HAPPY FIRST DAY OF SPRING! (PEAK EXPERIENCES! FREE SAMPLES! GOT YOURS?)

During the 1950's, Psychologist Abraham Maslow, who developed the concept of "peak human potential," did years of research on what he called "peak experiences. 

"Almost all people have or can have peak experiences," Maslow said. (These are what I have referred to as "free samples from the Universe.")

Psychologist Stella Resnik, in her book, The Pleasure Zone, wrote: "Peak experiences are intensely pleasurable times that can last for just a minute or for several weeks or more. They are periods of complete happiness and fulfillment. . . perceived as great moments, as very fine times in a person's life."

Maslow found that certain individuals - people he called "self-actualized", enjoyed a much higher frequency of peak experiences than did individuals in the general population. They felt fulfilled in their lives, motivated "not by need, but by the desire to grow."

Maslow's findings may not surprise most FPL readers who've actually done some serious self-work. The free sample I often speak of isn't meant to be a tease, folks, but an enticement to move oneself, whatever it takes, towards self-actualization, the place where peak experiences become part of everyday life i.e. - Full Permission Living!

Spring is here, and  then... If you're doing your self-work, it's gonna be a great summer! Get your peak experiences planned in!





THE PRIMAL SEXUAL IMPERATIVES OF THE CHARACTER STRUCTURES

Character structures are sets of defenses that we create in early childhood that affect us deeply for much of our lives. Every aspect of a person's physical/personality self is affected by character structure - mind, body and emotions. We create them to survive the slings and arrows of our imperfect childhoods with imperfect parents, but like the cocoon of a caterpillar, when we are ready to become self-actualized adults, we must shed them, "break through" our character structures. Not easy. It requires help. But there's no end run around it. The good news is that underneath it all is a Higher Self with great capacities and gifts to give to life.

This new delineation of what I'm calling the "primal sexual imperatives" of the character structures is meant to serve as an addendum to the full descriptions of the character structures found HERE on the Full Permission Living blog, taken from the 5 classes I teach on the subject.

Each character structure has a set of embedded directives meant to divert, distort or inhibit our powerful natural urges for self-expression, in order to keep the ego in control of our thoughts, feelings and actions. What follows, then, are what the ego, unable to eliminate sexual urges and desires altogether, though it would if it could, seeks to manipulate and use sex for.

Schizoid Character Structure: Sex for Control

To the schizoid ego, the free flow of energy through the body, is a major perceived threat, an existential threat. "Life is hazardous to my life" is a core negative belief held by the person with this structure. Literally fearing disintegration and annihilation of the self if the life force isn't controlled and/or cut-off, this person co-opts sexual energy and uses any participation in sexual acts for the purpose of controlling that energy and ultimately the body itself.

Oral Character Structure: Sex for Nurturance

Although the person with this character structure isn't terrified of or cut-off from the life force and sexual energy within them, they are undercharged energetically as a result of living through an early history of deprivation or enmeshment with the primary caretaker of early childhood, and so, they live in an inner world of lack, deprivation and need. "There isn't enough" is the core negative belief adhered to here, and the sex act is seen as a possible way to get "filled up," nurtured, unconditionally loved. Orgasms are not highly charged, and secondary to the wish to be taken care of, which is the main purpose of sex for the oral character.


Masochistic Character Structure: Sex for Release

Charged with plenty of energy, including sexually, but judging and suppressing it and "packing it in" the muscles of the body, this CS desperately seeks release through sex, often compulsively so. "If I let my feelings out, I'll will create a big mess, but if I don't, I'll explode!" Says the masochistic ego, supporting the claim with another 
core negative primal belief in one's own "badness." Battling with the need for release versus the efforts to suppress it, orgasms, just like bowel movements, are pushed out with force against the clenched muscles.

