You see, the difference between really working on, challenging and releasing your inner beliefs and suppressed feelings, and just trying to superimpose new beliefs over other ones is that... you burn your feet!

Check out this news item:

SAN FRANCISCO -- Fire officials said 21 people at an event hosted by motivational speaker Tony Robbins suffered burns while walking across hot coals and three of the injured were treated at hospitals. The injuries took place during the first day Thursday of a four-day event at the San Jose Convention Center hosted by Robbins called "Unleash the Power Within." Most of those hurt had second and third degree burns, said San Jose Fire Department Capt. Reggie Williams. Walking across hot coals on lanes measuring 10 feet long and heated to between 1,200 to 2,000 degrees provides attendees an opportunity to "understand that there is absolutely nothing you can't overcome," according to the motivational speaker's website.

Yeah, thanks for the demonstration, Tony!

Listen folks, it is certainly possible to uproot and overcome any belief system, including major collective beliefs like gravity, the need to breathe air and the destructive power of fire on human flesh. What is not possible is to do the above by simply wishing you can or believing in a huckster's rantings when you haven't done the self-work necessary to be that transcendent.



"...and what have you done?"

John Lennon asked that question in a song a few decades ago. Care to take a look?

A cop once told me that the highest incidence of sudden deaths from heart attacks occurs on Christmas eve. I've often reflected on that anecdotal stat. Why would that be?

Beginning with the lead up to Thanksgiving, and crashing to a throbbing halt and hangover on New Years Day, we are bombarded with messages about abundance, joy, giving and receiving, peace and good will, family unity, etc., etc. A good 6 weeks of intense feelings battering us - seeking expression through wishes, intentions, hopes, desires and disappointments - pushing energy up through our emotional bodies until it arrives... to a closed, guarded heart, and crack! Literally, our hearts break. Thus the heart attacks.

"And what have you done?"

And what can you do?

Well, have you worked at opening and unguarding your heart? Or are you still concerned about being vulnerable, afraid of being rejected, worried about being humiliated? These are the ingredients for the heart-attack recipe, folks. And I'm here to tell you on this holiday season that these fears are irrational. Completely. And here's why...

Being open is not the same thing as being vulnerable.

When we were little children, we were naturally open, born that way, but also, we were completely dependent on our caretakers for our well-being in every way - physically, psychologically and emotionally. The latter is what true vulnerability is. It just so happens that in childhood we are simultaneously open and vulnerable - because we are little - but unfortunately, we erroneously equate open with vulnerable.

In fact, the beauty of the way life works is that Nature takes care of the vulnerability problem - i.e. - We grow up!

In adulthood, we are not dependent on a caregiver to provide for our well-being. We are independent, self-sufficient, in charge of our own destinies in a way that a child is not. We delude ourselves into thinking otherwise, but this is just a remnant from those early "being little years" that we keep identifying with. But it doesn't make it true.

And rejection, humiliation? Same thing applies...

An adult can't be rejected, because an adult is always choosing when and where to be and who to be with. A child cannot make such choices. If a parent chooses to neglect or abandon their child, said dependent child is indeed rejected because it has no choice. It could even die in such a state.

Likewise, humiliation - the idea that somehow you have been made to appear unworthy, useless, foolish - is a state of being that can only occur in childhood, when you have no choice as to how to see your circumstances. A child is dependent for its self-image on what it sees reflected back from its parents. Not so for an adult. An adult can interpret any situation in a positive or negative light. In fact, one of the greatest pleasures of adulthood is enjoying being foolish! It is one of the greatest gifts of a solid, grounded, non-codependent self-image to laugh at oneself, is it not? I have often thought of entitling my first book: "The Joy of Being Wrong!"

Hey, everyone - this holiday season, give yourself the gift of receiving what has already been freely given to you by Nature - your adulthood. Congratulate yourself - you made it!


"War is over... if you want it."

I thought about that lyric recently, from John Lennon's "Happy Christmas (War Is Over)" song. This week's celebration brings John's positive holiday anthem to mind. What is striking about the lyrics is not the hope or intention of the idea of war being over, but the tense in which John wrote the lyrics - present!

He doesn't say "War could be over" or "War will be over" if you want it, but rather, "War is over if you want it."

War is over. Get it?

Whether consciously intended by John or not, what he is saying is that somewhere, in some line of reality, in some time line, war is already over, and if you truly want that, truly desire to be in that line of reality, you can be.

I wrote about this 5D truth shortly after the massacre at the Boston Marathon in April of 2013, in a post entitled: "Boston From A 5D Perspective: You Can Change The World By Changing Worlds!"

