1ST WAVERS, LISTEN UP - YOU'RE NOT LATE. YOU'RE EARLY!

For those of you born 50 years or so ago, you are the "midwives," the coffee servers for those just now incarnating or for those just now waking up. You may feel that you are behind the times, that you are too late to experience what you desire to achieve in this life, but in fact you are, if anything, a little early for your heart's desire. Fear not.

Here's a passage from "Oneness" by Rasha on the matter: 

"Generations to come may speculate on what it was like to be alive in these times. For, your history will allude to conditions that they will not be able to comprehend. The world as you know it will undergo radical transformations in the times to come. And the foundation upon which you have built your understandings of the nature of your reality will have changed so dramatically that one would be apt to question whether it was the same world at all. Indeed, that is the very nature of the process. For the world as you know it to be is, in fact, dematerializing in the wake of the momentum that is driving all Creation.  
"The changes are taking form in subtle increments. And often one does not even notice that a significant shift has occurred. But, from the perspective of a broader vision, one will be able to look back upon these times with wonderment. And those of you who will have retained your physical form will have fascinating stories to tell as to how these changes came to be. Younger beings, who will only be able to imagine life under such conditions, will marvel at how such memories are even possible. You, whose very presence will attest to the extent of the journey in consciousness humankind has undertaken, see these days of transformation from a markedly different perspective. 
"For, collectively, you are the midwives who are assisting with the birthing of a new reality. Your willingness to be in physical form during these changes is an act of courage. For, it would have been far easier to wait until the dust had settled and simply manifest into more favorable circumstances. You, who read these words, are among those who chose to experience the transformational journey in physical form and to have the experience of physical ascension. 
"Future generations will have made preparations for incarnation into a dramatically different world. Their natural inclination to be less reactive reflects the fact that many of these younger beings have a dramatically different vibrational constitution than you do. Their energy fields are not cluttered with unresolved emotional blockages, and life for the young, in general, flows more smoothly than it did for you at their stage of development."



UPDATE ON BEING "BORED TO DEATH!"

A while ago, I wrote a piece, simply titled "BORED TO DEATH?," in which I cited a study, the results of which demonstrated that those who reported they had been very bored were two and a half times more likely to die of a heart problem than those who hadn't reported being bored.

Well, recently, a group of metaphysical truth seekers and I received some very interesting and powerful information on this subject. It seems that our Higher Selves can indeed "pull the plug" on a lifetime in which the incarnated personality has become so congested, disenchanted, bored, etc., that finishing out the lifetime isn't worth it... not just to the human being, but to the Higher Self as well.

In some existences, and perhaps this is more often the case than not, a Higher Self may have many incarnations going on simultaneously, and in a certain sense, there is, then, a distribution of energy from the Higher Self to the various incarnated selves that takes place. Last night's information suggests that the Higher Self has its own priorities when it comes to the disbursement of that energy.

Now, this does not amount to the Higher Self "murdering" the incarnated self. Since all aspects of the self, from the child/lower self to the adult and on up, are one with the Higher Self, it is always a joint decision, though the human aspect may not be conscious of its decision to end a lifetime.

So, what does this mean for we humans, practically speaking?

Well, if you're going to live... then live!

"Every death is a suicide," spiritual teachers have said in variously different ways. In other words, there is always a decision being made, and always an agreement involved, when a physical life is ended. If you are aware of your desire to live, and do whatever it takes to actualize yourself into a life that you feel is worth living, your Higher Self will support you. If you exhaust yourself with anger and resistance, or boredom, if you decide your life's not worth living, your Higher Self will support you in that as well.

It's always up to you.

IT'S 2015 - WHICH WAVE ARE YOU?!

If you're still here, which you are if you're reading this, of course, then you are one of three waves of incarnate beings (i.e. - people) who are on Planet Earth right now to assist and participate in not only the greatest transition in the history of our planet, but in one of the greatest events in the history of the entire universe!

Congratulations!

Now, I've been writing a great deal over the last few years about this transition, and I've been telling people that what is happening - right here, right now - has never happened before. Earth, the planet, as a whole, has shifted its dimensional frequency. According to some sources, like Dolores Cannon, one of the foremost writers on these matters, this has never happened before in our universe. 

"Never has an entire planet shifted its vibration into a new dimensional frequency. Many individual souls and groups of souls (like the Mayans, for example) have shifted in this way before, but never has an entire planet shifted all at once," according to Dolores. 

In her book, The Three Waves of Volunteers and The New Earth, Dolores outlines who these volunteers are:

The First Wave: Now in their late 40s to early 60s, these volunteers cut the path, so to speak, working hard to increase awareness and raise consciousness, beginning in the 1960's. Much disturbed by the violence, anger and hate that they experienced on Earth half a century ago, this group had to be sturdy. Some from this generation had a hard time adjusting to life as a human being, and many of them even tried to commit suicide. 


The Second Wave: Now in their late 20s to late 30s, these volunteers are more comfortable in bodies and are said to be beacons or channels of energy who can affect others just by being near them. Their mission of just sharing their energy with others means that they don’t have to do a great deal in terms of outer actions to be of service. Sometimes criticized as the "Me Generation," it is perhaps more accurate that they be called the "Be Generation."

The Third Wave: The new children, many of whom are now teenagers, have all the knowledge needed to exist on the planet after the dimensional shift and transformation takes place. Their DNA is more advanced, and the greatest challenge they face is being misunderstood by others, who often attempt to label them with fictitious conditions (like ADHD) and medicate them.

Here's more from Dolores:

"We’re moving away from the negativity of the Old Earth, and it’s going to be a complete turnaround, beyond belief, and we’re all going there now. The New Earth is where it’s at. We are living in the most important time in the history of the Universe, and it’s very important to be here now. There are thousands of souls who want to be here to experience this – even if they can just be here for a few hours. For some, even if they’re born and die right away, they can say, 'I was there when this occurred.' This is how important this is to the entire Universe."

Well, how cool is that?!

Thanks, Dolores!

REPOST: "BORED TO DEATH?!"

No joke, folks!

In an article in the International Journal of Epidemiology, experts concluded that the more bored you are, the more likely you are to die early!

