THE PRIMAL SEXUAL IMPERATIVES OF THE CHARACTER STRUCTURES

Character structures are sets of defenses that we create in early childhood that affect us deeply for much of our lives. Every aspect of a person's physical/personality self is affected by character structure - mind, body and emotions. We create them to survive the slings and arrows of our imperfect childhoods with imperfect parents, but like the cocoon of a caterpillar, when we are ready to become self-actualized adults, we must shed them, "break through" our character structures. Not easy. It requires help. But there's no end run around it. The good news is that underneath it all is a Higher Self with great capacities and gifts to give to life.

This new delineation of what I'm calling the "primal sexual imperatives" of the character structures is meant to serve as an addendum to the full descriptions of the character structures found HERE on the Full Permission Living blog, taken from the 5 classes I teach on the subject.

Each character structure has a set of embedded directives meant to divert, distort or inhibit our powerful natural urges for self-expression, in order to keep the ego in control of our thoughts, feelings and actions. What follows, then, are what the ego, unable to eliminate sexual urges and desires altogether, though it would if it could, seeks to manipulate and use sex for.

Schizoid Character Structure: Sex for Control

To the schizoid ego, the free flow of energy through the body, is a major perceived threat, an existential threat. "Life is hazardous to my life" is a core negative belief held by the person with this structure. Literally fearing disintegration and annihilation of the self if the life force isn't controlled and/or cut-off, this person co-opts sexual energy and uses any participation in sexual acts for the purpose of controlling that energy and ultimately the body itself.

Oral Character Structure: Sex for Nurturance

Although the person with this character structure isn't terrified of or cut-off from the life force and sexual energy within them, they are undercharged energetically as a result of living through an early history of deprivation or enmeshment with the primary caretaker of early childhood, and so, they live in an inner world of lack, deprivation and need. "There isn't enough" is the core negative belief adhered to here, and the sex act is seen as a possible way to get "filled up," nurtured, unconditionally loved. Orgasms are not highly charged, and secondary to the wish to be taken care of, which is the main purpose of sex for the oral character.


Masochistic Character Structure: Sex for Release

Charged with plenty of energy, including sexually, but judging and suppressing it and "packing it in" the muscles of the body, this CS desperately seeks release through sex, often compulsively so. "If I let my feelings out, I'll will create a big mess, but if I don't, I'll explode!" Says the masochistic ego, supporting the claim with another 
core negative primal belief in one's own "badness." Battling with the need for release versus the efforts to suppress it, orgasms, just like bowel movements, are pushed out with force against the clenched muscles.

Psychopathic Character Structure: Sex for Power

While the schizoid CS seeks control of its own body and energy, the psychopathic CS seeks to exert power over others. Lacking the capacity for basic trust and true empathy, the person with this CS believes others are always seeking the upper hand through lies and manipulation, so one can truly be trusted. Thus, the core negative primal belief goes something like this: "I must always be right, must never submit or surrender to the will of others, must dominate and seduce others to control them, by any means necessary." A true chameleon, a psychopathic character will appear to be whoever and whatever you wish, including a 
sexually skilled, tireless, attentive lover. In fact, this CS allows for very little genuine physical pleasure, due to the defense mechanism of numbing, so in spite of dramatic displays to the contrary, sex is a bleak experience to the person with this CS.

Rigid Character Structure: Sex for Validation


Considered the only "genital" character of the five major character structures, this person is bioenergetically fully functioning sexually. Orgasm and sexual pleasure are fully charged and accessible in the body, flowing freely, but... there is a caveat - the pleasurable experience is laced with an ego need for validation. The need to be seen as beautiful, talented, smart, fit, young, etc., the list goes on, along with the defining of every situation as a performance, all of that is funneled into sexual interactions with others who must also serve to validate the rigid CS by their high levels of performance and admired attributes. The the core negative primal belief: "I must always look good, appear together and be highly valued and praised for my accomplishments by significant others, who must also look good, appear together and be highly valued and praised for their accomplishments."

ALL OUR HIGHER SELVES!


Many FPL readers are versed in the five basic Character Structures, those sets of defense mechanisms, beliefs, body distortions, attitudes and inhibitions that form the cocoon within which we strive to survive the slings and arrows of childhood, while living under the influence of un-self-actualized parents, living in an un-actualized culture.

Dismantling one's character structure aspects is an essential part of a self-work process that seeks to free the "caterpillar" that grows up to become the "butterfly" from the cocoon of one's character structure.

But exactly who and what is the butterfly that we can become in adulthood?

It is essentially the Adult Self expressing in human form what is called the Higher Self, or the True Self. It is the essential energy and essence from which each character structure is formed. It is the you that was always there, no matter how hidden from view by your personality distortions. It is the you that you are becoming aligned with. And every Higher Self is exactly that - the highest vibration of you as an incarnate being that you can be.

So... below, extracted from the Character Structure charts, are the Higher Self aspects of each character structure for your perusal.

Enjoy seeing yourself as you really are!


SCHIZOID CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Strong connection to and awareness of the profoundly spiritual nature of life;

Access to vast universal wisdom and the capacity to teach others how to make the connection to that wisdom;

Great courage and fearlessness to connect with feelings;

Great capacity to create and appreciate beauty, including through artistic abilities.


ORAL CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Great capacity to give to others in a deeply nurturing, truly healing way;

An appreciation for the vastly abundant nature of existence and the joy of sharing;

Genuine independence, autonomy and self-confidence with full capacity to surrender to the oneness with another;

Powerful intuitive abilities and the capacity to follow insights through to fruition by sustained, patient effort.


MASOCHISTIC CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Great capacities for pleasure, humor, optimism, playfulness and joy;

Genuine supportiveness, strength and desire to be of service to others;

An expansive, open heart with deep compassion, true kindness and understanding;

Positive assertiveness and healthy aggression with substantial amounts of energy;

Ability to be spontaneously creative in the moment, surrender ego control and trust the natural order in all things;


PSYCHOPATHIC CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Great leadership and executive qualities and capacities to bring people with differences together in a harmonious effort;

Strong abilities to guide and inspire others to accomplish their chosen tasks in life and see their own specialness without competitiveness or separation;

True innovators and adventurers able to travel “the road not taken”, or “to boldly go where no one has gone before”, without recklessness or excess;

A genuine seeker of truth, with genuine humility, honesty, loyalty and unwavering integrity;

A truly big heart full of love and fearlessness to surrender to the flow of feelings, life and the Higher Self.


RIGID CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Tremendous passion and connection to the sensuality of human relationships, with a true appreciation for and capacity to express the wonder of coming together physically in love with another;

Great capacity to let go and surrender to the flow of love, to fall in love with life and with others;

Genuine capacities to make and sustain commitments;

Strong organizational skills combined with flexibility, patience and acceptance of new approaches to situations;

A deep appreciation for the beauty of physical life, and sensibilities to integrate the elements of form to create beauty.


 

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