YOU ARE NOT VULNERABLE WHEN YOU'RE OPEN. YOU'RE VULNERABLE WHEN YOU'RE LITTLE!

I read an blog post a while ago entitled, "The One Quality We Often Mistake For Weakness Can Actually Make You Stronger," which extolls the virtues of being "vulnerable." Citing examples from President Obama to the Dalai Lama, the piece gives examples of the strength that comes from being vulnerable. The post refers to a book, "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead," by Brene Brown.

While I essentially support what the post and book are trying to say, the language of the authors demonstrates a very common error which I would like to address here.

"I feel too vulnerable when..."

How often I hear individuals begin a sentence like that. Usually, the person in question who is perceiving themselves as "vulnerable" is talking about being "open" in some situation that is revealing of their inner life to another. But this common connection in one's mind between openness and vulnerability is erroneous. 

You are not vulnerable when you're open.

The definition of "vulnerable" in most dictionaries is: "susceptible to physical or emotional harm." Okay. That's pretty straightforward. So, when are we the most susceptible to harm in those ways? Well, in two situations, mainly: 1. when we are without an option for avoiding danger; and 2. when we are truly dependent on another person or persons who may choose to do us harm. And when are we most likely to be in such situations? Well, unless you are literally a hostage in a terrorist takeover, or a prisoner of war or in jail, the most prevalent time human beings are actually vulnerable to harm is - you guessed it - in childhood!

That's right. In childhood, especially early childhood, we are essentially hostages to our parents and caretakers, without options to avoid the slings and arrows of our environment. And we are utterly and completely dependent on those others for our well-being, even for our very existence. Whatever the vicissitudes of our parents' mental and emotional health, or lack thereof, we, as children, cannot protect ourselves or remove ourselves from harm's way. We can't stop adults from hurting us, nor can we trade in one set of adults for another. In other words... we are vulnerable. Truly.

Now, here's where the confusion comes in and how the erroneous connection gets made.

As children, as newly minted human beings, we are naturally open, physically, mentally and emotionally. We feel everything fully when we're first born, and to some degree, we stay that way throughout the very early years of life. However, because of the undeveloped, un-self-actualized aspects of humanity, we are injured by our environment. Our parents and caretakers hurt us. Yet, we cannot stop them, nor can we leave them.

So what do we do? We begin to shut down, distort, and/or disconnect parts of ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally in order not to feel the pain so acutely. We form a character structure, and initially, it actually does seem to mitigate the pain, which seems to validate the conclusion that open is vulnerable, and closed is safe.

See, we can't understand truly when we're little that we're little. We can't really picture that one day, we'll be adults ourselves, and have the choices adults have. In other words, we can't understand that it's being little that makes us vulnerable, not being open that makes us vulnerable. And so, stuck in the confines of our character structures as time passes, we miss the fact that nature provides the solution to the problem of vulnerability in childhood - we grow up!

In adulthood, we can realize that protecting ourselves emotionally with the armor of character defenses is very inefficient and inhibiting, and most importantly, no longer necessary. Wearing that suit of armor doesn't make for the easy enjoyment of a sunny day, let alone for making love. On the other hand, being fully open to our inner lives, which frees up the mind and body, gives us the energy and flexibility to creatively express ourselves, enjoy life and, if need be, avoid situations that would do us harm, which mainly means not engaging with negativity. Thus, in this realization, we can engage in a healing process, in an holistic self-work process, that can dismantle the armor and allow us to be ourselves fully.

So, let go of the false belief that when you love and reveal yourself to another, you are vulnerable. And Brene, forgive me for suggesting a slight change to the title of your book, but "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be OPEN Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead" would work better for me.

TODAY'S FATHERS DAY SHAKESPEARE QUOTES!

"When a father gives to his son, both laugh; when a son gives to his father, both cry."

"It is a wise father that knows his own child."

(William Shakespeare)





MURDER AND MAYHEM GOT YOU DOWN? CHANGE THE CHANNEL!

This is a repost from the first month of 2015. Seemed appropriate to put it up again given the recent murder and mayhem.