The researchers analyzed questionnaires completed by more than 7,500 London civil servants 20 years ago, ages 35 to 55. The civil servants were asked if they had felt bored at work during the previous month. The researchers then tracked down how many of the participants had died by April 2009. Those who reported they had been very bored were two and a half times more likely to die of a heart problem than those who hadn't reported being bored.

Dr. Christopher Cannon, an associate professor of medicine at Harvard University and spokesman for the American College of Cardiology said if people's boredom was ultimately linked to depression, it wouldn't be surprising if they were more susceptible to heart attacks; depression has long been recognized as a risk factor for heart disease. Cannon also said it was possible that when people are bored, dangerous hormones are released in the body that stress the heart.

"Boredom is not innocuous," said Sandi Mann, a senior lecturer in occupational psychology at the University of Central Lancashire who studies boredom. She said boredom is linked to anger suppression, which can raise blood pressure and suppress the body's natural immunity.

Yo! Are you listening? Or are you bored?! Well, if you're bored, it's not because this information isn't interesting. Its because you're sitting on a bunch of suppressed feelings that this article is tweaking and you don't want to hear it. Or feel it!

As Alexander Lowen so brilliantly catalogued in his studies on "the language of the body," we know that what's going on inside ourselves emotionally manifests physically in our bodies. "He has a stiff upper lip," "She's a pain in the neck (or ass)," "He's a tight ass," "Get off my back!" "I have a lump in my throat," etc., etc. We remind ourselves through our verbal expressions that our emotions and our body are connected.

In other words, "Bored to death" is a formula, not just a colloquialism.

Boredom isn't a feeling, see? It's an "affective state" caused by the suppression of feelings. And trying to cover up your boredom with excessive activity or drama isn't going to work, either, by the way. No. People who die prematurely from "Type A" stressed-out living are suffering from the same disease as those who die prematurely from boredom. The disease is suppressed emotions.

Get yourself into some penetrating self-work, people. There's no other way. You're not going to be magically rescued from your boring jobs, from your dead marriages or from your addiction to Facebook. You need to get a life! For real. And yes, I know. I know. I say this so often on this blog that it's now... boring me to tears!

GET RID OF YOUR STUFF... QUICK!

Okay, here's a bit of sock-'em-in-the-gut news that came in on the psychic airwaves during a very powerful channeling session.

You have read on this blog many times that you create your own reality. Some may still not understand that this statement is meant literally, not figuratively, but even physicists these days can readily tell you that it is consciousness that directs the energy which gives form to matter. (For an even more "scientific" understanding of this process read Jane Roberts channeling "Seth" in the mind-expanding book, "The Nature of Personal Reality").

Furthermore, said reality is not created in a static way, like "There, I created a chair and it's done." No. That chair is being created continuously by you, as long as you choose to experience having it. In other words, all that surrounds you is being created by you constantly, moment to infinitesimal moment, to the degree that you are aware of "having" your creations around you. And guess what?

That takes energy!

And plenty of it. Yep. So, here's the shocker delivered yesterday about you and your stuff - Get ready hoarders! - When you wake up in the morning, the first thing you do, before the bathroom, before coffee, every morning, is recreate all your stuff!

That's right. All that you're used to having around you, all that you expect to be there, has to be created as soon as you awaken from your vacation in the spirit world known as sleep. And that is another reason why you're so exhausted. Those clothes you never wear, but keep in your closet just in case, the books and magazines you never read, but think you might one day, old tacky jewelry, trinkets and trash alike, all of it. Even that chair you never sit in. All of it has to be created by your consciousness... until you decide, literally, to let go of it. That's one of the reasons vacations are so relaxing, because we go to a new environment and leave most of our stuff behind, so our consciousness can be freer to experience the now without the clutter.

So, look around you, folks. Everything you see is the result of an expenditure of your creative energy. If you're too tired to finish that screenplay, or to start that book, or to try that new recipe, or to just create more abundance or love in your life, maybe there's some old shoes you can give away.

Really.



REALLY!


Go HERE to hear the oldie but goodie by Loffredo/Saperstein on this subject.

GREAT NON-EXPECTATIONS!

Someone referred me to an article, "Why Generation Y Yuppies Are Unhappy," on a blog whose name I love: "wait but why." The piece mainly describes what the author (whose name I couldn't find) feels is the root of the problem: unrealistic expectations on the part of GenY-ers (Those born between the late 70's and mid-90's).

The theory presented basically purports that the latter day post-hippie then prosperous Baby Boom generation spawned a generation of entitled narcissists - their kids - who expect everything in their fantasy life to come true, but don't want to work for it. - at all. This is a current and very popular idea, and sociologically, holds some merit. But it is also superficial and a generalization, of course, as all 3D theories must be.

I'm sure the FPL reader who sent me the link did so because she knows that a focus of the work that I do with people includes guidance to rid oneself of not just unrealistic expectations, but of all expectations.

Here's Eckhart Tolle:

"Today I’m going to suggest a small change in mindset that could change your life. I won’t keep you in suspense. Here it is: think of nothing that happens as either good or bad. Stop judging, and stop expecting. It’s a tiny change — all you have to do is say, ‘That wasn’t good or bad, it just happened, it just is.’ It’s tiny, but it takes practice, and amazingly, it can knock you on your ass. Why? Because with this little change, you will no longer be swayed up and down depending on whether good things or bad things happen to you, whether people (and their actions) are good or bad. You will learn to accept things as they are, and move within that landscape mindfully. You will no longer expect good things to happen (or bad things), but will just take things as they come, and be content with whatever comes. This means you’ll no longer be disappointed, or unhappy. The second half of this change is just as small, but just as important: dropping expectations. Not lowering expectations, but eliminating them."

Really? No expectations, Eckhart? Wouldn't that lead to complacency? Lethargy? Boredom? If we didn't have high hopes for things, didn't have goals, a focus on outcomes, what would motivate us to do anything?

I'm glad I asked.

As a screenwriter by avocation (at least so far), I've have heard from many fellow writers, producers, actors, etc., that every good screenplay has conflict in it. In fact, I have been told, that every scene in every good screenplay must have conflict in it. There must always be "tension," the conventional wisdom goes, something for the hero to overcome, face, defeat or defy, in order for a story to be interesting. Many people feel that this is also the key to an interesting, exciting life, as well, and so, they are always creating barriers, crises and limitations to break through in their daily lives. What fun!

