THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!

Here's something I've said often to patients in my therapy practice:

"There's nothing wrong with you, except for the fact that you think there's something wrong with you."

Put another way, I've distinguished psychotic people from neurotic people like this:

"A psychotic person is crazy. A neurotic person thinks he is." (See the definition of "crazy" below.*)

Okay, what's my point here?

Well, many people who are sincerely engaged in a process of "self-work" have adopted an attitude and approach to it that basically amounts to trying to fix themselves. (Two pieces on the origins of this attitude this can be found in the FPL "Truth About Everything, Part Two: ALL LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL" and in the Pathwork Guide Lecture: "COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS.") But there is a basic assumption in that approach to the self that is misguided.

You see, we don't need to fix ourselves, but rather, we need to become ourselves more fully. Even more accurately, we need to uncover ourselves. Like a caterpillar, our defensive character structures are the temporary cocoons within which we transform into adult, self-actualized versions of ourselves, like butterflies. Important to remember, though, is that we are not our cocoons, or our character structures. We are, instead, inside of them for a while, until it is the right time to dismantle them, and fly. That dismantling is a more apt way of describing an organic process of self-work that is aligned with our evolution.

This is one of my favorite quotes from famed psychoanalyst, Karen Horney, on what she calls the "tyranny of the 'shoulds":

"Inherent in man are evolutionary constructive forces, which urge him to realize his given potentialities, that man by his very nature and of his own accord, strives toward self-realization, and that his values evolve from such striving. With such a belief in an autonomous striving toward self-realization, we do not need an inner straight jacket with which to shackle our spontaneity, nor the whip of inner dictates to drive us to perfection."

[See also FPL's "THE TRUTH ABOUT EVERYTHING, PART SEVEN: THERE IS NO ORIGINAL SIN!" and the description of "Full Permission Living" on the left hand side of this blog]

Hey! 

There is nothing wrong with you! 

Get it? 

For many reasons, stemming from past experiences of pain and suffering, and because we have egos that can question the validity of who we inherently are, we have come to believe in our "character defects" and "symptoms," to identify with them even, and to believe in the judgments we impose on ourselves to support those negative beliefs.

So, folks, stop trying to fix yourselves, and open up to being yourselves.

And listen to THIS!

*On being psychotic - continuing the caterpillar analogy, a psychotic person can be thought of as someone who has not grounded themselves in physical reality - i.e. - in the space/time continuum - enough to function here. Consequently, that person imagines themselves to already be the butterfly before the actual process of evolution has occurred, so they are out of synch with time and space, and therefore, to those of us who are grounded and living in the illusion of physical reality, they appear crazy.

Hmm...


THE POWER OF DOING NOTHING... POWERFULLY!

Are you discovering the power of doing nothing? Many people are.

Remember the frequently referred to FPL post from January of 2013 - "IT'S 2013! WHICH EARTH ARE YOU ON?!" - in which the new rules of 5th Dimensional Consciousness (5D) were outlined? Right up top was Rule #1: "Murphy's Law Is Officially Reversed." (In other words, in 5D, "everything that can go right, will go right... if you let it.")

Well, 2 years later, many FPL readers, and people I know and work with, have been experiencing this new rule at work in the practical experiences of their everyday lives. So much so, in fact, that complaints are coming up in sessions that more or less boil down to: "It's too easy!" "I didn't actually do anything!" "Things just fell into place!" "Things just worked out!" Etc.

Sounds funny, right? But the truth is, synchronicity ("the simultaneous occurrence of events that appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection," according to the dictionary) is the way of the Universe. There are no true coincidences, and this has always been the way things worked, only now, in 5D, we're becoming aware of it, and so becoming able to call upon it for manifestation purposes in our lives.

Many people call these synchronistic events "miracles," but here's my favorite quote on miracles:

"Miracles are the result of nature unimpeded."

Get that? Reread it:

"Miracles are the result of nature unimpeded."

In other words, things "working out" for your greatest good, for your highest excitement, for your fulfillment and self-actualization, even in ways you couldn't predict or imagine specifically, is just... natural! You don't have to do anything in the sense of forcing, willing, demanding, pleading or insisting, all approaches rooted in the ego, of course. You see, it's the ego complaining that things are "too easy," because it knows it is out of a job in 5D. It knows no other way than struggling, battling, overcoming, winning or losing, etc. Then, onto the next contest. So 3D!

But there are actually things to do in 5D. There are actions to take. It's not a passive creative process. But it looks different than the old way. The "doing" required to make things happen in 5D looks more like this:

Clear - Intend - Let go - Follow-up.

Clear your consciousness of the remnants of 3D, egoic thinking and beliefs and suppressed feelings in the body;
Intend for yourself in your meditations whatever it is you truly desire, and imagine it happening;
Let go by employing the energy of allowing and receiving, without expectations or fear;
Follow-up with action when your Higher Self and the Universe give you signs and create opportunities for you.

One of my favorite books and movies, as many FPL readers know, is "The Legend of Baggar Vance," by Steven Pressfield.

Here's Baggar:

“There's a perfect shot out there tryin' to find each and every one of us... Now it's somewhere... in the harmony... of All That Is... All That Was... All That Will Be... All we got to do is get ourselves out of its way, to let it choose us.


Thanks, BV!





GREAT NON-EXPECTATIONS!

Someone referred me to an article, "Why Generation Y Yuppies Are Unhappy," on a blog whose name I love: "wait but why." The piece mainly describes what the author (whose name I couldn't find) feels is the root of the problem: unrealistic expectations on the part of GenY-ers (Those born between the late 70's and mid-90's).