Here's an excerpt:

"Since every line of reality that any of us can imagine can and does exist, then 5th Dimensional living becomes a matter of choice, choice, choice, and more choice. If you want to live in a world without crime or terrorism or war or poverty, do the self-work necessary to clear out your 3D beliefs in those things, as well as your personal investments in separation, fear, hatred and victimization, and then meditate on shifting to your preferred line of reality where such things don't exist. You can change the world, people, but not by force or resistance or outer-focused actions, but rather... by literally changing worlds!"

Happy Christmas... and thanks, John!


"Generativity is primarily the interest in establishing and guiding the next generation, although there are people who, because of special gifts in other directions, do not apply this drive to having offspring, but to engaging in other forms of altruistic concern and creativity which may absorb their kind of "parental" responsibility. This is a stage of growth of the healthy adult personality, and where such enrichment fails, regression from generativity to an obsessive need for pseudo intimacy takes place, often with a pervading sense of stagnation and interpersonal impoverishment. The mere fact of having, or even wanting children does not itself attest to generativity."
Erik Erikson


"If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself. If you want to eliminate the suffering in the world, then eliminate all that is dark and negative in yourself. Truly, the greatest gift you have to give is that of your own self-transformation." - Lao Tzu


“You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day... unless you’re too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” 

Are you...
                                This guy?

                                              This guy?! 


Ideally, the cost of having to be “right” is blatantly apparent when, in the winning, what may have been truly of value has been lost.
( From "Oneness" by Rasha)


"Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you."

The above quote from Kahlil Gibran's classic piece on children is well known to many, but ignored or misunderstood by almost everyone who has children. In fact, in over 30 years of working as a therapist with parents, children, prospective parents, and adults who once were children, I have yet to come upon a single case of someone who gave birth to a child from a self-actualized, egoless place, who could, in other words, understand and practice what Gibran is saying above. This is why everyone you know has a character structure that needs to be dismantled with arduous self-work in order to attain a decent level of happiness and self-realization.

Most people would agree that parenting is one of the most important jobs on the planet, right? Yet, think about this - you need to take a written test, a road test and an eye test to be allowed to drive a car. You need at least an undergraduate college degree, if not more, in order to get hired for most professional occupations, and you need some amount of time as an apprentice or trainee in order to obtain and hold most jobs at any level. But to become a parent, all you technically have to do is... well... fuck somebody, and voila - instant parent! With all the rights and privileges bestowed by our society upon you to determine a young being's health and well-being for the entire first segment of their life, and maybe for their entire life. Talk about fucking somebody!

Here's Kahlil Gibran again:

"You may give them your love but not your thoughts, 
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday."

Ready? Let's say it together: "Parents suck!" (or at least, they did in 3D)

Okay, now that we got that out of the way, let's consider how we arrived to such a state of affairs. Of course, it always comes back to "Soul Age" and the vicissitudes of 3D reality, the dimension we all just left over the last 2 years. The predominant soul age on 3D Earth was "young," and that meant that the pre-occupation here was with the development and exaggerated use of, and belief in, the ego and lower-self will. This dovetails perfectly with the 3rd dimensional beliefs in limitation, linear time and physical existence as all there is (as opposed to a 4th and 5th dimensional consciousness that operates outside the illusion of space and time, connected to All That Is.).

So, throughout what we thought of as our history, adults had rarely born children out of conscious inspiration from Source, or even from a place of deep love and Eros with a partner. Marriages had historically been formed out of tradition, convenience, financial need or in 20th Century western cultures, out of co-dependent disorders. Children had historically been seen in these scenarios as property (another body to work on the farm or carry on the family business) or as an extension of one's ego, a vehicle to extend lineage, blood-line identity and narcissism into another generation, the exact opposite of what Gibran was writing about. 

And even on those rare occasions that a child was born out of genuine love between two adults, said adults, having received zero training or guidance in child development or what it really means to be a parent, still remained unqualified to do an acceptable job of guiding a life to maturity.

Here's Neale Donald Walsch from "Conversations With God":

" No one is more ill-equipped to raise children than young parents.  Most of you gain the wisdom, the patience, the understanding, and the love to be wonderful parents after your parenting years are over. Child raising was mean to be an activity of the elders, whose minds are well developed and strong. The erroneous thought is that that those who bear children - the young adults - bear also the sole responsibility for raising them. But if the people who have children aren’t responsible for raising them in a Highly Enlightened Society, who is?  The whole community. With special emphasis on the elders."