Okay. Take a breath. And answer this question - What channel are you tuned into? The Prosperity Channel? The Vibrant Health Channel? The Love, Eros and Sex Channel?

Or are you tuned into the old 3D Network where you can find the "Disaster and Calamity Channel?" Perhaps you're a fan of the "Be Afraid, Be Very Afraid Channel?" Maybe the "All Terrorism All the Time" station?

You see, here's the deal, folks. This is 5D. And as I've said many times, if you're reading this blog, you're in 5D. And you're "ascending," meaning you're raising your vibration, your consciousness. We all are, one way or another. Easy or hard, fast or slow, on the planet or off, we're all on the 5D train, now.

Many people are experiencing this raising of our frequency as very exciting indeed, though some are reacting to this shift with fear, especially of what is loosely referred to as "the unknown" (a confusing and illusory concept in and of itself because the future is the present when we get there, and therefore, the future is always the unknown until we create it). Fear, of course, is the best way to slow down your own personal ascension process. And of course, many elements in the media are more than glad to contribute to your delay with flashy fear mongering.

However, for those of you who are determined and dedicated to actively and consciously moving forward in your evolutionary process, you will find that this is a time of great acceleration and near instant manifestation. And you can rest assured that you will not inadvertently contract ebola  anytime soon. Nor will you become destitute and homeless or spend the rest of your life alone. In fact, except for some necessary cleansing/purging experiences, you will find your life expanding towards your highest excitement and fulfillment in quantum leaps.

Okay, but can you say more, PL, about why I don't need to worry about ebola?

Well, first of all, on a mundane, practical level, because worry is an energy drain and a negative meditation that eventually attracts the very thing you worry about. The quote often posted on FPL - "Hating war is not the same as loving peace" - is a reminder of this. But more importantly, you don't have to worry about plagues or terrorism because you can literally change the channel and live on one of the parallel Earths where such things no longer exist. You can acknowledge and observe, if you find it compelling, that disastrous events are occurring on 3D Earth, but for all intents and purposes, 3D Earth is a network that only shows period pieces, the old era in this case being the 3rd Dimension, where dualism, conflict and limitation ruled.

In January of 2013, I launched a series of posts (HERE) that started with one entitled: "IT'S 2013! WHICH EARTH ARE YOU ON?! (HERE), in which I outlined the new rules of 5D Earth. It is useful to check into the new understanding of how the game has changed, so you can play it with more grace and ease. Something that would help you in the transition process greatly, by the way, would be a change in the way you define things. Occurrences that you once habitually referred to  as "problems" or "obstacles" can be addressed instead as opportunities for trying out the new rules of 5D, and physical symptoms, formerly labelled as signs of "illness," "disease" or "damage," can be understood as manifestations of cleansing and purging one's system to make room for higher levels of creative energy.

The best thing you can do today is to generate joy, laughter and love in your own personal energy field. It is the best vaccine and a truly invincible, impenetrable defense against negative experiences.

Enjoy your day!

5D MEANS LESS PEOPLE, PEOPLE!

This is an update on a piece from a couple of years ago, before Muhammad Ali, Prince, David Bowie, and many others well-known figures crossed over.

Here's the original piece - 

That's right. 

I've written and talked a lot about the "Whatever happened to..." phenomenon in 5D in which people whose vibration is significantly lower than yours, and who have no conscious intention of changing, will disappear from your life, either through death, moving away, getting too busy, etc. 

I wrote about a statistical report that there were more deaths recorded on Planet Earth in 2012 than in any previous year. A piece in the Huffington Post business section this week reports: "U.S. Population Grows At Slowest Rate Since The Great Depression"

While the business minded might want to see this as an economic cause and effect, and part of some kind of historical cycle, the truth is that in the 5D era, there will organically be less people on Earth, at least on the 5D version of the planet. As some people I work with have experienced this reality in their lives, they are at first a bit disconcerted and fearful:

"Who am I going to talk to?" 
"Everyone seems asleep or crazy."
"I'm going to end up being alone."