The theory presented basically purports that the latter day post-hippie then prosperous Baby Boom generation spawned a generation of entitled narcissists - their kids - who expect everything in their fantasy life to come true, but don't want to work for it. - at all. This is a current and very popular idea, and sociologically, holds some merit. But it is also superficial and a generalization, of course, as all 3D theories must be.

I'm sure the FPL reader who sent me the link did so because she knows that a focus of the work that I do with people includes guidance to rid oneself of not just unrealistic expectations, but of all expectations.

Here's Eckhart Tolle:

"Today I’m going to suggest a small change in mindset that could change your life. I won’t keep you in suspense. Here it is: think of nothing that happens as either good or bad. Stop judging, and stop expecting. It’s a tiny change — all you have to do is say, ‘That wasn’t good or bad, it just happened, it just is.’ It’s tiny, but it takes practice, and amazingly, it can knock you on your ass. Why? Because with this little change, you will no longer be swayed up and down depending on whether good things or bad things happen to you, whether people (and their actions) are good or bad. You will learn to accept things as they are, and move within that landscape mindfully. You will no longer expect good things to happen (or bad things), but will just take things as they come, and be content with whatever comes. This means you’ll no longer be disappointed, or unhappy. The second half of this change is just as small, but just as important: dropping expectations. Not lowering expectations, but eliminating them."

Really? No expectations, Eckhart? Wouldn't that lead to complacency? Lethargy? Boredom? If we didn't have high hopes for things, didn't have goals, a focus on outcomes, what would motivate us to do anything?

I'm glad I asked.

As a screenwriter by avocation (at least so far), I've have heard from many fellow writers, producers, actors, etc., that every good screenplay has conflict in it. In fact, I have been told, that every scene in every good screenplay must have conflict in it. There must always be "tension," the conventional wisdom goes, something for the hero to overcome, face, defeat or defy, in order for a story to be interesting. Many people feel that this is also the key to an interesting, exciting life, as well, and so, they are always creating barriers, crises and limitations to break through in their daily lives. What fun!

Nonetheless, I have wondered, what might be interesting about a story or a life that didn't have conflict as its motivating force? If there weren't obstacles to overcome, if there were no victories to be won by defeating someone or something outside or even inside of ourselves, if there were no resistance, what would make life exciting?

Ready?

Creating!

That's right. Creating.

The main thing we do from the highest levels of our being is create... and then, experience what we create... and then, create some more. Endless creation. That is essentially the main activity of All That Is. Seems pretty exciting to me.

So, back to the question of where would motivation come from?

Motivation would come from desire and inspiration. Desire and inspiration come directly from our Higher Selves. They are the initial stirrings of creation in a physical body in a linear time continuum. (In non-physical form, desire, inspiration and creation, as well as experiencing, would occur simultaneously.) And make no mistake, our desires and inspirations are not random or whimsical, but rather, they are messages about what our Higher Self would like to create through us. And folks, yes, our desires are meant to be fulfilled. Really.

The process looks like this: desire and inspiration come from our Higher Self. This stirs the imagination. Our task at that point is to play with images and visions of the fulfillment of the desires through creative expression. Then, through this playing process, we will attract opportunities and find paths for action in the physical world to actualize our desire.

So, where do expectations fit in.. or not fit in?

First of all, you can only have expectations if you are not focused in the moment. Expectations are always about a future outcome that the lower self mind and ego believes is best, and said pictured outcome is often rooted in the idea of undoing or overcoming a less-than-satisfying past. This is a constipated creative process at best.

Secondly, expectations, as a function of the lower self mind and ego, are inherently limited to what the lower self mind and ego can conceive of. And that mean no "miracles," no serendipity, no quantum leaps, just the... expected.

So, folks, whatever generation you're from, let go of your judgments and expectations, tune into your desires, use your imagination and create. No need for conflict or obstacles or antagonists in your story. Unless of course that's what you desire.

Comment Lao Tzu?

“When people see some things as beautiful, other things become ugly.
When people see some things as good, other things become bad.”

Thanks, LT.

REPOST: "FULL PERMISSION EATING!"

This is a real FPL oldie, but having just arrived back from a 10-day culinary tour of Italy, I felt inspired to dig it up.

FULL PERMISSION EATING!

Remember these lyrics from the classic K.C. and the Sunshine Band?

"Baby, babe, let's get together.
Honey, hon, me and you.
And do the things, ah, do the things
That we like to do.
Do a little dance, make a little love,
Get down tonight.
Get down tonight."

Well, according to two studies, written about in the NY Times a bit ago, red wine will help you live longer and sugar won't kill you, even if you're diabetic. Woah! For real?

From one of the articles:

"Two large studies involving more than 21,000 people found that people with Type 2 diabetes had no reduction in their risk of heart attacks and strokes and no reduction in their death rate if they rigorously controlled their blood sugar levels."

And from the other:

"Red wine may be much more potent than was thought in extending human lifespan."

What gives? Well, the bottom line, if you want to skip ahead, is this: what promotes good health and longevity, first and foremost, are happiness and pleasure. Or, first read this...

A psychology professor at the University of Pennsylvania, Dr. Paul Rozin, who specializes in, yes, the psychology of food, conducted a survey in America, France, Belgium and Japan in an effort to explain what is referred to as the "French Paradox." The paradox is basically this: the French consume a diet that is very rich and high in fat, yet they have a low rate of obesity and enjoy generally good health (The same can be said of Italians, in Italy, by the way).

Americans, on the other hand, are obsessed with counting calories and cholesterol levels and worry excessively about the effects of food on their bodies, yet they have a very high rate of obesity comparatively, and suffer with more health problems. Dr. Rozin’s survey suggests that the determining factor may be the different cultural attitudes towards food and pleasure.