Psychopathic Character Structure: Sex for Power

While the schizoid CS seeks control of its own body and energy, the psychopathic CS seeks to exert power over others. Lacking the capacity for basic trust and true empathy, the person with this CS believes others are always seeking the upper hand through lies and manipulation, so one can truly be trusted. Thus, the core negative primal belief goes something like this: "I must always be right, must never submit or surrender to the will of others, must dominate and seduce others to control them, by any means necessary." A true chameleon, a psychopathic character will appear to be whoever and whatever you wish, including a 
sexually skilled, tireless, attentive lover. In fact, this CS allows for very little genuine physical pleasure, due to the defense mechanism of numbing, so in spite of dramatic displays to the contrary, sex is a bleak experience to the person with this CS.

Rigid Character Structure: Sex for Validation


Considered the only "genital" character of the five major character structures, this person is bioenergetically fully functioning sexually. Orgasm and sexual pleasure are fully charged and accessible in the body, flowing freely, but... there is a caveat - the pleasurable experience is laced with an ego need for validation. The need to be seen as beautiful, talented, smart, fit, young, etc., the list goes on, along with the defining of every situation as a performance, all of that is funneled into sexual interactions with others who must also serve to validate the rigid CS by their high levels of performance and admired attributes. The the core negative primal belief: "I must always look good, appear together and be highly valued and praised for my accomplishments by significant others, who must also look good, appear together and be highly valued and praised for their accomplishments."

REPOST: "I AM HE AS YOU ARE HE AS YOU ARE ME AND WE ARE ALL TOGETHER!" (On "HO'OPONOPONO")

Okay, folks, this is top shelf stuff, bottom line, how it really works, whether you're conscious of it or not, whether you agree with it or not, whether you like it or not! If we could really nail this, really know this consciously, and utilize it, well... we'd be living in alignment with 5D consciousness.

This article is from the book, "Zero Limits," by Dr. Joe Vitale.

Here's the excerpt -

The World's Most Unusual Therapist
by Dr. Joe Vitale

Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.

When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane?

It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.

However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more.

I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does. The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility.

His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.

Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.

After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely. Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.

I was in awe.

Not only that, but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.

This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: "What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?"

"I was simply healing the part of me that created them," he said.

I didn't understand.

Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life - simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.

Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life.

This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy--anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.

I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho 'oponopono means loving yourself. If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone--even a mentally ill criminal--you do it by healing you.

I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?

"I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again," he explained.

That's it?

That's it.

Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, your improve your world. Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message. This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, "I'm sorry" and "I love you," I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.

Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying "I love you," I somehow healed within me what was creating him.

I later attended a ho 'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive. He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.

"What about the books that are already sold and out there?" I asked.

"They aren't out there," he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. "They are still in you."

In short, there is no out there.

It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves. Suffice it to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you.

"When you look, do it with love."

ALL OUR HIGHER SELVES!


Many FPL readers are versed in the five basic Character Structures, those sets of defense mechanisms, beliefs, body distortions, attitudes and inhibitions that form the cocoon within which we strive to survive the slings and arrows of childhood, while living under the influence of un-self-actualized parents, living in an un-actualized culture.

Dismantling one's character structure aspects is an essential part of a self-work process that seeks to free the "caterpillar" that grows up to become the "butterfly" from the cocoon of one's character structure.

But exactly who and what is the butterfly that we can become in adulthood?

It is essentially the Adult Self expressing in human form what is called the Higher Self, or the True Self. It is the essential energy and essence from which each character structure is formed. It is the you that was always there, no matter how hidden from view by your personality distortions. It is the you that you are becoming aligned with. And every Higher Self is exactly that - the highest vibration of you as an incarnate being that you can be.

So... below, extracted from the Character Structure charts, are the Higher Self aspects of each character structure for your perusal.

Enjoy seeing yourself as you really are!


SCHIZOID CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Strong connection to and awareness of the profoundly spiritual nature of life;

Access to vast universal wisdom and the capacity to teach others how to make the connection to that wisdom;

Great courage and fearlessness to connect with feelings;

Great capacity to create and appreciate beauty, including through artistic abilities.