Not at all. When you clean out a closet of old belongings that no longer suit or fit you, you don't imagine that you will never own anything to go in that closet again, do you? Likewise, while many people you have known and interacted with in 3D may be disappearing, new people that you have "spiritual contracts" with will be appearing. In fact, as you awaken and lift the veil of 3D un-consciousness, you will be amazed at how not alone you are.

Indeed, as the physical population on Earth declines, your awareness of beings not entirely physical or even human will be increasing.

Ready or not (and if you're reading this, you're ready), here we go!

THE GREATEST!

"Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth."

Muhammad Ali

                          

REPOST: BORN AGAIN WITHOUT DYING?!

This post from a while ago is about reincarnating in the same lifetime, that is "dying" and being "reborn" in a single lifetime without having to go through physical death or physical birth. It's one of my favorite subjects and very relevant to our times, because many are choosing to have this experience.

Of course, if we're talking about reincarnating in the same lifetime, we're already taking it for granted that reincarnation in the "usual" way, by dying and coming back into physical form through birth again, is a given. For clarity's sake, let's also accept that the purpose of reincarnation is to sort of reset the soul's journey through the venue of physical existence in a time continuum in order to accomplish a particular task by living a life, then dying, then being born again.

Make no mistake, the process of "regular" reincarnation is no day at the beach. Dying, but even moreso being born can be a real drag! Why? Because no matter what level of development you were at when you died, you still have to be reborn in physical existence as a helpless baby, in a state of complete ignorance, with amnesia about all that came before. And if it's not bad enough that you can't remember all the work you did in other lifetimes, even worse is the reality that you have to have parents again! Noooo!!!

On the other hand, reincarnating in the same lifetime is also quite a challenge. To accomplish it, you must do whatever it takes in terms of self-work to fulfill what you came here to do. That means no true inner desire in you is ignored and no blocks are left undealt with. Every inner belief is confronted, all supressed feelings are released, and the ego and childish self-will are surrendered to the adult and higher self. Believe me, I have literally known more than a few people who have said, when faced with that level of work, that they would rather die. And they have.

However, for those of you who relate to this, who feel that you are at a turning point in your life where you can hunker down and spiral down and out through your final years of life, or you can choose to turn everything upside down and start over again in a whole new way, this lecture is for you.

Okay, here's a marvelous section of a Pathwork Guide lecture on this subject, spelled out much more eloquently by Eva Brich and the "Guide:"

"A person who is truly on a path of accelerated development can, and frequently does, literally reincarnate in the same lifetime. As I have explained, you plan a life task for yourself before incarnation. With the aid of spiritual advisers, you plan a certain environment and certain conditions, and set certain goals of fulfillment as a task for yourself. Many, many human beings barely fulfill this task; many leave physical existence with the task unfulfilled and must return in a new embodiment to try again, perhaps under different conditions. This you know. This I have discussed. But another, quite different phenomenon is possible. And that is when a human being fulfills the task and is ready to take on a further task that would ordinarily await a new embodiment, after the person has spent some so-called time not in the body. On an accelerated path, a new incarnation can be undertaken without leaving the old body behind and creating a new incarnation.

"Thus, a laborious change and break in consciousness (normal death) can be bypassed if the personality is truly devoted to give all of itself to its own expansion and to fulfilling a seedplan that ordinarily would be activated only in a new incarnation. It can be done within the same life span. The life that would have been terminated earlier can be extended, and the new seedplan can be 'taken out' and become the task within this life span. Or, a life that might have continued in certain circumstances -- according to the old seedplan -- completely changes in feelings, expressions, experiences, environment, and task.New talents may manifest, and old ones maybe expressed differently."

Whew! What does this look like? It looks like a lot of endings first. Relationships, careers, habits - suddenly none of the old things you've held onto so dearly work for you anymore. You have to let go of almost everything that constituted your life as you've know it. This is hard and scary, and a lot of stalling and hesitation occurs when a person reaches this point. But I have to say, I've had the pleasure of witnessing a handful of people arrive to that border and perservere in crossing it.

Here's the Guide again:

"A path such as this one you have chosen is indeed a very rare and intense one. Some of you may already connect intuitively with a complete change in your life experience, so that other potentialities that would have remained dormant in the incarnation you were born into can now come to the fore. With less development, these potentialities would remain to be expressed only in a future lifetime.