Okay, time to breathe. Young adults having children, but elders raising them? What? "Those are MY kids!" Actually, they're not. But hey, just look around at the results of that kind of old thinking - children (unjustly) diagnosed as depressed, hyperactive, and diabetic, being raised by depressed, hyperactive, diabetic adults. Now, tell me: How'd that ego-driven, 3D approach to child-rearing work for you? And for all of us? (Of course, in the harmony of Oneness, the slings and arrows of being born to and raised by unself-actualized beings in an unself-actualized culture actually accelerated our rise up to 5D.)

So, here we are, another hard Truth About Everything: "Parents Are The Least Qualified Of All Adults To Raise Children."

Now, what do we do? Obviously, we are not set up as a Highly Enlightened Society, yet, and even if we tried to structurally arrange it, our current crop of elders are not only not equipped to guide children, because developmentally and soul-wise, they are children!

But... we are evolving, and accelerating the process of that evolution into 5D by... yes, here it comes... doing the focused, intense self-work necessary to mature ourselves at the deepest levels. We can become a mature/old soul planet in no time as we make the turn and do whatever it takes to expand our levels of consciousness and raise our vibrations.

In the meantime, as part of our ascension process into 5D, we are having less children, and when we do have them, we're doing do so at a later age after we've done some consciously-directed evolving. This is very good news.

Here'e the final passage from Kahlil Gibran.

"You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable."

Here's to all of you working to become stable bows. 


Well, since life is about following your passion... we're raising money grassroots style to get CITY ROCK up and running!

Here's a video and link to a CITY ROCK Kickstarter campaign, put together beautifully by my wonderful personal assistant, Jackson!


That's right... HERE! In this place, at this time, on Planet Earth, in a physical body, being who you are, doing what you do, as you, now.


I'm not being trite in relaying this Truth About Everything. Contrary to what might seem obvious, most people don't take their existence for granted. So many human beings spend inordinate amounts of their lives trying to prove their "worthiness" to others, and to themselves, operating under an erroneous conclusion that one's right to exist and one's value as a person has to be earned somehow.

This mistaken idea comes from very early in childhood.

All infants, like all living things, are born with an innate sense of their own "rightness," taking their existence for granted, expecting to be met by life and their environment with all that they need to live. Newborns come in completely helpless and totally dependent on their caregivers, and yet they organically expect to be greeted with a huge welcome sign of unconditional love, acceptance and confident mirroring from the parents who brought them in. That's why babies cry so horrifically when they are not fully met in these ways.

When parents are not developed to a reasonable degree, and so the infant is greeted with the parents' fears, resentments, or neediness mixed in with the love, it is devastating. It literally feels life-threatening, creating unmanageable terror and rage in the baby. Unable to accept that the source of emotional and physical nurturance that they utterly need to survive is flawed and not fully adequate to the task of tending to the child's needs, the little one turns the pain and anger back against itself, assuming it must be the one who is flawed, not adequate or worthy. It's right to exist comes into question. This dilemma is most intensely present in the schizoid character structure, but it is present to some degree in virtually all human beings because none of us were born into self-actualized environments.

This right to exist question transmutes later on into the classic expression of the core conflict in the schizoid character structure: "Life is dangerous to my life."

This is from the Pathwork Guide Lecture: "The Illusory Fear of the Self":

"The fear of the self is the basic fear behind the fear of life and even the fear of death. Neither could the fear of others possibly exist without the fear of oneself.

When the self is no longer feared, neither desire nor fulfillment need to be feared, for the self then knows that desire will be fulfilled and fulfillment will be not an end but a new beginning."

Another common dysfunction that arises from the child's false belief that its own unworthiness must be the cause of its deprivation at the hands of its parents is that of perfectionism. I have written several pieces on the subject on FPL. 

This is from the Pathwork Guide Lecture: "Perfectionism Obstructs Happiness":

"Strange as this may seem, the more you accept imperfection, the more joy you will give and receive. Your capacity for happiness depends on your capacity to accept imperfection -- not in words or theories, but in your emotional experience.

Only in accepting, let us say, an imperfect relationship - and this by no means implies the unhealthy submissiveness that is born out of fear of loss or disapproval - will you derive and give joy in the relationship. Only through accepting your own imperfection can you begin to grow and experience the joy that comes from your own individuality."

Your parents do not, and in fact not even your personality self that you think of as "you" does not, determine the validity of your existence, folks. Your right to exist, and your worthiness of that existence, and of unconditional love, is a hard-wired given, an inherent reality, because... you are an expression of All That Is. And All That Is is not only eternal (Therefore, you can never not exist.), but the essence of that Source energy is what we call "love," and as the FPL Truth About Everything, Part Two reminds us: All Love Is Unconditional.