Rozin is quoted in the journal "Appetite" as saying:

"There is a sense among Americans that food is as much a poison as it is a nutrient, and that eating is almost as dangerous as not eating." He goes on to say that "…when a major aspect of life becomes a stress and source of substantial worry, as opposed to pleasure, effects might be seen in both cardiovascular and immune systems."

Rozin’s researcher found that the French, on the other hand, of whom only 4 percent follow diets in line with the American recommended guidelines for fat intake, associate eating more with pleasure than with health.

In a related story, the New York Times ran an article in its "Eating Well" column, by Marian Burros, that quoted two professors on nutrition and obesity extolling the virtues and health benefits of enjoying such luscious holiday foods as foie gras, caviar and pumpkin pie, believe it or not!

Listen to this:

"Tucked in between the cholesterol and the saturated fat, the calories and the salt in the foie gras, the sausage stuffing and the standing rib roast, there are dozens of nutrients that are highly recommended by the food police. These are the vitamins and minerals and phytochemicals that may prevent cancer and heart disease and a host of other diseases. Everyone already knows that chocolate is a health food: Two pounds of it, particularly dark chocolate, has the same cancer-fighting antioxidants as a quart of tea. But did you know that each time you eat a three-ounce piece of pumpkin pie you may well be reducing your risk of cataracts and macular degeneration? The pumpkin in that small wedge of pie is filled with carotenoids, almost 3,000 micrograms of beta carotene, 1,900 of alpha carotene and 400 of lutein, the carotenoid connected with cataract prevention."

Where is this leading us?

Well, the Times also printed an article on Dr. Rozin’s study entitled, "If It Feels Good, Eat It." [FULL PERMISSION EATING!]

People will be up in arms perhaps at the suggestion that eating what we truly desire, what we really enjoy, is a reasonable guideline for a diet, yet that is precisely the message of these studies, and it is in keeping with the conceptual foundation of Full Permission Living, which is that human beings, if allowed to follow their undistorted desires, will naturally do what’s best for themselves and others without resorting to excess and without having to sacrifice pleasure. Furthermore, if one engages in any activity, including eating, with a spirit of enjoyment and gratitude, it is understood that what you take in will benefit you. That may be the original reason for saying a blessing before a meal - to get your mind and digestive system into a positive and receptive mode (gratitude) to aid absorption and facilitate nourishment.

I’ve often thought about the movie, "Michael", in this regard. John Travolta plays the archangel by the same name, and in the film the high-order angelic character is seen consuming huge amounts of sugar, drinking beer, smoking cigarettes and of course, dancing and cavorting with women. I asked myself when I first saw the movie, could such a spiritual being actually indulge himself in that manner and not suffer any negative consequences? Absolutely, I realized. Such a being would be so connected to his spiritual self, so full of joy and gratitude that whatever molecules he took into his body would immediately be transmuted into good nourishment. After all, everything is made of the same basic particles of energy, whether it’s steamed organic broccoli or a hamburger!

So what determines the effect of various foods on the body? It must be the individual’s state of consciousness, one’s inner beliefs and attitudes.

Indeed, my own grandfather, "Pete", lived without major illness until he died of old age at 91, and he regularly consumed sugar and salt, smoked cigarettes and drank alcohol until the end. How did he do it? Well, for one thing, he rarely indulged in anything to excess, but also, no matter what doctors, the media or younger worried family members said to him, he genuinely never believed these things would harm him. So, perhaps that is why they didn’t. He also rejected stressful behavior as a requirement for being successful, even though he had his own business to run which he did for almost four decades. I never saw Grandpa Pete anxiously rushing around or fretting about anything.

Now, let me issue a qualifier here - none of us is Michael the Archangel and most of us are not, in our hyper-vigilant, type-A culture, Grandpa Pete! Most of us are harboring hidden self-destructive or fearful beliefs and attitudes, and so will unconsciously use food and anything else to create suffering for ourselves if we're not conscious. So the "undistorted desires" part is crucial to living with full permission. Furthermore, if you believe that certain things are harmful to your health, you can’t trick yourself by superimposing another belief over that one and expect not to have disastrous results. How you feel about yourself and your body is a key element that must be brought into conscious awareness in order to be a "healthy hedonist," and the channels to your natural pleasure instinct must be cleared of blockages as well. In other words, a full-spectrum healing process may be needed before you can start indulging in the daily red wine and sweet treats.

Here are some great words of wisdom from Jane Roberts’ "Seth" book, "The Way Toward Health":

"The ideas you have, then, play a large role in the way the body handles its nutrients, and utilizes health and vitality…it is possible for your ideas to cause chemical reactions that impede your body’s ability to accept nourishment. If you believe that the body is evil, the purest health food diet may do you little good at all, while if you have a healthy desire and respect for your physical body, a diet of TV dinners and even fast foods may well keep you healthy and nourished. If we are talking about health, it is to your beliefs that we must look. It is up to you to form a body of beliefs that is worthy of your physical image – for you are nourished by your beliefs, and those beliefs can cause your daily bread to add to your vitality, or add to your cares and stress."

Yeah, yeah. Pass the tiramisu, please.

Oh, and don't forget...

"Do a little dance, make a little love,
Get down tonight.
Get down tonight."

TODAY'S "SECRET O' LIFE" LYRICS!

