"Now you understand already that physical attraction is transitory and standards of beauty seem to change with every decade that passes. But the idealized self, that which you truly are, is eternal and that is the beauty, finally, that you need to be working on in refinement. And we will tell you this: When you are in love with the self that you are, you will call to you love from elsewhere. But it will be a matter of co-resonance and it is very, very different to be in love in that frequency and meet others in that frequency than to approach them from a place of need, or lack. And those are both based in fear."
Paul Selig (from his upcoming channeled book: The Book of Love and Creation)