So, let's go one step further and say that not only are you meant to be here, wherever and whenever you are in the now, but when it comes to your existence itself, well... you sort of have no choice. In the introduction to the very first Truth About Everything post, I reminded readers that the larger laws of our known Universe start with: "You exist."

You exist. You are meant to be here. Yes, you may create suffering, or you may create joy. You can embrace life or embrace fear, or even indulge in the idea of "death." But you cannot not exist, and you cannot be unworthy of unconditional love. Get over it!


An avid, and wise, FPL reader linked me to the Chopra Center website, and she said this to me: "The topic on Stress reads like you wrote it!"

Hey, maybe Deepak got the wording from me, or maybe I read his thoughts in advance because I've been using the exact analogy of the tiger for years. Either way, the Truth is the Truth, and everyone has access to it.

Here's the passage from Deepak:  

How the Body Works with Stress

Most of us aren’t even aware how much fear rules our lives, but our bodies reflect this truth. While fear is designed to be a healthy survival mechanism that triggers the fight-or-flight stress response when your life is in danger, the body can’t tell the difference between being chased by a tiger and having fearful thoughts about work, relationships, or money. Whether you’re about to be a tiger’s lunch or you’re having a fear-based thought about an imagined future, a stress response is activated, and the body is filled with stress hormones like cortisol and epinephrine.
But here’s the real kicker. The body is beautifully equipped with natural self-repair mechanisms that know how to fight cancer, prevent infection, ward off heart disease, and retard aging. But these self-repair mechanisms are turned off every time the body is in stress response. This wouldn’t be a problem if your body was only in stress response once or twice a week, since stress responses are only meant to last 90 seconds beyond when the threat to your life is over.
But this is not what happens. Modern-day humans experience over 50 stress responses per day—most of them stemming not from real threats to your life but from thoughts about imaginary threats that will most likely never come true.


Today's Thanksgiving Quote

"Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude."
Denis Waitley


I have spoken often about the concept of free will, and as in the "Serenity Prayer," what it actually means in the larger scheme of things, where it applies and where it doesn't. I've used the analogy of human beings as swimmers in a powerful river, said river being our Higher Self will, our destiny. One can exercise free will as a human being by swimming against the current, struggling, fighting, ultimately exhausting oneself, or one can turn around, and go with the flow, having a much smoother and faster time time of it on this trip called physical life.

The key point I've made, however, is that someone on the bank of the river would see that whether you're swimming against the current or going with the flow, either way, you're being taken downstream to your destination, which is self-actualization and awakening to the truth of your oneness with All That Is.

We are almost home, folks, almost at our destination, which is to wake up and remember who we are as conscious creators of our reality. We are coming to understand that the conflicts and limitations we've experienced for seemingly so long were just part of a mega-game we created. But now, arriving back home (And it's not necessary anymore to leave physical life to get there.), we can enjoy being human beings in the fullest, most ecstatic ways. That's why we came here in the first place.

Here's an eloquent description of the moment from "Oneness":

There would be no exultation in the discovery of the first tastes of limitlessness, were that experience not preceded by massive doses of the experience of limitation. The journey was designed, by you, to deliver you back to the beginning, but not before you were given every opportunity to experience fully what it was like to have ventured far from home. You embarked on this adventure fully confident that the signposts and maps would be there, at the appropriate moment, to enable you to return safely. For, you placed them there yourself, to await your own rediscovery, after an appropriate amount of time was provided for you to forget, totally, where they were hiding. Since this is your game, you structured it to be challenging and exciting, yet built in safeguards that would insure your safe return. At the deepest level, you know that there is no way you can fail at this. You will not be stranded for all eternity in the illusion of separation because you did not 'get it.' You have seen to that. You have simply programmed sufficient detours and side trips into the itinerary to insure the greatest possible sense of gratification in discovering that you are, at last, heading home. You are heading home whether you consciously subscribe to such ideas in the present time period or not. For the energy that propels you in that direction does not emanate from the limited perspective of your conscious physical identity, but rather, is being directed from a place of greater awareness that knows, like a loving parent, that you have been ‘out there’ long enough.”

Here's the Serenity Prayer with some revisions I've made for my meditation purposes. See if you can spot the changes and why I made them:

"God grants me the serenity to accept the things that my ego and lower self will cannot change; God grants me the courage and mindful intention and Higher Self Will to change the things I can; God grants me the Wisdom in my knowing of myself as Word to know the difference."




Come again, PL? Gratitude in advance?

Yes, that's right. We're conditioned to only experience gratitude for what has already happened, or for what is happening, but as Dr. Joe Dispenza is fond of saying...

"Gratitude is the highest form of receivership."

And that means...?