Nonetheless, I have wondered, what might be interesting about a story or a life that didn't have conflict as its motivating force? If there weren't obstacles to overcome, if there were no victories to be won by defeating someone or something outside or even inside of ourselves, if there were no resistance, what would make life exciting?

Ready?

Creating!

That's right. Creating.

The main thing we do from the highest levels of our being is create... and then, experience what we create... and then, create some more. Endless creation. That is essentially the main activity of All That Is. Seems pretty exciting to me.

So, back to the question of where would motivation come from?

Motivation would come from desire and inspiration. Desire and inspiration come directly from our Higher Selves. They are the initial stirrings of creation in a physical body in a linear time continuum. (In non-physical form, desire, inspiration and creation, as well as experiencing, would occur simultaneously.) And make no mistake, our desires and inspirations are not random or whimsical, but rather, they are messages about what our Higher Self would like to create through us. And folks, yes, our desires are meant to be fulfilled. Really.

The process looks like this: desire and inspiration come from our Higher Self. This stirs the imagination. Our task at that point is to play with images and visions of the fulfillment of the desires through creative expression. Then, through this playing process, we will attract opportunities and find paths for action in the physical world to actualize our desire.

So, where do expectations fit in.. or not fit in?

First of all, you can only have expectations if you are not focused in the moment. Expectations are always about a future outcome that the lower self mind and ego believes is best, and said pictured outcome is often rooted in the idea of undoing or overcoming a less-than-satisfying past. This is a constipated creative process at best.

Secondly, expectations, as a function of the lower self mind and ego, are inherently limited to what the lower self mind and ego can conceive of. And that mean no "miracles," no serendipity, no quantum leaps, just the... expected.

So, folks, whatever generation you're from, let go of your judgments and expectations, tune into your desires, use your imagination and create. No need for conflict or obstacles or antagonists in your story. Unless of course that's what you desire.

Comment Lao Tzu?

“When people see some things as beautiful, other things become ugly.
When people see some things as good, other things become bad.”

Thanks, LT.

TODAY'S "ONENESS" QUOTE!

"For, when life is working for you, it cannot be to the detriment of another being. That’s not how it works. Choices that give the illusion of putting your back against the wall are the very tests that hold the potential of monumental breakthroughs for all concerned. When you honor your own truth, unconditionally, it sets the stage for a chain reaction of transformation, all the way around."
(From "Oneness" by Rasha)

Repost: "LEARNING TO LOVE YOUR HATE ON MOTHER'S DAY!"

Here's one from the FPL archives. It's a bit of a "period piece" in that it was written from the 3rd Dimension, but it still makes some interesting points.

Enjoy!

"LEARNING TO LOVE YOUR HATE ON MOTHER'S DAY!"

I have occasionally been hard on parents over the years of writing on FPL, its true, but invariably my criticism has been in the direction of urging parents, especially mothers, to take better care of themselves, to focus on their own self-acceptance and seek gratification in their adult life. I have tried to encourage mothers to trust nature more, and to trust their kids, without trying to control or "fix" everything.

In that regard, Donna Fish, a psychoanalyst writing on the Huffington Post offered a perfect Mother's Day gift a few years ago, entitled, "Love and Hate in the Time of Parenting." It beautifully informs us that having feelings of "hate" for your kids at times is not only normal, but beneficial, if experienced consciously and without guilt.

Here are some excerpts from Donna:

"I want to help all you parents out there learn why and how it is vital to embrace your intense feelings of hatred at times towards your kids. Don't feel guilty. This is not to give yourself a free pass, or a rationalization, but rather to let you know why in fact it is a vital part of teaching your children how to tolerate ambivalent feelings. Part of being a human being and part of relationships.
"I promise you, this is not coming only from the Mom perspective of how I feel at times when I am in the biggest fight with my kids. It comes from the training I have gotten as an analyst, when I was told by one of my best teachers: 'good enough is not only 'good enough', it is vital to help kids tolerate disappointment, and learn to hold onto us in their minds in the face of their own anger and hatred."

I love that! I have said that many times to mothers - "Good enough is good enough." Perfect is not only not an attainable goal, it is not a desirable goal. One of the biggest and most important tasks of growing up is learning how to accept all of one's feelings, especially the negative ones. And children, like the little sponges that they are, learn by example through absorption. If you feel guilty for every moment of anger, sadness or fear you have, your kids will pick up on that guilt, and incorporate it into their evolving personality. They will then treat their own feelings as suspect, not legitimate or acceptable.

Here's more from Donna:

"Now we are talking primitive feelings here, right? But name me an intense relationship that doesn't involve love and hate, and I will say that is not intimate. Or deeply involved."

Here's one of my favorite passages from Jane Roberts' extraordinary channeled "Seth" book, "The Nature of Personal Reality:"

"Left alone, hate does not last. Often it is akin to love for the hater is attracted to the object of hatred by deep bonds. In its natural state, hatred does not initiate violence. Love and hate are both based upon self-identification. You do not bother to love or hate someone you cannot identify with at all. Hatred always involves a painful sense of separation from love, which may be idealized. If you hate a parent, it is precisely because you expect such love. A person from who you expect nothing will never earn your bitterness. Hatred, then, is a means of returning to love, and left alone and expressed, it is meant to communicate a separation that exists in relation to what is expected. Often you are taught not only to repress verbal expressions of hate, but also told that hateful thoughts are as bad as hateful actions. You become conditioned so that you feel guilty when you even contemplate hating another. In this case, you will exaggerate all those differences from the ideal, and focus on them predominantly. But it requires only a determined and honest attempt to become aware of your own feelings and beliefs, and even your hateful fantasies will return you to reconciliation and release love. Love, therefore, can contain hate very nicely."

Back to Donna:

"Learn to love your hate. I am always drawn to other irreverent moms like myself, who are willing to be upfront about their angry feelings, and the emotional intensity that can come up in parenting.
"Most importantly though, we do need to model for our kids, that, in the face of their tantrums, or anger as we don't give them what they want, that we can hold onto their love for us and we remember how great they are even when they are behaving so badly. That gives them a way to soothe themselves and hold on to soothing feelings to help them develop that tool to prevent fixing it with drugs, alcohol, food, etc.
"Simple. Direct. Don't be afraid. It passes. Teach your kid it is not the end of the world and you know they still love you, as you do them even when you or they 'feel' the hatred. I know we don't like to use that word.
"But hey, we are all human. If you can feel it, you don't have to act on it.
"Happy Mother's Day!"