"This change is a wonderful occurrence. It is an acceleration of the organic movement. And in this extended period of energetic influx of the Christ consciousness, there are more individuals opening themselves to this change. When you do not shrink from it, when you trust it and go with it, you can indeed bring forth a second incarnation within one embodiment.

"I suggest that you practice active meditation and visualization in which you trust change as the most desirable, positive, brilliant, and joyful phenomenon, which you want to go with and not stem against. A further suggestion has to do with the familiar. You feel safe in a familiar territory, even though this territory may actually be less safe than the unfamiliar one. So you frequently remain in a constricted and confined circumference to avoid the imagined danger of the unfamiliar."

Yes, this is the librarian in "The "Shawshank Redemption." Remember him? He was in prison for so long that in spite of the confinement, when his time was up, he became deathly afraid of freedom. The prison walls became embued with feelings of familiarity and safety for him, while the open expanse of a free life was the threatening unknown. Tim Robbins character, on the other hand, in a metaphor for the whatever-it-takes energy, chipped through the stone wall for years, broke through that, then had to wade through "five hundred yards of shit" to finally get to freedom. Morgan Freeman's character is us at the turning point. He's done his hard time, and now has to choose: go back to the known element of prison again or follow Tim Robbins to freedom and the great unknown.

Here's the Guide:

"Living a full life always means stepping beyond the old fences and making new territory your own familiar ground, in which you soon feel as comfortable as in the old. Realizing yourself means feeling comfortable in a new self-expression. That is the task. And only the first few whiffs of the new experience are unfamiliar. Soon the new becomes the familiar, and you expand your circumference; you expand the territory for your psychic 'at homeness' until finally all the universe and all states of consciousness are truly your own, intensely familiar. Then you are one with the universe."

Amen!



By the way, how many near death experiences have you had? Stop and think before you answer. Car accidents? Falls? Allergic reactions? Wiping out while surfing or skiing? These may have been moments when you were giving yourself the option to check out of physical reality, but decided instead to stay. Like railroad track switches, those moments may have defined and informed the next phase of your journey in this lifetime.

Interesting, huh?


THE WAVES WE ARE MAKING!


For those of you born 50 years ago or more ("First Wavers"), this will be poignant. Your journey is and has been unique in a way that only other First Wavers will understand. You've been through a lot! As Oneness puts it, you are the "midwives who are assisting with the birthing of a new reality."

For those of you born three or four decades ago ("Second Wavers"), yours has been an observational tour of a changing landscape. You are the curious chroniclers.

For you most recently arrived to Planet Earth ("Third Wavers"), the world to come is yours!

To all of you, enjoy the ride!



This is one of my favorite passages from "Oneness," by Rasha. It speaks to the extraordinary times we are living in, that of humanity making a dimensional shift in consciousness that affects all aspects of life, now and to come.

Here's Oneness:

"Generations to come may speculate on what it was like to be alive in these times. For, your history will allude to conditions that they will not be able to comprehend. The world as you know it will undergo radical transformations in the times to come. And the foundation upon which you have built your understandings of the nature of your reality will have changed so dramatically that one would be apt to question whether it was the same world at all.

Indeed, that is the very nature of the process. For the world as you know it to be is, in fact, dematerializing in the wake of the momentum that is driving all Creation. The changes are taking form in subtle increments. And often one does not even notice that a significant shift has occurred. But, from the perspective of a broader vision, one will be able to look back upon these times with wonderment. And those of you who will have retained your physical form will have fascinating stories to tell as to how these changes came to be.

Younger beings, who will only be able to imagine life under such conditions, will marvel at how such memories are even possible. You, whose very presence will attest to the extent of the journey in consciousness humankind has undertaken, see these days of transformation from a markedly different perspective. For, collectively, you are the midwives who are assisting with the birthing of a new reality. Your willingness to be in physical form during these changes is an act of courage. For, it would have been far easier to wait until the dust had settled and simply manifest into more favorable circumstances.