ORAL CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Great capacity to give to others in a deeply nurturing, truly healing way;

An appreciation for the vastly abundant nature of existence and the joy of sharing;

Genuine independence, autonomy and self-confidence with full capacity to surrender to the oneness with another;

Powerful intuitive abilities and the capacity to follow insights through to fruition by sustained, patient effort.


MASOCHISTIC CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Great capacities for pleasure, humor, optimism, playfulness and joy;

Genuine supportiveness, strength and desire to be of service to others;

An expansive, open heart with deep compassion, true kindness and understanding;

Positive assertiveness and healthy aggression with substantial amounts of energy;

Ability to be spontaneously creative in the moment, surrender ego control and trust the natural order in all things;


PSYCHOPATHIC CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Great leadership and executive qualities and capacities to bring people with differences together in a harmonious effort;

Strong abilities to guide and inspire others to accomplish their chosen tasks in life and see their own specialness without competitiveness or separation;

True innovators and adventurers able to travel “the road not taken”, or “to boldly go where no one has gone before”, without recklessness or excess;

A genuine seeker of truth, with genuine humility, honesty, loyalty and unwavering integrity;

A truly big heart full of love and fearlessness to surrender to the flow of feelings, life and the Higher Self.


RIGID CHARACTER STRUCTURE HIGHER SELF ASPECTS

Tremendous passion and connection to the sensuality of human relationships, with a true appreciation for and capacity to express the wonder of coming together physically in love with another;

Great capacity to let go and surrender to the flow of love, to fall in love with life and with others;

Genuine capacities to make and sustain commitments;

Strong organizational skills combined with flexibility, patience and acceptance of new approaches to situations;

A deep appreciation for the beauty of physical life, and sensibilities to integrate the elements of form to create beauty.


ARE YOU THE CRAZY VERSION OF YOURSELF SOMEONE ASKED YOU TO BE?!

"Everyone in your life is a version of themselves that you've created."

Thus says "Bashar," channeled by Darryl Anka. (That quote from THIS CLIP.)

This is similar in its import to a quote from Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, the practitioner of the Hawaiian healing art, Ho'oponopono, on how he healed people without interacting with them at all physically:

"I was simply healing the part of me that created them."

These two quote express, in a more expanded way, the Universal Truth put forth often on this blog that we create our reality from our beliefs.

Bashar and Dr. Len are basically saying that not just the events and material things in your life are your creation, but so, too, the very people you encounter and interact with in your life are your creation. That's some serious creating!

Now, understand, the individuals you create in your life are also independent beings in and of themselves, continually creating versions of themselves - and of you - to have their experiences through and with. "I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together." (Thank you, John!)

In other words, since we are truly all one, meaning not just connected, but ultimately and literally one unified being manifesting Itself in an infinite variety of seemingly separate selves, then if I want to create a version of you to have a particular experience with, you will co-create that version with me, even as I will do the same for you, as me. See?

So, the key practical question here is if there are people in your life you experience to be threatening, annoying, unpleasant to interact with and/or downright crazy, why are you creating that version of them to interact with? Why are you asking the person in question to create of version of him-or-herself that will be a problem for you?

This question is quite worth the time and effort to explore, because as long as you continue to feel victimized by the random, hostile, thwarting behavior of others, you will be unable to change your reality with said persons. Once you realize that you are creating the negative version of the person in question harassing you, you can uncreate that version. That might mean that the person changes their persona in your life, or more commonly, the person will exit your life stage left.

Remember Shakespeare?

"All the world's a stage and all the men and women merely players."

Well, thank you for being the antagonist in my play, but I'm writing out that role forthwith.

Likewise, if you find that a dysfunctional role you are playing in someone else's life no longer suits you, you can decide to leave that play for a better role, and indeed the other person will gladly replace you with someone else willing to be cast as the martyr, enabler, or narcissistic source of supply for their narcissistic lead character.

So, cast and crew members, take a look at the roles you are writing for yourself and the actors in your drama, and if you're not enjoying yourself fully, do a rewrite!
 

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