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!

THE TRUTH ABOUT EVERYTHING, PART EIGHT: THERE IS MORE THAN ENOUGH FOR EVERYONE TO HAVE MORE THAN ENOUGH!



Okay, let's start at the top with this one... You exist because you are fully supported. That's it. The Universe, All That Is, your Higher Self, nature, life... however you want to frame it... fully supports you. Period. If you were not fully supported, you would not exist. In fact, you are so supported that you even get supported in your imaginings that you are not fully supported.

What? You say. People suffer, people die, people are broke or married to the wrong person or slaving away at jobs they hate... 

Yes, that's right. People do create suffering, and they are completely supported in so doing. People also create joy, abundance, health, pleasure, and also do things they love to do... and they are fully supported in that as well. We are always in a state of abundance, in other words. Some human beings create and experience an abundance of material things, love, adventures; others create and experience an abundance of lack and pain. In fact, if you believe in the illusion of death, as most do, you will have the death experience, and then set about experiencing whatever else you wish to experience after death. And so on.

You see, whatever you create, the Universe backs you up... completely! And without judgement. So, whether you put out a call through your inner intentions for impoverishment, illness and loneliness, or prosperity, vitality and deep love, the energetic "creation factory" you exist in will fill your order. When things "happen" in your life that you deem to be negative, how often do you have that "See, I knew it" feeling? Or that "This always happens to me" state of being? Do you believe that "Murphy's Law" applies to you? 

There's an entire Pathwork Guide Lecture on this subject: "The Superstition of Pessimism." Here's a passage from the lecture:

"The superstition of pessimism begins as a superstitious destructive playfulness, but then you get lost in its very painful effects. You may really believe in what you first assumed as a safety measure. However, denying the positive and believing in the worst to appease the gods, as it were, is destructive. You do not know the power of such thoughts. 
"The power of this game needs to be made conscious. It can apply to many things in your life. When you have an illness, it may apply to the healing. When you find yourself alone and unloved, you may playfully -- safely, as you think - express the belief that it will always be that way. When you lack funds or a fulfilling profession you say to yourself, 'I had better believe it must be that way, so maybe then it can come to me unexpectedly.' It is as though you hoped for some idealized parental figure to assuage your doubts, to come forth and tell you, 'No, no, my child, it is not that bad, it is all going to be wonderful.'
"Without knowing it, you dictate into your soul a belief creating circumstances that prove it. You then 'forget' that you had started this game in a spirit of superstition or perhaps in a spirit of emotional manipulation. You become so involved in what you have unwittingly created that you really begin to believe that the negative is the reality. What started out as a superstitious safety measure gradually becomes belief on another level of your consciousness. The belief creates the reality and you stay in exactly that position."

Look, here's the physics of it, folks, and this really runs through all of the Truths About Everything - everything is made up of particles and streams of energy. Everything. If you could put your hand or your shoe or a pencil or the air you breath under an electron microscope, what you would see is that we are all "composed" of particles and streams of energy living in a vast sea of that same energy. So, what makes one thing appear separate and different from another? Consciousness. Quantum physics has demonstrated that anything being observed is changed by the fact of it being observed.

Consciousness moves and arranges everything! Get it? The abundance that is all around you, that is yours for the having is... again... everything! All around you. 

If your intentions were free and clear, in other words, not clouded by old, conditioned beliefs in limitation, for example, you could literally turn lead into gold as the ancient alchemists were said to be able to do. You could end a drought by making it rain, as Native Americans were known to do. You could create or attract financial prosperity, vibrant health or the love of your life. And it's no secret.

There's more than enough for everyone to have more than enough. The vast, unlimited, infinite "stuff" of the Universe is yours to command. 

What are you waiting for?

THE TRUTH ABOUT EVERYTHING, PART TEN: YOU ARE MEANT TO BE HERE!

That's right... HERE! In this place, at this time, on Planet Earth, in a physical body, being who you are, doing what you do, as you, now.

Welcome!

I'm not being trite in relaying this Truth About Everything. Contrary to what might seem obvious, most people don't take their existence for granted. So many human beings spend inordinate amounts of their lives trying to prove their "worthiness" to others, and to themselves, operating under an erroneous conclusion that one's right to exist and one's value as a person has to be earned somehow.

This mistaken idea comes from very early in childhood.

All infants, like all living things, are born with an innate sense of their own "rightness," taking their existence for granted, expecting to be met by life and their environment with all that they need to live. Newborns come in completely helpless and totally dependent on their caregivers, and yet they organically expect to be greeted with a huge welcome sign of unconditional love, acceptance and confident mirroring from the parents who brought them in. That's why babies cry so horrifically when they are not fully met in these ways.

When parents are not developed to a reasonable degree, and so the infant is greeted with the parents' fears, resentments, or neediness mixed in with the love, it is devastating. It literally feels life-threatening, creating unmanageable terror and rage in the baby. Unable to accept that the source of emotional and physical nurturance that they utterly need to survive is flawed and not fully adequate to the task of tending to the child's needs, the little one turns the pain and anger back against itself, assuming it must be the one who is flawed, not adequate or worthy. It's right to exist comes into question. This dilemma is most intensely present in the schizoid character structure, but it is present to some degree in virtually all human beings because none of us were born into self-actualized environments.

This right to exist question transmutes later on into the classic expression of the core conflict in the schizoid character structure: "Life is dangerous to my life."

This is from the Pathwork Guide Lecture: "The Illusory Fear of the Self":

"The fear of the self is the basic fear behind the fear of life and even the fear of death. Neither could the fear of others possibly exist without the fear of oneself.

When the self is no longer feared, neither desire nor fulfillment need to be feared, for the self then knows that desire will be fulfilled and fulfillment will be not an end but a new beginning."

Another common dysfunction that arises from the child's false belief that its own unworthiness must be the cause of its deprivation at the hands of its parents is that of perfectionism. I have written several pieces on the subject on FPL. 

This is from the Pathwork Guide Lecture: "Perfectionism Obstructs Happiness":

"Strange as this may seem, the more you accept imperfection, the more joy you will give and receive. Your capacity for happiness depends on your capacity to accept imperfection -- not in words or theories, but in your emotional experience.