You, who read these words, are among those who chose to experience the transformational journey in physical form and to have the experience of physical ascension. Future generations will have made preparations for incarnation into a dramatically different world. Their natural inclination to be less reactive reflects the fact that many of these younger beings have a dramatically different vibrational constitution than you do. Their energy fields are not cluttered with unresolved emotional blockages, and life for the young, in general, flows more smoothly than it did for you at their stage of development.

The beings now incarnating into your reality are, themselves, representations of an interim stage in the evolution of the being who will, ultimately, populate your world. Their perceptions seem clearer, at times, than your conditioning permits yours to be. And they are puzzled as to why the older generations seem to struggle with their lives, when they do not appear to manifest so much conflict in theirs.

These beings have incarnated at vibrational levels that are in harmony with the conditions now prevalent in your world, whereas, you incarnated at vibrational levels from which your reality has ascended. In keeping up with the pace of those changes, you have systematically shed the layers of density that were designed to keep you grounded at levels you have transcended. And for you, the process will be ongoing, as long as you retain your present physical form.

In the process, you are able to confront and release the karmic constraints that contribute to that vibrational density. And your conscious awareness of that process was the opportunity for which you chose this physical incarnation. The beings who will be incarnating in human form in the times soon to come will have a natural affinity for the world of nature. They will be able to communicate easily with the other life forms that populate your reality, and their easy interaction with these other forms of intelligence will set the stage for the air of peace and harmony that will prevail. That harmonization is characteristic of an orientation based on a sense of Oneness, not only with one’s fellow human beings, but with all life. The beings now in their physical infancy will exhibit abilities that would have been considered most unusual, not long ago. These beings are incarnating fully equipped to cope in a world that neither you nor they have seen, as yet."

SLEEP DEPRIVED OR WAKING UP?!

I hear almost daily from someone who is feeling "sleep-deprived," complaining that they do not get enough sleep, and that typically means they wake up after 4 or 5 hours into the night.

This is from a piece on the Huffington Post called: "Is Short Sleep A Big Bad Wolf?", written by Daniel F. Kripke, M.D., Professor of Psychiatry Emeritus and co-Director of Research at Scripps Clinic Viterbi Family Sleep Center:

"Manufacturers of sleeping pills provided most of the initial funding for The National Sleep Foundation (NSF), an organization devoted largely to issuing public proclamations about sleep. A public relations firm for the makers of Ambien bragged on the internet about their role in a NSF campaign to raise insomnia to its deserved level of a national public health crisis. Directed in part by agents of the Ambien manufacturer, this campaign was successful in increasing new prescriptions for sleep medications. Ambien attained 30 percent of the sales in the first year. Later, NSF campaigns about alleged dangers of insufficient sleep in children were followed by a huge increase in sleeping pill consumption by children."

"Sleep doesn't help if your soul is tired."
(Arab proverb), written

TODAY'S "BE HERE NOW" QUOTE!

"By remaining focused in the present moment, and resisting the temptation to jump ahead of yourself and plan the future before it is ready to evolve, you will be in a position to make the highest choices. Trust that you have choreographed your journey perfectly so that you will arrive at your destination right on schedule. There, you will reunite in a loving bond of Oneness with the multidimensional facets of your own being that await your return to the sanctity of the whole. It is toward this blessed end that you strive in the present moment, whether you are aware of it or not."

("Oneness," by Rasha)


CRAVING OYSTERS? ANCHOVIES? MORE ON: "THE TRUTH ABOUT EVERYTHING, PART FIVE: THE BODY NEVER LIES!"

Part Five from the "Truth About Everything" series - "THE BODY NEVER LIES!" - starts with this:

First coined in mass consciousness, as far as I know, by Alexander Lowen, creator of the mind-body-emotions therapy process known as Bioenergetics, this simple, direct statement - "The body never lies" - should change everything in the same way that the other Truths About Everything should. What Lowen extensively demonstrated in several seminal books, including, Language of the Body, was that our physical bodies "speak" openly and clearly, continuously and unequivocally to us and to others. If you want to know the state of a person's inner life, beliefs and attitudes, even their emotional, physical and psychological history, you can literally read their body language like a book.