The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time
Any fool can do it
There ain't nothing to it
Nobody knows how we got to
The top of the hill
But since we're on our way down
We might as well enjoy the ride

The secret of love is in opening up your heart
It's okay to feel afraid
But don't let that stand in your way
'cause anyone knows that love is the only road
And since we're only here for a while
Might as well show some style
Give us a smile

Isn't it a lovely ride
Sliding down
Gliding down
Try not to try too hard
It's just a lovely ride

Now the thing about time is that time
Isn't really real
It's just your point of view
How does it feel for you
Einstein said he could never understand it all
Planets spinning through space
The smile upon your face
Welcome to the human race

Some kind of lovely ride
I'll be sliding down
I'll be gliding down
Try not to try too hard
It's just a lovely ride
Isn't it a lovely ride
Sliding down
Gliding down
Try not to try too hard
It's just a lovely ride

Now the secret of life is enjoying the passage of time.


YOU ARE NOT VULNERABLE WHEN YOU'RE OPEN. YOU'RE VULNERABLE WHEN YOU'RE LITTLE!

I read an blog post a while ago entitled, "The One Quality We Often Mistake For Weakness Can Actually Make You Stronger," which extolls the virtues of being "vulnerable." Citing examples from President Obama to the Dalai Lama, the piece gives examples of the strength that comes from being vulnerable. The post refers to a book, "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead," by Brene Brown.

While I essentially support what the post and book are trying to say, the language of the authors demonstrates a very common error which I would like to address here.

"I feel too vulnerable when..."

How often I hear individuals begin a sentence like that. Usually, the person in question who is perceiving themselves as "vulnerable" is talking about being "open" in some situation that is revealing of their inner life to another. But this common connection in one's mind between openness and vulnerability is erroneous. 

You are not vulnerable when you're open.

The definition of "vulnerable" in most dictionaries is: "susceptible to physical or emotional harm." Okay. That's pretty straightforward. So, when are we the most susceptible to harm in those ways? Well, in two situations, mainly: 1. when we are without an option for avoiding danger; and 2. when we are truly dependent on another person or persons who may choose to do us harm. And when are we most likely to be in such situations? Well, unless you are literally a hostage in a terrorist takeover, or a prisoner of war or in jail, the most prevalent time human beings are actually vulnerable to harm is - you guessed it - in childhood!

That's right. In childhood, especially early childhood, we are essentially hostages to our parents and caretakers, without options to avoid the slings and arrows of our environment. And we are utterly and completely dependent on those others for our well-being, even for our very existence. Whatever the vicissitudes of our parents' mental and emotional health, or lack thereof, we, as children, cannot protect ourselves or remove ourselves from harm's way. We can't stop adults from hurting us, nor can we trade in one set of adults for another. In other words... we are vulnerable. Truly.

Now, here's where the confusion comes in and how the erroneous connection gets made.

As children, as newly minted human beings, we are naturally open, physically, mentally and emotionally. We feel everything fully when we're first born, and to some degree, we stay that way throughout the very early years of life. However, because of the undeveloped, un-self-actualized aspects of humanity, we are injured by our environment. Our parents and caretakers hurt us. Yet, we cannot stop them, nor can we leave them.

So what do we do? We begin to shut down, distort, and/or disconnect parts of ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally in order not to feel the pain so acutely. We form a character structure, and initially, it actually does seem to mitigate the pain, which seems to validate the conclusion that open is vulnerable, and closed is safe.

See, we can't understand truly when we're little that we're little. We can't really picture that one day, we'll be adults ourselves, and have the choices adults have. In other words, we can't understand that it's being little that makes us vulnerable, not being open that makes us vulnerable. And so, stuck in the confines of our character structures as time passes, we miss the fact that nature provides the solution to the problem of vulnerability in childhood - we grow up!

In adulthood, we can realize that protecting ourselves emotionally with the armor of character defenses is very inefficient and inhibiting, and most importantly, no longer necessary. Wearing that suit of armor doesn't make for the easy enjoyment of a sunny day, let alone for making love. On the other hand, being fully open to our inner lives, which frees up the mind and body, gives us the energy and flexibility to creatively express ourselves, enjoy life and, if need be, avoid situations that would do us harm, which mainly means not engaging with negativity. Thus, in this realization, we can engage in a healing process, in an holistic self-work process, that can dismantle the armor and allow us to be ourselves fully.

So, let go of the false belief that when you love and reveal yourself to another, you are vulnerable. And Brene, forgive me for suggesting a slight change to the title of your book, but "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be OPEN Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead" would work better for me.

TOO BUSY FOR VACATION? MAYBE YOU'RE ADDICTED TO INTENSITY!

Just back from 10 days in Italy, on a culinary tour, specifically, of Bologna and Salerno. It was, to say the least, fulfilling and filling! 

Ahhh... vacation. Americans are traditionally not particularly good at relaxing. We have the longest work-days and work-weeks, and the shortest paid vacation time compared to most countries. This is, of course, what we were creating individually and collectively in 3D, but now, in 5D, that's getting old quick.


HERE is a quote from an essay entitled: "The ‘Busy’ Trap," bTIM KREIDER:

"Busyness serves as a kind of existential reassurance, a hedge against emptiness; obviously your life cannot possibly be silly or trivial or meaningless if you are so busy, completely booked, in demand every hour of the day."


I've written before on our "addictions to intensity and anxiety" (You can read three of the posts HERE.) I've also written about the importance of vacation time (HERE and HERE and HERE.). Vacations are crucial to our well-being not only for the purposes of rest and rejuvenation, but also to actually remind us of how to live in a state of alignment.

Read these at your leisure... and enjoy!

Summer's coming!

"SUMMER IN THE CITY" Performed by sycicWALRUS

DO YOU GET THIS, YET?!

I can't tell you how many times I've heard people tell me in recent times that they are "exhausted"... and they don't know why. Or, even worse, that they think they do know why - i.e. - because they're working so many hours, or not sleeping enough hours, or manically multi-tasking a career, a relationship, parenting, going to the gym...

I usually respond, as compassionately as I can, with one word: "NO!"