Dr. Joe, a neuroscientist, biochemist and doctor of chiropractic medicine, is on a very unique and powerful crusade to demonstrate the validity of all the truths and principles of mysticism, metaphysics and spirituality... through science, with evidence that even the guys in laboratories with white coats can see. So, when Dispenza says that gratitude is the highest form of receivership, he is not speaking metaphorically or poetically; he means that experiencing gratitude for what you are creating in the "quantum field of potentials" (in energy or "spirit" form) that hasn't yet manifested in physical form, in matter, is magnetized and drawn to you by the powerful emotion of gratitude.

So, here's how you do it -

You clear yourself of old beliefs and emotional addictions, through self-awareness, freeing up emotions, deep breathing and conscious intention. Then, you let go of your attachments to ideas of identity and to other people, places and things and enter the quantum field, where you are simply and powerfully pure consciousness. After resting in that void, which  so many irrationally fear, you then create in thought what you desire to experience in physical reality. And you stay there until you can actually feel what it would feel like to be in that life, until you feel the deep gratitude in your body for what is to come, before it's manifested in form. And then, of course, you let go and stay open.

It's what James Earl Jones' character meant in "Field of Dreams" when he said:

"Build it and they will come."

Create what you desire from a clear intention, with all sincerity... and it will come.


I want to say to any of my readers who haven't yet read (or listened to) this book... Eckhart Tolle's, "THE NEW EARTH"... do it now!

To those of you have been doing the deep self-work of self-actualization, and to those who frequently read this blog or have read books like "THE BIG LEAP," by Gay Hendricks, you will find a familiarity in Tolle's words, but his clear, direct and high vibrational way of articulating these truths is special.

Many teachers and writers who speak about consciousness mention three levels of consciousness, or three ways in which consciousness can flow into what you do and thus through you into this world. I have talked about the movement from "false clarity to genuine confusion to genuine clarity," while Hendricks refers to the "zones of competence, excellence and genius" in his paradigm. Tolle breaks it down as "acceptance, enjoyment and enthusiasm."

Here's Tolle:

"The modalities of awakened doing are acceptance, enjoyment, and enthusiasm. If you are not in the state of either acceptance, enjoyment, or enthusiasm, look closely and you will find that you are creating suffering for yourself and others. Whatever you cannot enjoy doing, changing a flat tire in the rain at night, for example, you can, nonetheless accept that this is what you have to do. Performing an action in the state of acceptance means you are at peace while you do it."

Yes, Eckhart. People often ask me questions about how one can apply Full Permission Living to mundane and distasteful tasks like washing a sink full of dirty dishes or a load of dirty diapers. I answer them by proposing a version of acceptance, or "surrender," giving yourself to the task at hand which must be done for certain reasons, such as desiring clean dishes and fresh baby butts. In the process of surrendering, you can find ways to make the tasks at hand less arduous. Play music, listen to a great audio book, indulge a pleasant fantasy... whatever works for you. It makes the task easier and you can speed up time in the process.

Here's Tolle again:

"The peace that comes with surrendered action turns to a sense of aliveness when you actually enjoy what you are doing. Joy is the dynamic aspect of Being. Joy does not come from what you do, it flows into what you do and thus into this world from deep within you. You will enjoy any activity in which you are fully present. The joy of Being is the joy of being conscious."

I love that line so much, Eckhart, I'm going to repeat it: 

"Joy does not come from what you do, it flows into what you do and thus into this world from deep within you."

Get it? True joy and en-joy-ment are what you experience when you are the vehicle, the empty vessel, the hollowed out flute that Sufi Master, Hafiz spoke of when he said:

“I am a hole in a flute that the Christ’s breath moves through.”

That is true egolessness, and anyone who has truly experienced joy has simultaneously experienced deep humility along with it because they know at some level that they are channeling something higher than their ego.

Back to Eckhart:

"Enthusiasm means there is deep enjoyment in what you do, plus the added element of a goal or vision that you work towards. This is why Ralph Waldo Emerson said that, 'Nothing great has ever been achieved without enthusiasm."

Careful, now, all of you rigid character structures! Having a goal/vision is not the same as having expectations, which are a function of the ego. 

Like Hendricks' "Zone of Genius," in which inspiration is the driving force, Tolle's enthusiasm is what I would describe as a "calling," a goal, in other words, that pulls you towards it, not a destination that you direct yourself towards with willfulness for the sake of inflating and supporting the ego and mask. In this place, you are at once surrendered, joyful and living your highest excitement, while expressing fully your generativity and benefitting everyone around you.

So, carve yourself into that flute, folks, and live your highest joy! 
Do that now, too!!

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