Well, there is another way that the body never lies, and that is through its genuine cravings for whatever it needs in the way of nourishment and physical support. Now, I emphasize the word "genuine" for a reason. Many of our so-called cravings do not initiate with the body, but rather in the mind, and more specifically, in the ego.

Here's the way that works - if a human being is chronically sad, for instance, which means that there is stockpiled sadness caused by unreleased grief from childhood being held in the body, the ego will take the need for emotional comfort, for getting some "sweetness" out of life, and seek a substitute fast fix solution for the problem. One such very common fix, readily available in our culture for the above reason, is... sugar! Yeah, sugar, and in large and then larger doses, too!



You see, the problem is, whenever any kind of food, substance (drugs, alcohol) or activity (work, sex) is employed as a substitute for an emotional need, addiction ultimately results because the external thing isn't meeting the true need, so more and more of the thing is sought after. ("Just one more cupcake, shot, bump or hump and I'll be nice, right?" Nope.)

Okay, back to the point of this post. The body is essentially a receiver and a messenger. It receives information from the various organs and systems that comprise our physical selves about what is currently needed for optimum health, and it transmits that information through cravings and intuitions to the mind, ideally bypassing the ego. (See the FPL post "FULL PERMISSION EATING" for more details.)

In other words, if you have done the self-work necessary to be in touch with your emotions, and therefore with your body, you can trust your desires, and you will not be prone to excess over time... once you get used to the freedom! And you won't need to rely on medical doctors or nutritionists or books to tell you what you need. You'll sense it, feel it.

So, recently, I started having a craving for oysters and anchovies and broccolini, finding their tastes and textures irresistible. That was the craving part. And I trusted it. I even found a guy in a fish market who would shuck the oysters for me... after a few attempts to do it myself, resulting in a couple of nice holes in the palm of my hand!


Simultaneously, I noticed I'd been getting a lot of muscle cramps at night, recently, and that I wasn't sleeping well, either. That's where the intuition part came in. I put the cravings and the cramps and the erratic sleeping pattern together, and what did I get?

Calcium!

My body needed more calcium. Calcium deficiency was causing those classic symptoms of same, and it "turned out" that the foods I was craving were all good sources of calcium.

The body never lies!
 
                                         
Bon appetit!!


MOTHERING... EVEN WITHOUT CHILDREN!

"Generativity is primarily the interest in establishing and guiding the next generation, although there are people who, because of special gifts in other directions, do not apply this drive to having offspring, but to engaging in other forms of altruistic concern and creativity which may absorb their kind of "parental" responsibility. This is a stage of growth of the healthy adult personality, and where such enrichment fails, regression from generativity to an obsessive need for pseudo intimacy takes place, often with a pervading sense of stagnation and interpersonal impoverishment. The mere fact of having, or even wanting children does not itself attest to generativity."
Erik Erikson

I have often reposted that Erikson quote, written in the last century, because it is so relevant to our time in the 21st Century and to the vibrational rise up to 5D that's been occurring since the end of 2012. 

More than ever, First and Second Wave people are choosing not to have biological children, and even those who do choose to have offspring are having fewer of them, and at a later age. In fact, so-called "Millennials" are having fewer children than any other generation... ever! And while 3D-minded social scientists and statisticians scramble to explain the historic decline in the birth rate through the lens of old school theories, the truth is... this is great and timely news!

What Mother Earth does not need during this time is more physical bodies, but rather, she needs for those already here to become more enlightened, self-actualized and engaged in generativity fully. 

As someone who has been privileged to participate in the process of hundreds of people awakening and journeying toward higher consciousness, I have witnessed more and more people coming to work on themselves with an intensity and focus that could not be maintained easily while engaged in the 20-year full-time job of parenting a child. So, most have chosen to forego the role, which for centuries was a societal requirement for a woman. I salute you and wish you a Happy Mothers Day! I also salute those rare individuals who are giving it a go, having physical children while pursuing their self-actualization in earnest. 

On this Mothers Day, 2016, I honor all of you, all the mothers giving back to life, even the ones dressed in the illusion of male bodies!

Happy Mother's Day!