Only in accepting, let us say, an imperfect relationship - and this by no means implies the unhealthy submissiveness that is born out of fear of loss or disapproval - will you derive and give joy in the relationship. Only through accepting your own imperfection can you begin to grow and experience the joy that comes from your own individuality."

Your parents do not, and in fact not even your personality self that you think of as "you" does not, determine the validity of your existence, folks. Your right to exist, and your worthiness of that existence, and of unconditional love, is a hard-wired given, an inherent reality, because... you are an expression of All That Is. And All That Is is not only eternal (Therefore, you can never not exist.), but the essence of that Source energy is what we call "love," and as the FPL Truth About Everything, Part Two reminds us: All Love Is Unconditional.

So, let's go one step further and say that not only are you meant to be here, wherever and whenever you are in the now, but when it comes to your existence itself, well... you sort of have no choice. In the introduction to the very first Truth About Everything post, I reminded readers that the larger laws of our known Universe start with: "You exist."

You exist. You are meant to be here. Yes, you may create suffering, or you may create joy. You can embrace life or embrace fear, or even indulge in the idea of "death." But you cannot not exist, and you cannot be unworthy of unconditional love. Get over it!

ANGRY ANYMORE?!

HERE is a link to Ani DiFranco's song: "ANGRY ANYMORE," and below are the lyrics.

It is an ambivalent message at first glance, seeming on the one hand to say, "I understand, Mom and Dad, what you went through, how you became those people stuck in limitations that I then had to endure in my childhood," and in that understanding, "I'm not angry anymore." 

On the other hand, Mom and Dad, I don't want to become you or be like you, fighting a subterranean, internal "cold war," or learning to "just get by" in my life. And so in that separation from you, and in my letting go of my identifications with you, "I'm not angry anymore."

This is the work, people. Becoming aware of, revealing, and owning the truth of where we came from in a given lifetime, and who we came from, and then effecting the work of separation and individuation. It's a row to hoe, but you can do it!

Here's Ani in her words:

ANGRY ANYMORE


growing up it was just me and my mom
against the world
and all my sympathies were with her
when i was a little girl
but now i've seen both my parents
play out the hands they were dealt
and as each year goes by
i know more about how my father must have felt
i just want you to understand
that i know what all the fighting was for
and i just want you to understand
that i'm not angry anymore
i'm not angry anymore
she taught me how to wage a cold war
with quiet charm
but i just want to walk
through my life unarmed
to accept and just get by
like my father learned to do
but without all the acceptance and getting by
that got my father through
night falls like people into love
we generate our own light
to compensate
for the lack of light from above
every time we fight
a cold wind blows our way
but we learn like the trees
how to bend
how to sway and say
i, i think i understand
what all this fighting is for
and baby, i just want you to understand
that i'm not angry anymore
no, i'm not angry anymore

WANT A BETTER RELATIONSHIP? ENJOY SOME SOLITUDE!

A few months ago, I posted an excerpt from an article about a book, "DAILY RITUALS: HOW ARTISTS WORK", that extolled the virtues for creativity of frequent walking.

Another section of the book talks about the equally important need for solitude in the creative life:

"If you want to do prolonged creative work, you're going to need to figure out a way to avoid the demands of society, at least some of the time. Most artistic endeavor requires stretches of solitude. That's why so many artists get up super early or stay up super late—only then, when the rest of the world is asleep, are they guaranteed not to be interrupted by family, friends, visitors, or telephone calls."


"Anne Rice, when she’s writing a book, says she needs four hours of unbroken time each day, and that to get this, she must be ruthless about turning down appointments and social obligations. 'Because you won’t get those four hours if you’re spending most of the day worried about getting to an appointment and back,' she said. 'A lot of people don’t understand it. They think, ‘Well, I only want to see you for three hours. Why can’t you write the rest of the day?’ But it doesn’t work like that. What you have to do is clear all distraction. That’s the bottom line."

Last summer, I wrote from Fire Island about the importance of solitude and separation, and not only for the purposes of creative work, but also for the purposes of self-work and for the health of our relationships. Here's Mark Epstein, my favorite Buddhist psychotherapist, on the subject:

"Clinging is as much of a problem in lovemaking as in the rest of life. In order for sexual relations to be deeply satisfying, there must be a yielding of this clinging in a manner that actually affirms the unknowability and separateness of the loved partner. It is the peculiar convergence of awe and appreciation with pleasure and release that characterizes the best sexual experiences. Separate and together cease to be mutually exclusive and instead become reciprocally enhancing and mutually informative. There is wisdom in this state, not just raw instinct."

So, folks, to foster the health of your creative life and your interpersonal life... spend some quality time alone!

TODAY'S "ZEN MEDITATION" QUOTE!

“You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day... unless you’re too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” 

Are you...
                                This guy?
                       
                                  or....

                                              This guy?! 

MORE ON "THE PLACEBO EFFECT IS REAL!" (HINT: IT STILL IS!)

Read THIS - "Man Who Wasn't Expected To Walk Is Now An Accomplished Athlete," - then read or reread the FPL post below. 

Key line from the above story: "His doctors did not see a good future for him." 



Way to go, Doc!

Read on - 

Many people have heard of the "placebo effect," and even mainstream medical professionals and scientists have long known of the reality that patients given an ineffective treatment often improve anyway, simply because they expected to get better. About half of American doctors in a new survey say they regularly give unwitting patients placebo treatments - substance-free pills and fake pseudo-surgery procedures -  that shouldn't technically help their condition, but in fact do help. 

Okay, stop, breathe and listen to it again: patients given a fake or ineffective treatment often improve anyway, simply because they expect to get better. 

This is one of the truths about everything that changes everything. Right? I mean, it's really the most simple deductive reasoning. If a person's belief in something - a water pill, fake surgery, praying, whatever, or simply believing in a particular doctor's ability to heal you - can actually cause cells and molecules to rearrange themselves, then we have hard evidence that we create our reality from our beliefs.

Okay... so we must be rapidly switching over from the mechanistic slash, burn and drug approach that health professionals have been using for centuries to a system in which doctors and nurses are trained to work with their patients' beliefs instead, yes?

No. Or at least, not yet. Why not? 

