At the beginning of 2013, in a piece entitled "IT'S 2013. WHICH EARTH ARE YOU ON?", the new rules of 5th Dimensional consciousness as they apply to daily life were outlined. It is useful to go over these rules regularly because even though everyone reading this blog now is in 5D, many are still struggling because they are trying to operate on 3D rules. (You can review the rules HERE.)
Rule number 2 stated:
"Creating your reality and its experiences from your emotions and your ego is obsolete."
Elaborating, I wrote that: "Creating your reality from the vibrations of your Higher Self, supported by and in collaboration with the human and universal collective, is the 5D way of living," and "that means, first of all, that you can get off the emotional rollercoaster ride of 3D."
Okay, sounds good, but what does that mean? And how do we do that?
Well, having taught for so long that "your feelings are your feelings" and all you need do is feel them fully to open the door to emotional health, what I'm about to say might sound contradictory and somewhat counterintuitive. But here it is -
You can now choose how to feel.
That's right. And I'm not talking about controlling or suppressing your feelings. Not at all. However, if you have gained access to your emotions, and to your inner beliefs, thought patterns and memories, through a self-work process that has freed you from your character structure to a great extent, then you can begin "deprogramming" yourself from the habitual ways you've thought about yourself and others, about love, work, about life in general. And since so many of our emotional states are precipitated by thoughts, changing your thought patterns will change how you feel.
Most of our old thought patterns and beliefs, especially the negative ones, have been on an automatic loop since childhood. "I'm not good enough." "I don't deserve for things to go my way." "There isn't enough (love, money, time) for me to get what I need." "If I'm too open (to love, pleasure, creative expression), I will be vulnerable to disappointment and hurt." On and on. These repetitive negative declarations then trigger negative emotions - fear, anger, sadness - which then seem to validate the negative belief. And when most of this is going on subconsciously, it seems as though your emotions just happen to you. You just "get depressed" or "find yourself" in a bad mood, grouchy or irritable for apparently no reason. Or you may even think you have a reason for your negativity - the audition that didn't lead to a booking, the job that didn't lead to prosperity, or the sexual experience that didn't lead to an orgasm.
But the truth is, it's not your actual experiences leading you to the negative emotional states. Experiences inherently are neutral until you define them (Read the wonderful children's book, "That's Good! That's Bad!" by Margey Cuyler, for reference.). It's what you're saying to yourself about the events in question, how you're defining the experiences to yourself that's causing you to feel bad.
But... if you've done the self-work necessary to break through your character structure, especially now, in 5D consciousness, where your Higher Self can come through you most effectively, those negative thoughts are conscious to you and you can literally change them.
First, by acknowledging them as there in your mind consciously, and then, releasing the feelings that they've engendered, preferably through a process that involves expressing emotions with the body;
Second, by not identifying with the negative thoughts, but rather, understanding that they represent the defensive ideas and mental patterns created by the ego, which was created by the child, in childhood, and as such, are not really valid for you an adult;
Third, redefine your experiences and situations in terms that you prefer. So, for example, "I didn't get that part because I'm not good enough," becomes "That role wasn't the best way at this time for me to express myself creatively." Or even simpler, the formerly negative, repetitive statements can be changed into open-ended questions like "I wonder what this will lead to?" "I wonder how this door closing will lead to another one opening?"
Fourth, having done the first three, allowing your Higher Self and your oneness with All That Is to come through you and create your reality in as unfiltered a way as possible (i.e. - without your ego involved.).
When you are free from unconsciousness, you have choices, folks. Always. But the journey to freedom requires determination and intention - first to do whatever it takes to break through your character structure, and then, once that's accomplished, to develop a regimen to shift your patterns of thought so you are no longer keeping yourself in a negative emotional climate.
It's a lot of work, yes, and it's hard, yes, but so is climbing Mount Everest or winning the World Series or learning to play the piano or keeping the Eros going in a relationship. Yet, these experiences are also exhilarating and worth it.
The pay-off is great; the work is hard...
"That's good! That's bad!"