Repost: "LEARNING TO LOVE YOUR HATE ON MOTHER'S DAY!"

A few days early... but...

Here's one from the FPL archives. It's a bit of a "period piece" in that it was written from the 3rd Dimension, but it still makes some interesting points.

Enjoy!

"LEARNING TO LOVE YOUR HATE ON MOTHER'S DAY!"

I have occasionally been hard on parents over the years of writing on FPL, its true, but invariably my criticism has been in the direction of urging parents, especially mothers, to take better care of themselves, to focus on their own self-acceptance and seek gratification in their adult life. I have tried to encourage mothers to trust nature more, and to trust their kids, without trying to control or "fix" everything.

In that regard, Donna Fish, a psychoanalyst writing on the Huffington Post offered a perfect Mother's Day gift a few years ago, entitled, "Love and Hate in the Time of Parenting." It beautifully informs us that having feelings of "hate" for your kids at times is not only normal, but beneficial, if experienced consciously and without guilt.

Here are some excerpts from Donna:

"I want to help all you parents out there learn why and how it is vital to embrace your intense feelings of hatred at times towards your kids. Don't feel guilty. This is not to give yourself a free pass, or a rationalization, but rather to let you know why in fact it is a vital part of teaching your children how to tolerate ambivalent feelings. Part of being a human being and part of relationships.
"I promise you, this is not coming only from the Mom perspective of how I feel at times when I am in the biggest fight with my kids. It comes from the training I have gotten as an analyst, when I was told by one of my best teachers: 'good enough is not only 'good enough', it is vital to help kids tolerate disappointment, and learn to hold onto us in their minds in the face of their own anger and hatred."

I love that! I have said that many times to mothers - "Good enough is good enough." Perfect is not only not an attainable goal, it is not a desirable goal. One of the biggest and most important tasks of growing up is learning how to accept all of one's feelings, especially the negative ones. And children, like the little sponges that they are, learn by example through absorption. If you feel guilty for every moment of anger, sadness or fear you have, your kids will pick up on that guilt, and incorporate it into their evolving personality. They will then treat their own feelings as suspect, not legitimate or acceptable.

Here's more from Donna:

"Now we are talking primitive feelings here, right? But name me an intense relationship that doesn't involve love and hate, and I will say that is not intimate. Or deeply involved."

Here's one of my favorite passages from Jane Roberts' extraordinary channeled "Seth" book, "The Nature of Personal Reality:"

"Left alone, hate does not last. Often it is akin to love for the hater is attracted to the object of hatred by deep bonds. In its natural state, hatred does not initiate violence. Love and hate are both based upon self-identification. You do not bother to love or hate someone you cannot identify with at all. Hatred always involves a painful sense of separation from love, which may be idealized. If you hate a parent, it is precisely because you expect such love. A person from who you expect nothing will never earn your bitterness. Hatred, then, is a means of returning to love, and left alone and expressed, it is meant to communicate a separation that exists in relation to what is expected. Often you are taught not only to repress verbal expressions of hate, but also told that hateful thoughts are as bad as hateful actions. You become conditioned so that you feel guilty when you even contemplate hating another. In this case, you will exaggerate all those differences from the ideal, and focus on them predominantly. But it requires only a determined and honest attempt to become aware of your own feelings and beliefs, and even your hateful fantasies will return you to reconciliation and release love. Love, therefore, can contain hate very nicely."

Back to Donna:

"Learn to love your hate. I am always drawn to other irreverent moms like myself, who are willing to be upfront about their angry feelings, and the emotional intensity that can come up in parenting.
"Most importantly though, we do need to model for our kids, that, in the face of their tantrums, or anger as we don't give them what they want, that we can hold onto their love for us and we remember how great they are even when they are behaving so badly. That gives them a way to soothe themselves and hold on to soothing feelings to help them develop that tool to prevent fixing it with drugs, alcohol, food, etc.
"Simple. Direct. Don't be afraid. It passes. Teach your kid it is not the end of the world and you know they still love you, as you do them even when you or they 'feel' the hatred. I know we don't like to use that word.
"But hey, we are all human. If you can feel it, you don't have to act on it.
"Happy Mother's Day!"