Well, partly because the scam of drugs, surgery and radiation is big business and people in those businesses make big bucks off of the many young and baby souls who want to be taken care of by an all-powerful father figure, no matter how abusive or exploitive in reality said big daddy's are. 

Secondly, the name of the 3D game we've been playing for millennia here on Earth is: "Shit Happens!" And it's actually quite a "fun" game. You see, in the Shit Happens Game, we never know what's going to occur because we're unconscious of the fact that we're creating our experiences in every moment. On top of which, we have amnesia about our own eternal nature. So, everything we experience is a big and, very often, scary surprise.

"Oh, what do you know? I just inherited a million dollars!" Or... "Wow, the person I have a crush on has a crush on me, too!" Or... "I can't believe my husband cheated on me!" "Oh shit! I just got fired from my job!" "What? I have cancer? How could that be?!"

And so on. One slammin' surprise after another, sometimes happy ones, sometimes not so much, but what a ride! Yeah, life in 3D beats Space Mountain at Disneyworld hands down. Of course, Space Mountain is a perfect representation of 3rd dimensional consciousness - who knows if that roller coaster is going to go off the rails this time or not?! Woohoo!!

So, yes, the placebo effect is real. We create our health or dis-ease from our beliefs. And yes, you could become a conscious creator of the events in your life, knowingly deciding and manifesting what you would like to experience each moment of each day. But, you say, what would be the excitement or the challenge in that? Conflict, obstacles, adversaries... overcoming these on a constant basis is what gets us going, right?

Well, I don't know about you, but I'm ready to experience the challenge of deciding in each moment of health and vitality what I would like to create, what I would like to enjoy, what new pleasure I would like to be stimulated by, what new information I'd like to download from the galactic consciousness. I'd like to keep pushing the boundaries of beauty, music, sexuality, abundance and wisdom.

I've been to Space Mountain, folks. Helluva ride, but you know... been there done that. Threw up. Now, I'm taking the 5D challenge, and instead of seeing how many drops and curves I can handle, I'm checking out how much bliss, joy and pleasure I can tolerate. 

Read more about the placebo effect HERE


THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!

Here's something I've said often to patients in my therapy practice:

"There's nothing wrong with you, except for the fact that you think there's something wrong with you."

Put another way, I've distinguished psychotic people from neurotic people like this:

"A psychotic person is crazy. A neurotic person thinks he is." (See the definition of "crazy" below.*)

Okay, what's my point here?

Well, many people who are sincerely engaged in a process of "self-work" have adopted an attitude and approach to it that basically amounts to trying to fix themselves. (Two pieces on the origins of this attitude this can be found in the FPL "Truth About Everything, Part Two: ALL LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL" and in the Pathwork Guide Lecture: "COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS.") But there is a basic assumption in that approach to the self that is misguided.

You see, we don't need to fix ourselves, but rather, we need to become ourselves more fully. Even more accurately, we need to uncover ourselves. Like a caterpillar, our defensive character structures are the temporary cocoons within which we transform into adult, self-actualized versions of ourselves, like butterflies. Important to remember, though, is that we are not our cocoons, or our character structures. We are, instead, inside of them for a while, until it is the right time to dismantle them, and fly. That dismantling is a more apt way of describing an organic process of self-work that is aligned with our evolution.

This is one of my favorite quotes from famed psychoanalyst, Karen Horney, on what she calls the "tyranny of the 'shoulds":

"Inherent in man are evolutionary constructive forces, which urge him to realize his given potentialities, that man by his very nature and of his own accord, strives toward self-realization, and that his values evolve from such striving. With such a belief in an autonomous striving toward self-realization, we do not need an inner straight jacket with which to shackle our spontaneity, nor the whip of inner dictates to drive us to perfection."

[See also FPL's "THE TRUTH ABOUT EVERYTHING, PART SEVEN: THERE IS NO ORIGINAL SIN!" and the description of "Full Permission Living" on the left hand side of this blog]

Hey! 

There is nothing wrong with you! 

Get it? 

For many reasons, stemming from past experiences of pain and suffering, and because we have egos that can question the validity of who we inherently are, we have come to believe in our "character defects" and "symptoms," to identify with them even, and to believe in the judgments we impose on ourselves to support those negative beliefs.

So, folks, stop trying to fix yourselves, and open up to being yourselves.

And listen to THIS!

*On being psychotic - continuing the caterpillar analogy, a psychotic person can be thought of as someone who has not grounded themselves in physical reality - i.e. - in the space/time continuum - enough to function here. Consequently, that person imagines themselves to already be the butterfly before the actual process of evolution has occurred, so they are out of synch with time and space, and therefore, to those of us who are grounded and living in the illusion of physical reality, they appear crazy.

Hmm...


THE POWER OF DOING NOTHING... POWERFULLY!

Are you discovering the power of doing nothing? Many people are.

Remember the frequently referred to FPL post from January of 2013 - "IT'S 2013! WHICH EARTH ARE YOU ON?!" - in which the new rules of 5th Dimensional Consciousness (5D) were outlined? Right up top was Rule #1: "Murphy's Law Is Officially Reversed." (In other words, in 5D, "everything that can go right, will go right... if you let it.")

Well, 2 years later, many FPL readers, and people I know and work with, have been experiencing this new rule at work in the practical experiences of their everyday lives. So much so, in fact, that complaints are coming up in sessions that more or less boil down to: "It's too easy!" "I didn't actually do anything!" "Things just fell into place!" "Things just worked out!" Etc.

Sounds funny, right? But the truth is, synchronicity ("the simultaneous occurrence of events that appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection," according to the dictionary) is the way of the Universe. There are no true coincidences, and this has always been the way things worked, only now, in 5D, we're becoming aware of it, and so becoming able to call upon it for manifestation purposes in our lives.

Many people call these synchronistic events "miracles," but here's my favorite quote on miracles:

"Miracles are the result of nature unimpeded."

Get that? Reread it:

"Miracles are the result of nature unimpeded."

In other words, things "working out" for your greatest good, for your highest excitement, for your fulfillment and self-actualization, even in ways you couldn't predict or imagine specifically, is just... natural! You don't have to do anything in the sense of forcing, willing, demanding, pleading or insisting, all approaches rooted in the ego, of course. You see, it's the ego complaining that things are "too easy," because it knows it is out of a job in 5D. It knows no other way than struggling, battling, overcoming, winning or losing, etc. Then, onto the next contest. So 3D!