No? Yes. No. The things you do or don't do externally are not what's exhausting you. It's what you're doing or not doing internally that's draining your energy. Especially during this time of energetic, vibrational acceleration. I've used the metaphor of human beings as swimmers in a powerful river many times to illustrate the situation, of how much energy it takes to be in judgment, fear or anger, how exhausting it is to try and resist change.

Following is an eloquent and spot-on passage from a very timely book, "GREAT HUMAN POTENTIAL: WALKING IN ONE'S OWN LIGHT," by Wendy Kennedy and Tom Kenyon. (NOTE: Check out the last paragraph on how you can truly help your entire family.)

"All frequencies wish to synchronize. If you have a strong higher frequency and a weak lower frequency, the lower one will naturally increase to match that of the higher. The natural flow of life is always towards source. It is about connections and reintegration.

"It takes a lot more energy to be in fear, be unhappy or be judgmental than to be joyful, expansive or happy. In fact, being unhappy is exhausting.

"As long as you can be mindful about how you are feeling, the Universe will support you in going towards joy. You are headed back up in frequency, so the natural flow is going in the same direction.This is why it is so important for you to know where you are vibrating. It allows you to be in the driver’s seat and not on automatic pilot. Being conscious of your vibration not only means that you can maneuver through reality with more grace and ease, but also you can dramatically change it by altering your frequency. Experiencing higher frequencies means more potential.

"And here is a small bit of additional information for you: when you learn how to integrate a fear, a guilt or a blame, you send out this information to all your genetic line! How about that? They can choose to receive it and download it for learning purposes, or they can just simply file it away."

How about that?

Oh... and listen to THIS... Now!


TODAY'S "ENLIGHTENMENT QUOTE!

" It has been said that the greatest obstacle to enlightenment is getting past your belief that you are not already enlightened!"
(Osho)

TODAY'S "SETH" QUOTE!

“When you do not know what to do, relax and tell yourself that other portions of yourself do know; they will take over. Give yourself some rest."
(Jane Roberts channeling "Seth")

ARE YOU THE CRAZY VERSION OF YOURSELF SOMEONE ASKED YOU TO BE?!

"Everyone in your life is a version of themselves that you've created."

Thus says "Bashar," channeled by Darryl Anka. (That quote from THIS CLIP.)

This is similar in its import to a quote from Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, the practitioner of the Hawaiian healing art, Ho'oponopono, on how he healed people without interacting with them at all physically:

"I was simply healing the part of me that created them."

These two quote express, in a more expanded way, the Universal Truth put forth often on this blog that we create our reality from our beliefs.

Bashar and Dr. Len are basically saying that not just the events and material things in your life are your creation, but so, too, the very people you encounter and interact with in your life are your creation. That's some serious creating!

Now, understand, the individuals you create in your life are also independent beings in and of themselves, continually creating versions of themselves - and of you - to have their experiences through and with. "I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together." (Thank you, John!)

In other words, since we are truly all one, meaning not just connected, but ultimately and literally one unified being manifesting Itself in an infinite variety of seemingly separate selves, then if I want to create a version of you to have a particular experience with, you will co-create that version with me, even as I will do the same for you, as me. See?

So, the key practical question here is if there are people in your life you experience to be threatening, annoying, unpleasant to interact with and/or downright crazy, why are you creating that version of them to interact with? Why are you asking the person in question to create of version of him-or-herself that will be a problem for you?

This question is quite worth the time and effort to explore, because as long as you continue to feel victimized by the random, hostile, thwarting behavior of others, you will be unable to change your reality with said persons. Once you realize that you are creating the negative version of the person in question harassing you, you can uncreate that version. That might mean that the person changes their persona in your life, or more commonly, the person will exit your life stage left.

Remember Shakespeare?

"All the world's a stage and all the men and women merely players."

Well, thank you for being the antagonist in my play, but I'm writing out that role forthwith.

Likewise, if you find that a dysfunctional role you are playing in someone else's life no longer suits you, you can decide to leave that play for a better role, and indeed the other person will gladly replace you with someone else willing to be cast as the martyr, enabler, or narcissistic source of supply for their narcissistic lead character.

So, cast and crew members, take a look at the roles you are writing for yourself and the actors in your drama, and if you're not enjoying yourself fully, do a rewrite!

MORE SEX EQUALS MORE MONEY, TOO!

I've written extensively on this blog about how a vibrant sex life significantly benefits your physical and emotional well-being, and I've posted several pieces about the connection between your spiritual nature and your sexuality.


Well, here's a piece from the Huffington Post last year about the financial benefits that come with an active sex life. The article, entitled, "People Who Have Sex At Least 4 Times A Week Make More Money," finds a statistically significant correlation between sexual activity and financial prosperity.

Here's an excerpt from the piece:

"It pays to have more sex. Literally, new research finds. People who have sex four times or more a week earn higher wages than their less-sexually active colleagues at a statistically significant level, according to a discussion paper from Nick Drydakis, a fellow at the Institute for the Study of Labor, a private, independent organization focused on labor market research."

Now, to be clear, detached sex, sex in isolation, or compulsive sex, isn't necessarily a money maker, but rather sex that brings genuine pleasure to you and your partner, and especially sex that is combined with love and Eros, is what can be a path to prosperity.

Here's more from the piece by Nick D:

"See, people who have frequent sex tend to be happier, have higher self-esteem, better reasoning ability and are less likely to be depressed. More sex makes you healthier and happier. And happy, healthy people tend make more money."

I would add, Nick, that happy, healthy people  are inclined to have more sex, too.