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!

TO LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE OF YOUR FAULTS! (TODAY'S "ONENESS" QUOTE!)


"Those moments when you judge yourself most harshly and in which you feel you let yourself down are the moments most deeply yearned for as a soul. For, in the moments you look back upon with deepest regret—the ones that conjure up within you the most profound humiliation in your own eyes—are the moments for which you chose a human incarnation. These key experiences serve as reference points for you to underscore the themes you have acted out. And your purpose in drawing these experiences to you was in creating moments that would be truly unforgettable. Your darkest hour was, in actuality, your shining moment. For, in the authenticity of your emotional experience was your key to your liberation from the pattern that keeps you rooted in the pain of separation from who you really are. The key to the self-mastery that is so fervently sought by you who are so keenly aware of your process of evolution, is not to love yourself despite your perceived shortcomings—but rather, to love yourself because of them."

PRINCE FROM THE AFTERWORLD!

"Dearly Beloved,
We are gathered here today
To get through this thing called life.
Electric word, life.
It means forever and that's a mighty long time,
But I'm here to tell you
There's something else -
The after world
A world of never ending happiness.
You can always see the sun, day or night.
So when you call up that shrink in Beverly Hills,
You know the one, Dr. 'Everything'll Be Alright,'
Instead of asking him how much of your time is left
Ask him how much of your mind, baby.
'Cause in this life
Things are much harder than in the after world.
In this life
You're on your own
And if the elevator tries to bring you down
Go crazy, punch a higher floor."
("Let's Go Crazy," Prince, The Revolution)


EVERYTHING IS WHAT YOU SAY IT IS!

Over recent years, I've posted information that linked to studies and articles indicating that ample exposure to the sun, taking frequent naps, eating beans and bacon regularly, drinking alcohol and coffee moderately, and having plenty of orgasmic sex were all good for your health and longevity.

Much of this information runs counter to "conventional wisdom" (an oxymoron, in and of itself), but that's not exactly my point here. My point, posed as a question is - what do bacon and sunshine, beans and sex, drinking and napping have in common that make then beneficial to our well-being?

The answer is... nothing. That's right. Nothing. Sort of.

Okay, so let me explain.

Consciousness creates everything, and everything is made from the same particles and waves of energy. Quantum physicists have known this for decades. Mystics have known it for millennia. So, essentially, the bacon and beans you're eating, or the couch you're sitting on, or the Uber car you're riding in, or the hair on your head are all made of the same stuff, and that stuff is given form and "meaning" according to the dictates of your consciousness. At the physical level, that means your thoughts and beliefs, and the emotions they stimulate you to feel, create your reality. (As Dr. Joe Dispenza puts it: "Thoughts are electric and emotions are magnetic," and together, they form physical matter.)

Therefore, what you eat, what you have, what you do affects you positively or negatively only in accordance with your beliefs and feelings about what you eat, what you have, and what you do. It's another variation on the "placebo effect," which I've written about extensively on this blog, or what "Bashar" refers to as "permission slips."

In other words, if you believe that something is good for you, (truly believe, by the way, not ambivalently believe) then it will be good for you. So, the "magic" is not in the bacon or naps, but in you, in your thoughts.

Get it?

Okay, well, there's one caveat - some things are created from negative intentions and/or fear. Processed foods, most drugs, inhumanely raised animals for consumption, weapons, etc., are all created for the purposes of greed and wanton material gain, without empathy or conscience, often laced with paranoia. Therefore, since we're all part of a collective consciousness, you will be effected negatively by these things if you blindly consume or use them without first transforming their negatively charged particles with healing thoughts and a focus which, frankly, takes a lot of energy. That is why most conscious people in these days of ascension prefer to eat organic, fresh and humanely raised food, prefer not to have assault rifles in their homes, or take the prescription drugs offered by doctors and drug companies. It takes too much work to reverse their low-vibrating energy fields. Better, and easier, to buy, own, and consume things made consciously with love and light.

So, be it bacon or beans, coffee or bourbon, naps or sex, everything is what you say it is, folks. Everything.

So, off I go to have another espresso.

Have a great day!  
 

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