But there are actually things to do in 5D. There are actions to take. It's not a passive creative process. But it looks different than the old way. The "doing" required to make things happen in 5D looks more like this:

Clear - Intend - Let go - Follow-up.

Clear your consciousness of the remnants of 3D, egoic thinking and beliefs and suppressed feelings in the body;
Intend for yourself in your meditations whatever it is you truly desire, and imagine it happening;
Let go by employing the energy of allowing and receiving, without expectations or fear;
Follow-up with action when your Higher Self and the Universe give you signs and create opportunities for you.

One of my favorite books and movies, as many FPL readers know, is "The Legend of Baggar Vance," by Steven Pressfield.

Here's Baggar:

“There's a perfect shot out there tryin' to find each and every one of us... Now it's somewhere... in the harmony... of All That Is... All That Was... All That Will Be... All we got to do is get ourselves out of its way, to let it choose us.


Thanks, BV!





REPOST: "FULL PERMISSION EATING!"

This is a real FPL oldie, but having just arrived back from a 10-day culinary tour of Italy, I felt inspired to dig it up.

FULL PERMISSION EATING!

Remember these lyrics from the classic K.C. and the Sunshine Band?

"Baby, babe, let's get together.
Honey, hon, me and you.
And do the things, ah, do the things
That we like to do.
Do a little dance, make a little love,
Get down tonight.
Get down tonight."

Well, according to two studies, written about in the NY Times a bit ago, red wine will help you live longer and sugar won't kill you, even if you're diabetic. Woah! For real?

From one of the articles:

"Two large studies involving more than 21,000 people found that people with Type 2 diabetes had no reduction in their risk of heart attacks and strokes and no reduction in their death rate if they rigorously controlled their blood sugar levels."

And from the other:

"Red wine may be much more potent than was thought in extending human lifespan."

What gives? Well, the bottom line, if you want to skip ahead, is this: what promotes good health and longevity, first and foremost, are happiness and pleasure. Or, first read this...

A psychology professor at the University of Pennsylvania, Dr. Paul Rozin, who specializes in, yes, the psychology of food, conducted a survey in America, France, Belgium and Japan in an effort to explain what is referred to as the "French Paradox." The paradox is basically this: the French consume a diet that is very rich and high in fat, yet they have a low rate of obesity and enjoy generally good health (The same can be said of Italians, in Italy, by the way).

Americans, on the other hand, are obsessed with counting calories and cholesterol levels and worry excessively about the effects of food on their bodies, yet they have a very high rate of obesity comparatively, and suffer with more health problems. Dr. Rozin’s survey suggests that the determining factor may be the different cultural attitudes towards food and pleasure.

Rozin is quoted in the journal "Appetite" as saying:

"There is a sense among Americans that food is as much a poison as it is a nutrient, and that eating is almost as dangerous as not eating." He goes on to say that "…when a major aspect of life becomes a stress and source of substantial worry, as opposed to pleasure, effects might be seen in both cardiovascular and immune systems."

Rozin’s researcher found that the French, on the other hand, of whom only 4 percent follow diets in line with the American recommended guidelines for fat intake, associate eating more with pleasure than with health.

In a related story, the New York Times ran an article in its "Eating Well" column, by Marian Burros, that quoted two professors on nutrition and obesity extolling the virtues and health benefits of enjoying such luscious holiday foods as foie gras, caviar and pumpkin pie, believe it or not!

Listen to this:

"Tucked in between the cholesterol and the saturated fat, the calories and the salt in the foie gras, the sausage stuffing and the standing rib roast, there are dozens of nutrients that are highly recommended by the food police. These are the vitamins and minerals and phytochemicals that may prevent cancer and heart disease and a host of other diseases. Everyone already knows that chocolate is a health food: Two pounds of it, particularly dark chocolate, has the same cancer-fighting antioxidants as a quart of tea. But did you know that each time you eat a three-ounce piece of pumpkin pie you may well be reducing your risk of cataracts and macular degeneration? The pumpkin in that small wedge of pie is filled with carotenoids, almost 3,000 micrograms of beta carotene, 1,900 of alpha carotene and 400 of lutein, the carotenoid connected with cataract prevention."

Where is this leading us?

Well, the Times also printed an article on Dr. Rozin’s study entitled, "If It Feels Good, Eat It." [FULL PERMISSION EATING!]

People will be up in arms perhaps at the suggestion that eating what we truly desire, what we really enjoy, is a reasonable guideline for a diet, yet that is precisely the message of these studies, and it is in keeping with the conceptual foundation of Full Permission Living, which is that human beings, if allowed to follow their undistorted desires, will naturally do what’s best for themselves and others without resorting to excess and without having to sacrifice pleasure. Furthermore, if one engages in any activity, including eating, with a spirit of enjoyment and gratitude, it is understood that what you take in will benefit you. That may be the original reason for saying a blessing before a meal - to get your mind and digestive system into a positive and receptive mode (gratitude) to aid absorption and facilitate nourishment.

I’ve often thought about the movie, "Michael", in this regard. John Travolta plays the archangel by the same name, and in the film the high-order angelic character is seen consuming huge amounts of sugar, drinking beer, smoking cigarettes and of course, dancing and cavorting with women. I asked myself when I first saw the movie, could such a spiritual being actually indulge himself in that manner and not suffer any negative consequences? Absolutely, I realized. Such a being would be so connected to his spiritual self, so full of joy and gratitude that whatever molecules he took into his body would immediately be transmuted into good nourishment. After all, everything is made of the same basic particles of energy, whether it’s steamed organic broccoli or a hamburger!

So what determines the effect of various foods on the body? It must be the individual’s state of consciousness, one’s inner beliefs and attitudes.

Indeed, my own grandfather, "Pete", lived without major illness until he died of old age at 91, and he regularly consumed sugar and salt, smoked cigarettes and drank alcohol until the end. How did he do it? Well, for one thing, he rarely indulged in anything to excess, but also, no matter what doctors, the media or younger worried family members said to him, he genuinely never believed these things would harm him. So, perhaps that is why they didn’t. He also rejected stressful behavior as a requirement for being successful, even though he had his own business to run which he did for almost four decades. I never saw Grandpa Pete anxiously rushing around or fretting about anything.