This is from an amazing chapter in an amazing book, "PATH OF EMPOWERMENT," by Barbara Marciniak:

"The orgasmic experience connects you with your spirit, reorganizing and revitalizing your cells. Sex is like a rocket booster, and coupled with conscious intent, it can propel you into aspects of reality that can enrich your life. When you are having sex, you are stirring the life-force kundalini energy nestled at the bottom of the spine. Activating kundalini energy by means of sexual pleasure can create direct openings into simultaneous dimensional experiences that have a complete interface with the life you are presently leading."

Nicely said. In other words, folks, through the power of sexual expression and enjoyment, especially via the orgasm experience, especially with someone you love, you can access your creative abilities across the spectrum of dimensions. 

I know it may not seem romantic to meditate on financial abundance while making love, but then again, being broke and worrying about money can definitely be a buzz-kill in bed.

MORE FROM DEEPAK ON THE IMPORTANCE OF SEXUAL ENERGY!

You've heard it before from me on this blog, but Deepak Chopra wants to tell it to you again: meditation can help rev up your sexual energy.

Why is that? Because spiritual energy and sexual energy are the same,

Deepak told HuffPost Live HERE.

Here's Deepak in his own words:

"They're both creative energies of the universe," he said. "You need sexual energy to create a new life, but it's also the creative energy behind any creative work -- whether it's music or art or science - you have some of the same flavors of experience that you have in peak experience of sexuality. So they're very connected."

That's it. That's all.

BORN AT THE RIGHT TIME!

People often ask me if anyone is without a character structure, that set of stubborn masks, blocks and defenses that encase us from early childhood. When I taught the character structures in my 3-year training program, I answered the question in the first class by playing a Paul Simon song I love, called "Born at the Right Time."

Here are the lyrics to the chorus:

"Never been lonely

Never been lied to
Never had to scuffle in fear
Nothing denied to
Born at the instant
The church bells chime
And the whole world whispering:
'Born at the right time"

I then asked the class: "Okay. Who had that childhood?" Of course, no one raised their hand. "So, basically," I said, "unless you had that childhood, you have a character structure."


Well, someone sent me THIS  a few hours ago. This is what it might look like to be born in such a way that you never develop a character structure. It's beautiful. It's what we're working on in all of our "tribes" right now. In a very real sense, we have all been "born at the right time," including to be here making this great transition!

Enjoy! 

MORE ON: "FATHER OF ADHD: 'IT IS A FICTITIOUS DISEASE!"

THIS is a follow-up to the post below, entitled simply but pointedly: "Doctor: 'There’s No Such Thing As ADHD!"

Here's a brief excerpt:

"Dr. Bruce D. Perry is one of the world’s leading pediatric neuroscientists, and he’s making a claim that will rattle the pharmaceutical industry and parents. Perry recently stated publicly that Attention Deficit/Hyper-Activity Disorder isn’t a real disease and suggested that giving children psycho-stimulant medications to kids is dangerous."


Okay, breathe, and just take this in slowly, especially if you are a person who was diagnosed with ADHD, or the parent of a child who was so diagnosed, or even if you are simply someone who has blindly revered or believed in the integrity of the medical profession.

Ready?


Leon Eisenberg, the psychiatrist who came up with the diagnosis, considered to be "the father of ADHD," admitted on his death bed that the diagnosis was fictitious.


Once again, with feeling - THIS is from the news article on Natural News.com


"On his death bed, this psychiatrist and autism pioneer, Dr. Leon Eisenberg, admitted that ADHD is essentially a 'fictitious disease,' which means that millions of young children today are being needlessly prescribed severe mind-altering drugs that will set them up for a life of drug addiction and failure."


Now, let me say this - while I was involved very early on in the fight against Ritalin, and its relatives like clonapine, adderal, welbutrin...etc. (the list is longer than the wine list at my favorite restaurant), all the "medications" that were given to children diagnosed as "hyperactive" (drugs, in other words, meant to take the edge off of their souls so they could sit still and do their math problems), and while I was very passionate about this fight back in the 1980's and '90's, I do not believe today that anyone is doomed to a life of "addiction and failure." We create our own reality and our abilities to heal emotional, psychological and emotional injuries through holistic means and mainly through raising consciousness is greater than ever collectively and individually.


In addition, I am no longer fighting against the undeveloped forces that ruled the medical and pharmaceutical industries in 3D, because (a.) I am no longer in 3D, and (b.) hating war is not the same as loving peace. Regarding "a." above, in 5D, the medical establishment is transforming itself without my help, as are all the undeveloped forces in business, religion and government, etc., through the exposure of themselves to themselves and/or to the collective consciousness. The very fact of Dr. Eisenberg's deathbed admission speaks to that. 


Regarding "b." above, see my post "NOBODY NEEDS ME (HATING WAR IS NOT THE SAME AS LOVING PEACE!)"


Folks, as I've reminded my readers often, and as I'm being reminded of often as well, this is 5D. It isn't possible any longer to live by the dictates of the ego or the lower self with any amount of "success." Revelation and self-revelation is the order of the day. Stay with it.

MORE ON: "IT'S GETTING BETTER ALL THE TIME (THE TRUTH ABOUT 5D EARTH!)"

I recently reposted a piece (below) on the FPL blog entitled: "IT'S GETTING BETTER ALL THE TIME (THE TRUTH ABOUT 5D EARTH!)"

Well, in addition to all of the actual statistical realities that confirm the positive way in which things are changing (and not always paid attention to by the media), HERE'S one more: For the first time in 40 years, global carbon dioxide emissions from the energy sector did not increase.

Hey!

Are you still watching the news?

CNN? MSNBC? FOX?! Whew! That's old school! Those channels, dimensionally speaking, are mostly showing 3D period pieces nowadays.

