body;
Intend for yourself in your meditations whatever it is you truly desire, and imagine it happening;
Let go by employing the energy of allowing and receiving, without expectations or fear;
Follow-up with action when your Higher Self and the Universe give you signs and create opportunities for you.

Read more on this process HERE.


So, why are you still struggling? 

Because you may still be trying to follow the old, 3D rules - dualism, linear time and limitation - in a dimension where those rules don't apply. And furthermore, those old rules were within the purview of the ego, but in the run-up to 5D, the ego holds no authority.

The ego, using the intellect, seeks to control our experience of reality by manipulating our emotions and focusing our thoughts on the past and future, causing regret and resentment, worry and anxiety. Thus, the ego creates a reality for us that seems to be full of obstacles, conflicts, judgments, limitations and adversaries. What fun! Well, actually, it was... for a while... because that was the old 3D game. To seek victory in the face of defeat, to fight against the odds, which were, of course, stacked against us, to earn our worth through actions, deeds, sacrifices, etc., fearing all along that we could fail and become unworthy once again. 

Whew! 

Yes, in 3D, where strict limitations were in full force and time was rigidly linear, the ego's game was fully supported and could be played fully. But we are not in 3D anymore. You are not in 3D anymore.

In 4D, now, which is where you are if you're reading this, heading to 5D, the game goes more like this: anything's possible and the sky's the limit. 

To repeat: Anything's possible and the sky's the limit.

So, instead of win or lose, succeed or fail, etc., etc., it's just... create, create, create! Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy! Be, be, be! And everything is what you say it is all the time.

Folks, if you are still battling with yourself or others... stop! The war is over. The old game is over. You are fully supported in your desire to have love, health, prosperity and fun. I promise you, it will be exciting. You won't miss the fight.

And your ego will ultimately be glad to be out of its old, exhausting job, and into retirement. Really. I promise.  
 

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