Now, let me issue a qualifier here - none of us is Michael the Archangel and most of us are not, in our hyper-vigilant, type-A culture, Grandpa Pete! Most of us are harboring hidden self-destructive or fearful beliefs and attitudes, and so will unconsciously use food and anything else to create suffering for ourselves if we're not conscious. So the "undistorted desires" part is crucial to living with full permission. Furthermore, if you believe that certain things are harmful to your health, you can’t trick yourself by superimposing another belief over that one and expect not to have disastrous results. How you feel about yourself and your body is a key element that must be brought into conscious awareness in order to be a "healthy hedonist," and the channels to your natural pleasure instinct must be cleared of blockages as well. In other words, a full-spectrum healing process may be needed before you can start indulging in the daily red wine and sweet treats.

Here are some great words of wisdom from Jane Roberts’ "Seth" book, "The Way Toward Health":

"The ideas you have, then, play a large role in the way the body handles its nutrients, and utilizes health and vitality…it is possible for your ideas to cause chemical reactions that impede your body’s ability to accept nourishment. If you believe that the body is evil, the purest health food diet may do you little good at all, while if you have a healthy desire and respect for your physical body, a diet of TV dinners and even fast foods may well keep you healthy and nourished. If we are talking about health, it is to your beliefs that we must look. It is up to you to form a body of beliefs that is worthy of your physical image – for you are nourished by your beliefs, and those beliefs can cause your daily bread to add to your vitality, or add to your cares and stress."

Yeah, yeah. Pass the tiramisu, please.

Oh, and don't forget...

"Do a little dance, make a little love,
Get down tonight.
Get down tonight."

TODAY'S "SECRET O' LIFE" LYRICS!

The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time
Any fool can do it
There ain't nothing to it
Nobody knows how we got to
The top of the hill
But since we're on our way down
We might as well enjoy the ride

The secret of love is in opening up your heart
It's okay to feel afraid
But don't let that stand in your way
'cause anyone knows that love is the only road
And since we're only here for a while
Might as well show some style
Give us a smile

Isn't it a lovely ride
Sliding down
Gliding down
Try not to try too hard
It's just a lovely ride

Now the thing about time is that time
Isn't really real
It's just your point of view
How does it feel for you
Einstein said he could never understand it all
Planets spinning through space
The smile upon your face
Welcome to the human race

Some kind of lovely ride
I'll be sliding down
I'll be gliding down
Try not to try too hard
It's just a lovely ride
Isn't it a lovely ride
Sliding down
Gliding down
Try not to try too hard
It's just a lovely ride

Now the secret of life is enjoying the passage of time.


YOU ARE NOT VULNERABLE WHEN YOU'RE OPEN. YOU'RE VULNERABLE WHEN YOU'RE LITTLE!

I read an blog post a while ago entitled, "The One Quality We Often Mistake For Weakness Can Actually Make You Stronger," which extolls the virtues of being "vulnerable." Citing examples from President Obama to the Dalai Lama, the piece gives examples of the strength that comes from being vulnerable. The post refers to a book, "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead," by Brene Brown.

While I essentially support what the post and book are trying to say, the language of the authors demonstrates a very common error which I would like to address here.

"I feel too vulnerable when..."

How often I hear individuals begin a sentence like that. Usually, the person in question who is perceiving themselves as "vulnerable" is talking about being "open" in some situation that is revealing of their inner life to another. But this common connection in one's mind between openness and vulnerability is erroneous. 

You are not vulnerable when you're open.

The definition of "vulnerable" in most dictionaries is: "susceptible to physical or emotional harm." Okay. That's pretty straightforward. So, when are we the most susceptible to harm in those ways? Well, in two situations, mainly: 1. when we are without an option for avoiding danger; and 2. when we are truly dependent on another person or persons who may choose to do us harm. And when are we most likely to be in such situations? Well, unless you are literally a hostage in a terrorist takeover, or a prisoner of war or in jail, the most prevalent time human beings are actually vulnerable to harm is - you guessed it - in childhood!

That's right. In childhood, especially early childhood, we are essentially hostages to our parents and caretakers, without options to avoid the slings and arrows of our environment. And we are utterly and completely dependent on those others for our well-being, even for our very existence. Whatever the vicissitudes of our parents' mental and emotional health, or lack thereof, we, as children, cannot protect ourselves or remove ourselves from harm's way. We can't stop adults from hurting us, nor can we trade in one set of adults for another. In other words... we are vulnerable. Truly.

Now, here's where the confusion comes in and how the erroneous connection gets made.

As children, as newly minted human beings, we are naturally open, physically, mentally and emotionally. We feel everything fully when we're first born, and to some degree, we stay that way throughout the very early years of life. However, because of the undeveloped, un-self-actualized aspects of humanity, we are injured by our environment. Our parents and caretakers hurt us. Yet, we cannot stop them, nor can we leave them.

So what do we do? We begin to shut down, distort, and/or disconnect parts of ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally in order not to feel the pain so acutely. We form a character structure, and initially, it actually does seem to mitigate the pain, which seems to validate the conclusion that open is vulnerable, and closed is safe.

See, we can't understand truly when we're little that we're little. We can't really picture that one day, we'll be adults ourselves, and have the choices adults have. In other words, we can't understand that it's being little that makes us vulnerable, not being open that makes us vulnerable. And so, stuck in the confines of our character structures as time passes, we miss the fact that nature provides the solution to the problem of vulnerability in childhood - we grow up!

In adulthood, we can realize that protecting ourselves emotionally with the armor of character defenses is very inefficient and inhibiting, and most importantly, no longer necessary. Wearing that suit of armor doesn't make for the easy enjoyment of a sunny day, let alone for making love. On the other hand, being fully open to our inner lives, which frees up the mind and body, gives us the energy and flexibility to creatively express ourselves, enjoy life and, if need be, avoid situations that would do us harm, which mainly means not engaging with negativity. Thus, in this realization, we can engage in a healing process, in an holistic self-work process, that can dismantle the armor and allow us to be ourselves fully.

So, let go of the false belief that when you love and reveal yourself to another, you are vulnerable. And Brene, forgive me for suggesting a slight change to the title of your book, but "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be OPEN Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead" would work better for me.
 

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