Many people who come to understand that we create our own reality in each moment of our lives, find it confusing when I tell them that we also have destinies that we came to fulfill, destinies that are almost impossible to thwart. Here's a great passage from a channeled lecture by one Darryl Ankar, channeling "Bashar":
"Walk down that path, you will, as a physical being. That is a choice you have made from another level, and it will be felt like 'destiny' on the physical world. But how you walk down that path is up to the free will of the physical mind. You can walk down it anyway you want - happy, sad, backwards, forwards, upside down, rightside up, with whom you want, without whom you want. How you walk down it is up to you. But walk down it, you will!"