Maybe you've evolved to Comedy Central (Jon Stewart) or HBO (Bill Maher, John Oliver) and getting your news with a good dose of humor. That's better, since those with a higher perspective can appreciate the humor in our repetitive melodramas and illusions.

This is from the Book, "ONENESS":

"From the perspective of the overview, one can enjoy the humor in the absurdity of some of it. And one can marvel at the antics and at one’s own blindness to what now seems obvious and avoidable."

Or perhaps, you've really changed the channel, and are getting your news from Gaiam TV and the Conscious Media Network, generally much more 5D, with only the occasional grim predictions, or maybe you've gone all the way and tuned into websites and Youtube videos that feature channeled information.

Folks, here are the facts, the verifiable truth: things are getting better! Demonstrably.

An article yesterday, Thanksgiving, in the Washington Post, entitled "SEVEN GLOBAL TRENDS TO BE REALLY, REALLY THANKFUL FOR," starts with this:

"The facts, once you look at them, are indisputable. The world in the 21st century is really a remarkable place to live, and it's getting better all the time, even for its poorest inhabitants."

Check it out -

- Wars claim fewer lives today than ever in human history, by several orders of magnitude. (Here's the Associated Press, citing research by psychologist Steven Pinker: "Before there were organized countries, battles killed on average more than 500 out of every 100,000 people. In 19th century France, it was 70. In the 20th century with two world wars and a few genocides, it was 60. Now battlefield deaths are down to three-tenths of a person per 100,000.")

- Just in the last two decades, global poverty has declined by half.

- Also in the last two decades, the infant mortality rate has declined by about half, according to the World Health Organization.

- While the distribution of wealth in particular countries is becoming more unequal (Time to wake up, America!), if you take a broader view and compare the world's poor to the world's rich, inequality is actually declining.

- In spite of the news out of Ferguson, our neighborhoods are becoming steadily less segregated.

- The crime rate has been declining for the last 25 years, and is currently at the lowest rate in 50 years. National rates of gun homicide, in spite of what the news would lead you to believe, are down 49%, and in the last 20 years, the violent crime rate overall, including homicide, robbery, rape and aggravated assault, in the United States dropped by 48 percent. During the same period, the violent crime rate in New York City dropped by an amazing 71 percent! (NOTE: NYC happens, not coincidentally, to have the highest rate per capita of people in therapy.)

Read more from the WP piece HERE.

Yes, it's 5D, folks. I told you this was going to happen. And this is barely the tip of the iceberg, barely the beginning of the Golden Age.

Here's more from Oneness:

"Life is moving forward, dancing with the wind, and harmonizing with the joy in the newborn breath of every life form on the planet. This is the dance of Creation that beckons to you in these times. This is the reality that you are capable of manifesting at this crossroads of time and space that you perceive as your world. And this is the only moment that will take you the full distance, and deliver you directly unto your destination. This moment. This very moment. Right Now.

Embrace yourself, in these times, and acknowledge yourself for the extraordinary progress you are making, as a soul, in every waking moment. The very fact that you are drawn to reading these words attests to an openness on your part to aligning with the momentum of this multidimensional journey. Know that to have done so reflects great courage on your part. And that to continue to do so, despite the resistance of consensus thinking, puts you in the forefront of those destined to emerge in the new world relatively unscathed.

Your responsibility is to retain that clarity with respect to your own process and your own life issues. That is all."

That... is all!

STRESS KILLS WAY MORE OFTEN THAN TIGERS!

An avid, and wise, FPL reader linked me to the Chopra Center website, and she said this to me: "The topic on Stress reads like you wrote it!"

Hey, maybe Deepak got the wording from me, or maybe I read his thoughts in advance because I've been using the exact analogy of the tiger for years. Either way, the Truth is the Truth, and everyone has access to it.

Here's the passage from Deepak:  

How the Body Works with Stress

Most of us aren’t even aware how much fear rules our lives, but our bodies reflect this truth. While fear is designed to be a healthy survival mechanism that triggers the fight-or-flight stress response when your life is in danger, the body can’t tell the difference between being chased by a tiger and having fearful thoughts about work, relationships, or money. Whether you’re about to be a tiger’s lunch or you’re having a fear-based thought about an imagined future, a stress response is activated, and the body is filled with stress hormones like cortisol and epinephrine.
But here’s the real kicker. The body is beautifully equipped with natural self-repair mechanisms that know how to fight cancer, prevent infection, ward off heart disease, and retard aging. But these self-repair mechanisms are turned off every time the body is in stress response. This wouldn’t be a problem if your body was only in stress response once or twice a week, since stress responses are only meant to last 90 seconds beyond when the threat to your life is over.
But this is not what happens. Modern-day humans experience over 50 stress responses per day—most of them stemming not from real threats to your life but from thoughts about imaginary threats that will most likely never come true.

Really.


WANT A BETTER RELATIONSHIP? ENJOY SOME SOLITUDE!

A few months ago, I posted an excerpt from an article about a book, "DAILY RITUALS: HOW ARTISTS WORK", that extolled the virtues for creativity of frequent walking.

Another section of the book talks about the equally important need for solitude in the creative life:

"If you want to do prolonged creative work, you're going to need to figure out a way to avoid the demands of society, at least some of the time. Most artistic endeavor requires stretches of solitude. That's why so many artists get up super early or stay up super late—only then, when the rest of the world is asleep, are they guaranteed not to be interrupted by family, friends, visitors, or telephone calls."


"Anne Rice, when she’s writing a book, says she needs four hours of unbroken time each day, and that to get this, she must be ruthless about turning down appointments and social obligations. 'Because you won’t get those four hours if you’re spending most of the day worried about getting to an appointment and back,' she said. 'A lot of people don’t understand it. They think, ‘Well, I only want to see you for three hours. Why can’t you write the rest of the day?’ But it doesn’t work like that. What you have to do is clear all distraction. That’s the bottom line."

Last summer, I wrote from Fire Island about the importance of solitude and separation, and not only for the purposes of creative work, but also for the purposes of self-work and for the health of our relationships. Here's Mark Epstein, my favorite Buddhist psychotherapist, on the subject:

"Clinging is as much of a problem in lovemaking as in the rest of life. In order for sexual relations to be deeply satisfying, there must be a yielding of this clinging in a manner that actually affirms the unknowability and separateness of the loved partner. It is the peculiar convergence of awe and appreciation with pleasure and release that characterizes the best sexual experiences. Separate and together cease to be mutually exclusive and instead become reciprocally enhancing and mutually informative. There is wisdom in this state, not just raw instinct."

So, folks, to foster the health of your creative life and your interpersonal life... spend some quality time alone!

HEY, GET THE EGO OUT OF YOUR "I" TODAY!

"I am not ___ enough to ___."

Perhaps the most common sentences I hear in sessions with people are constructed like the above one. You can fill in the blanks with endlessly different words or phrases ("I am not good enough to be successful." "I am not attractive enough to find love." "I am not secure, strong, trusting, confident enough to leave my dysfunctional relationship or the job that I hate, or to love my body as it is.").

I have written often on this blog about character structures, and the injuries and defenses that lead to their creation by the immature ego of the little child. I have also written extensively about the essential self-work needed to dismantle the character structures in order to head towards a life of self-actualization. Well, today, for those who are ready, I'd like to offer an exercise that can assist greatly in the process of dismantling the ego's grip on our lives. It will sound simple and straightforward, but it will be a challenge.

Ready?

Okay. From now on, remove the pronoun "I" from any negative statement about yourself and your life, and replace it either with "my ego" or "the child in me."

So, "I am not attractive enough to find love" becomes... "My ego says I'm not attractive enough to find love." "I am not secure enough to love my body as it is" becomes... "The child in me is not secure enough to love my body as it is." And so on.

Try it. You will discover how powerful this simple exercise is in revealing how identified with your ego you are, how often when you say "I" you are actually speaking the words, statements and beliefs of the ego. And specifically what, you may wonder, is the problem with such an identification? Well, a great deal, actually.

You see, the ego did have an original purpose in the developing child's psychology. That purpose was to observe events and experiences and store them in memory, very useful if you don't want to keep getting burned over and over from touching a hot stove to discover once again that it's not a desirable action.

However, what went awry living in the environments we did as little children, chronically getting wounded emotionally and psychologically by our un-self-actualized parents, relatives, teachers, etc., is that we turned to our ego to protect us emotionally:

"Maybe if my ego helps prevent me from burning my hand over and over, it could help me figure out how to get mommy to not be angry at me, or how to get daddy to pay attention to me."

The above is a logical leap for that desperate little child, but an erroneous one. You see, the ego is designed to be the periscope on the submarine, but it is not the submarine itself, nor even the captain. Operating from a primary false assumption that all little children make - that the painful effects of the parents' lack of self-actualization could somehow be manipulated or avoided by the actions of child's ego - the child assigns the ego the impossible task of providing for its security and well-being.

The ego, in turn, does its best to take on the job, but its resources are inadequate to the task. What the ego comes up with as solutions are the very things that hinder our fulfillment as adults, because the ego's main efforts are directed at keeping the true self of the child hidden behind a false self (mask). In fact, for this defensive maneuver to have its effect fully, it becomes compulsory to believe that we in fact are our ego and its various masks. This false solution ultimately interferes with the real solution that nature and life provides for the child - growing up!

So, folks, try this exercise. It's much more than a word game or semantics. It's a way to aid the self-work you are hopefully doing to detach yourself from your ego and become your fullest, truest adult self, who is of course going about the business of becoming conscious of itself as your Higher Self, and ultimately, All That Is, your one true identity.

MORE ON GETTING THE EGO OUT OF YOUR "I" - WHAT SAYING "I" SAYS ABOUT YOU!

That's the titled of a piece in Slate.com: "WHAT SAYING 'I' SAYS ABOUT YOU!"

In my FPL post, GETTING THE EGO OUT OF YOUR "I," I wrote about the problems identifying with one's ego causes. Well, according to a series of studies carried out at the University of Texas at Austin, this shows itself in measurable ways in our language. The studies found that insecure people use the pronoun "I" more than those who are confidant and assured; melancholy souls say it more than ebullient ones. And we use it more when we are suffering, self-conscious, or eager to please.

Why would this be so? How do these findings make sense? Well, you see, when you rely on your ego to solve self-esteem issues in adulthood, your self-esteem actually suffers. You see, the flow of energy in early childhood is of necessity towards "getting." Getting love, recognition, validation, support, etc., from its environment, mainly from the parents or adult caretakers. Thus, the child's verbal expressions very often start out with the phrase, "I want." But if the child is not getting enough from its environment, it starts using the ego, created in childhood by the child, to try and get more - through false emotions and masks, like pleasing or suffering.

In adulthood, the natural flow of energy is outward, expressing into the world, and at its fullest, the expression is of the Higher Self through the adult, so there's very little "I" involved. The feeling in a self-actualized adult is experienced more like a force, greater than "I," coming through the person. Love, creativity, joyfulness all flow outwardly.

So, folks, do your self-work, and deconstruct that identification with your ego, and practice, practice, practice not referring to your ego as "I." Eventually, you'll only be using that pronoun in the simple statement acknowledging your existence as part of All That Is, who once said: "I am that I am."
 

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